Buttercup84 Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 When a guy says he wants a girl who is " sweet, innocent and girl next door " does that mean that he wants a girl who keeps her mouth shut ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Buttercup84 Posted April 20, 2013 Author Share Posted April 20, 2013 He is the one who wants my friends to invite me to his bbq. I am a nice girl, down to earth etc. But innocent ? Not at all. I find the innocent remark a bit weird, makes me think of children. Link to post Share on other sites
Archgirl Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 It sounds like he prefers 'em docile, submissive n non-threatening. Betcha he's a control freak. Or else he's utter balls or really kinky in the bedroom and wants someone inexperienced enough who won't know the diff No seriously I have no idea, gimme the full story- as much deets as you can and I'll do my best!! xoxo 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Buttercup84 Posted April 20, 2013 Author Share Posted April 20, 2013 Haha. My thoughts exactly. Well I met him through friends, we just spoke at a bar for a bit. He was nice, my friend says he is sweet and respectful. She keeps hinting that I should go for him. But judging by her choice in men... not sure. I talked to him and asked him what he looks for in a girl, and he told me that. Plus he said that he really hates being single. I said he needs to be happy being alone and enjoy it while it lasts. I am lonely sometimes, but not unhappy. I was not attracted to him, but got thinking about it as he wants me to come to his bbq. Thanks for your reply x 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Archgirl Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 Haha. My thoughts exactly. Well I met him through friends, we just spoke at a bar for a bit. He was nice, my friend says he is sweet and respectful. She keeps hinting that I should go for him. But judging by her choice in men... not sure. I talked to him and asked him what he looks for in a girl, and he told me that. Plus he said that he really hates being single. I said he needs to be happy being alone and enjoy it while it lasts. I am lonely sometimes, but not unhappy. I was not attracted to him, but got thinking about it as he wants me to come to his bbq. Thanks for your reply x Oh dude the answer is simple then! Go to his BBQ with your flirtiest GF and network - you cannot pass up the opportunity for entre into a whole new social group potentially filled with cute single guys! He may have also just said that because he thinks that is what women want to hear and what he really wants is someone like you. I think it's potentially not significant. But what is your firends taste in men? That may have a bearing. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Buttercup84 Posted April 20, 2013 Author Share Posted April 20, 2013 Ha, will do. I enjoy a good flirt and think it would be fun. Her boyfriend stole from her, said he will punch her and called her ****ing fat. And they got engaged after two weeks. But his friends seem different, thr guy I talked about is his friend ( but not close ). Btw, printing out your advice from the other thread about dating. Bes advice on dating I heard in ages. So need to do it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Archgirl Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 (edited) Ha, will do. I enjoy a good flirt and think it would be fun. Her boyfriend stole from her, said he will punch her and called her ****ing fat. And they got engaged after two weeks. But his friends seem different, thr guy I talked about is his friend ( but not close ). Btw, printing out your advice from the other thread about dating. Bes advice on dating I heard in ages. So need to do it. Yeah ok so she's not the go to girl for man selection Hey thanks!! I'm actually just really glad to share it with someone who finds it useful Man I had so many rules like that though, worked out through trial and error. Like I quickly learnt to agree to plans with other people for the weekend so that I didn't have any expectation of seeing him/didn't end up relying on him making a date - coz you know they always ask you at the last minute! It became obvious that me doing this had the additional benefit of training them to plan dates ahead too - like after not being available twice in a row the next time they always ask at least three days ahead. So that strategy went straight in the rule book!! Edited April 20, 2013 by Archgirl 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Sunshine87 Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 I never quite understood what people meant when they refer to females as "innocent"..... Does innocent = virgin"? Does innocent= little number of sexual partners"? If for example, a woman has had one sexual partner for many years, but engaged in a lot of risqué things with this partner, is she still innocent? I understand that most men don't want a promiscuous woman and some men, especially where I live, prefer conservative women. But innocent? Innocent to me means a woman with no "carnal" knowledge - so pretty much a virgin. Ild infer however, that he prefers women who are kind of shy, smile a lot, reserved, traditional, quiet etc. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Sunshine87 Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 ......and maybe "gooey eyed" People say I "look innocent" :confused: Link to post Share on other sites
Sunshine87 Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 Click on the link below Urban Dictionary: girl-next-door Link to post Share on other sites
