Stevan Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 My dad used fear, guilt, intimidation, blaming, and manipulation to control my whole family. He's poisonous--the kind of person who has you doubting your own perceptions and beliefs. Life with him was a rollercoaster--up and down, for years and years. He'd rage and snarl one minute, and then apologize the next, and expect you to forget all about it. The constant instability and insecurity eventually rendered me completely numb. I can forgive him, if only for my own sanity, so that I'm not eaten up with bitterness. But I will never forget what he did, and I will never allow him back into my life... Link to post Share on other sites
TigerCub Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 Hi Stevan, It's always so sad when parents are like that. They create such an unstable and unsafe environment and their actions follow and even mold their children I completely understand that you will never forget what he's done to you. I applaud you for wanting to forgive for your own wellbeing and sanity. You mentioned that you won't let him back into your life - so I guess that means you no longer live with him. How old are you? If you're out of his grasp and abuse, I am happy for you about that. Have you sought out any therapy yo help you heal from your past? I wish you all the best. Link to post Share on other sites
DaSkullCrusher Posted April 26, 2013 Share Posted April 26, 2013 Hey Buddy, Look up Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families. I also had a rough upbringing. This will help a lot if you research and follow through with the material. Link to post Share on other sites
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