best friend or lover??

[insearchof]

old "best friend" says she misses me...she currently has a bf but she tells me she is having problems with him.....i asked her out before...awhile back....but now everyday through text she says she misses me and the other day she said "sometimes i think i shoulda went out with you"....i told her i was at a loss for words cause i still really do like this girl...i just dont know what to think of it.....does she wanna be with me? or.........? liek the other day she said she doesnt know whats gonan become of her and her boyfriend and i was like "well that not good" and she was like...."ah..just more time for me and you"...i mean...i dont know what she wants....to be with me as a best friend again...cause we always use to hang out...or does she wanna go out with me.....what do you think??

[emra]

It is hard to say. Maybe she needs you to be the reason to get away from the person she is with. Not some much the other man, or a rebound, the push to get away, which if that is the case, it is hard to make that work.

I have said those words, only to work the courage up to leave and then along the way, totally broke someone's heart that had been in love with me for 5 years. I crossed a line. And it was a selfish thing to do.

Be careful whatever you do.

[OneofYellowSoul]

Well I am living in a daytime drama, So I went to this bourding school and met some neat kids but still hadn't met "anyone" I was fourteen and had never had a crush. So I go and ofcourse no one "likes me that way" and it's mutual so I guess it wasn't bad but I know many hopless romantics at the school and sorta wish I could say I had a someone. I actually had my sexual orientation up in the air for a while and it was a crazy time and then a buch of students come mid-year and one of them is going to be this girls roomie, she and I are close friends and so I figured that this new girl was going to make it hard to spend time with her. She did, I walked into the room to introduce my self and I actually saw the future... I wouldn't say I saw it actually, but I knew she was the one I was so worried I'd never find, that all important first crush. That feeling however was supersedede by an intense feeling of emminent heartbreak. I was naturally confused and so I decided to sorta ignore it and just keep going. She started a relationship her first day, with this kid who was nineteen to her fifteen and therefore presented problems. The relationship was short lived and rocky and I helped her through it though she did lie to me about things that I don't understand, saying she feared for her life and and that she was a virgin and a bunch of other werid things that weren't true... I still get jarred from that night. Anyway after him she was alone and then started to go out with his roomie, so that I was now in a love square, her, man one, man two and me who didn't even have feelings for her yet. She is still happy with man two but obviously I'm up several creeks... and I lost my boat, she sorta holds the role of Best Friend, Love Interest, Heartbreaker and Girlfriend to my good friend. I am so confused... and sometimes I even think back to the some things that happened and I sorta get the feeling that if I was to have taken more initiative I might of had a shot... but now I seem to be in the "big brother" role to her and "more than a boyfriend ever could be" she spent all summer with him, going to his house and having him vist, she spent no time with me at school just with him and all the time insisting that I was important... she seems to have managed to do everything that could hurt me, and he doesn't even treat her well, he insults her and let's her smoke underage, he stops everybody else not her, I just visited them all at the school and she started having chest pains and wheezing and that was only from them playing a video game for two hours.

 

In short I am confused and worried about her and can't really keep from talking to her because I do love her... but everything she does hurts me... hope that makes sense... and I must say that the problem your having amounts to teasing... trust me.... seeing as not one individual I know would consider possibly warming up to me they all tease me... you just so happen to be unable to take it well, I feel your pain, hope you can help me with mine.