Mrlonelyone Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 This may sound like a bizzare question. One may even say that if I have to ask the answer is no. But hear me out. There has been emotional and a degree of physical intimacy between me and my lady friend. I have met their family and they have agreed to meet my family. At that point can I finally say I am in a perhaps not yet exclusive relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 IMO, it's when you and she feel, and your public presence indicates and is acknowledged as you and she being a couple. In your case, girlfriends/partners. For myself, this is indicated when I introduce my 'lady friend' as my 'girlfriend', 'partner', 'fiance', or 'wife' to those I interact with in public. There is no ambiguity. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mrlonelyone Posted April 20, 2013 Author Share Posted April 20, 2013 (edited) IMO, it's when you and she feel, and your public presence indicates and is acknowledged as you and she being a couple. In your case, girlfriends/partners. For myself, this is indicated when I introduce my 'lady friend' as my 'girlfriend', 'partner', 'fiance', or 'wife' to those I interact with in public. There is no ambiguity. Well I guess that says it. We have both stopped just short of saying that about each other, publically. On the other hand Sydney Portier coming to dinner made it darn official. Edited April 20, 2013 by Mrlonelyone Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 I do think you still must have a ways to go if you don't know the answer … Don't you want to get this out in the open with the person herself? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mrlonelyone Posted April 20, 2013 Author Share Posted April 20, 2013 I do think you still must have a ways to go if you don't know the answer … Don't you want to get this out in the open with the person herself? Well she and I both hate these "serious" conversations. I mean meeting someone's parents is a big huge deal right there. Their agreeing to meet mine, plus everything else should be enough to say yes we are in a RLship. Saying they would meet my folks says it without saying it...we are in a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 I've known a lot of women's parents. A few have known mine. Those few were properly introduced as either a 'close friend' (true, as I've had some close platonic female friends) or 'girlfriend', as in 'Mom, this is xxxx, my girlfriend'. IMO, if you feel like a couple, talk about it and put it out there. What's to fear? Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 Well she and I both hate these "serious" conversations. I mean meeting someone's parents is a big huge deal right there. Their agreeing to meet mine, plus everything else should be enough to say yes we are in a RLship. Saying they would meet my folks says it without saying it...we are in a relationship. I'm not intending to burst your bubble, at all - but you wouldn't believe how many guys who were not my boyfriends were introduced to my parents; had dinner with my family, etc. Maybe you ARE in a relationship, but I have to ask you - why "say it without saying it"? If you ARE in a relationship, this is the kind of thing that would be talked about between the two people, and that's what I hope you'll do. And I hope you ARE in one, since I know it's what you truly want. And yes, it sounds promising. So don't be scared. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mrlonelyone Posted April 20, 2013 Author Share Posted April 20, 2013 (edited) I hear what you are saying. We will have to have a specifically relationship defining convo eventually. My bubble is quite intact. We are certainly not platonic friends or anything of the sort. I will see how well she interacts with my friends and family then, a conversation will be in order. Edited April 20, 2013 by Mrlonelyone Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mrlonelyone Posted April 20, 2013 Author Share Posted April 20, 2013 I've known a lot of women's parents. A few have known mine. Those few were properly introduced as either a 'close friend' (true, as I've had some close platonic female friends) or 'girlfriend', as in 'Mom, this is xxxx, my girlfriend'. IMO, if you feel like a couple, talk about it and put it out there. What's to fear? Well strange as it sounds I don't want to rush things. Asking for officialness and such too soon can be a big turn off. I am a strong believe in the doctrine which says that the woman should hint that she wants that. Which may happen after she meets my people. Link to post Share on other sites
TheBigQuestion Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 If you have to ask, you probably aren't. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 I am a strong believe in the doctrine which says that the woman should hint that she wants that. I was operating under that premise and presuming you are identifying as a woman in this relationship. Incorrect? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mrlonelyone Posted April 20, 2013 Author Share Posted April 20, 2013 I was operating under that premise and presuming you are identifying as a woman in this relationship. Incorrect? When I am in a relationship/dating a biological woman I treat it as heterosexual. My gender behavior just isn't binary. Think David Bowie. Link to post Share on other sites
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