Ninjainpajamas Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 This guy is essentially looking for a more conservative, less promiscuous kind of girl that isn't really the social butterfly or party girl...judging from his explanation. I don't know if he'd want someone necessarily out of his "control", hey may, but he might not just want someone who shares different values. And maybe to him you looked like the "type". I have a feeling this isn't going to be a good much when it comes to values. You can go to the bbq, just make sure to bring me some ribs, then at least it won't be a complete failure no matter what happens. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Buttercup84 Posted April 20, 2013 Author Share Posted April 20, 2013 Reading your replies, I come to realize that I am so not for him. So Buttercups adventure continues... Thanks for all the replies. You guys rock x 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 (edited) I do not know many guys, sorry hehe. I am going mainly because I want to meet new people. I am so not the innocent type though, too outspoken and while my party days are behind me, I am social. Xx If that's you in the avatar, i could see why he thought you would be the 'innocent' type [probably your friend said something too]. I get a 'wholesome' vibe from it, kinda like Charlotte in Sex and the City. You view yourself as not innocent, but that's with your full knowledge of your past actions and interractions. He will go off on how you look, how you act, and what your gf said about you ... and if she had a vested interest in you two hooking up ... Plus your chosen username. Hi-5 We come from neighboring countries and our cats both weigh 15lbs Yup ! Except that my cat weighs 15lbs in the winter, when they plump up, while your cat weighs 15lbs in what i can only suspect is a perrenial summer. Edited April 20, 2013 by Radu Link to post Share on other sites
Archgirl Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 OMG Archie, you are deffinitely the type of girl i need to avoid in dating, the game player. PS: Buttercup, can you send some guys to LS from aussie land ? Too many girls, we can give you archnut back if you want. I'm not really, but I am smart and perceptive and I quickly worked out how to protect myself in the dating world and how to behave in a way that was consistent with retaining my self-respect and emotional integrity and thereby have the dating experience I wanted and have the outcomes I wanted. It's not called being a game player, it's called being freakin awesome I tell other chicks about these strategies and rules I used to follow when new to dating because I see to many chicks giving all their power and sense of self over to the approval of guys and getting their hearts broken and I want to help pass on what I have learnt. Because it works. And after a while you don't need rules because you naturally behave in a way that is consistent with being a confident, independant, emotionally well adjusted desirable woman. And believe me, the men of Australia are already pretty damn thankful I'm here. It's the rest of the world that's missing out. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Buttercup84 Posted April 20, 2013 Author Share Posted April 20, 2013 Really ? Thanks haha. I get that a lot, until people get to know me 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 Tbh, your answers were good, scary good ... and it shows a different side than the one on OTT. Why don't you post in that thread i started a while back in the dating section with your past relationships and what you learned from them ? This one - http://www.loveshack.org/forums/general/general-relationship-discussion/384993-female-personality-dating-guys-answer If it's too long, you don't need to read it fully. Link to post Share on other sites
Archgirl Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 (edited) Tbh, your answers were good, scary good ... and it shows a different side than the one on OTT. Why don't you post in that thread i started a while back in the dating section with your past relationships and what you learned from them ? This one - http://www.loveshack.org/forums/general/general-relationship-discussion/384993-female-personality-dating-guys-answer If it's too long, you don't need to read it fully. Thankyou. It's still all me dude I just have layers. and why should I post female dating stategies to a thread where guys post what they like in a chick? But I will go read it coz you were nice. Edit: the last guy who posted on that thread just described me to a t!! Edited April 20, 2013 by Archgirl Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 Thankyou. It's still all me dude I just have layers. and why should I post female dating stategies to a thread where guys post what they like in a chick? But I will go read it coz you were nice. It was supposed to say 'female help answer'. But you can't put 'help' in a thread title apparently, and i couldn't change the brackets part in time to something else after posting. Link to post Share on other sites
ChessPieceFace Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 I'd interpret it as "morally upstanding", sexual or otherwise. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Buttercup84 Posted April 20, 2013 Author Share Posted April 20, 2013 Arch is awesome. Her advice is a wake up call and makes sense. I see how I acted in the past and attracted the wrong guys and scared guys off that I liked. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
legaljoh Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 Sunshine87, your observation is wise. It's hard to figure out what "innocent girl" means to different people. For example, to me it means a bright and intelligent girl or woman. Yet, at the same time someone who's trusting of her dream man - of course, not of everyone. By the way, where do you live? Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 I think innocent means... capable of a conservative, lady-like demeanor in public - transforms into a wonderful slut in the bedroom. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 You should go and meet him anyway. A lot of time guys are dumb and have little clue what they're actually looking for in a woman. Just say what they think others want to hear. Maybe he'll find your outspokenness charming, or maybe you'll end up not hitting it off and mingling with other people eating BBQ. Either option doesn't sound too terrible to me. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Buttercup84 Posted April 20, 2013 Author Share Posted April 20, 2013 You should go and meet him anyway. A lot of time guys are dumb and have little clue what they're actually looking for in a woman. Just say what they think others want to hear. Maybe he'll find your outspokenness charming, or maybe you'll end up not hitting it off and mingling with other people eating BBQ. Either option doesn't sound too terrible to me. I do love food, and he has a hot tub. I could eat the ribs in the hot tub ! Now I really want to go. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Archgirl Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 I do love food, and he has a hot tub. I could eat the ribs in the hot tub ! Now I really want to go. Can I come too!!?!?!?! I'll be the flirty friend! :bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
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