CurlyIam Posted September 21, 2004 Share Posted September 21, 2004 You can tell me if I'm being nosy: did she ever told you of having persued this type of action? I mean, theoretically, I understand a man agreeing to this type of freedom, but practically, I've never seen it. Link to post Share on other sites
Jilly10340 Posted September 22, 2004 Share Posted September 22, 2004 I'd have to drop the guy for a one last fling. Cheating is cheating. And cheating to me is anything you wouldn't do with your b/f g/f standing in front of you. Besides, why the start the marriage on that note: "I do" - but I also did the stripper last night by the way. I don't think so. Link to post Share on other sites
katie79 Posted September 22, 2004 Share Posted September 22, 2004 Spoil his fun? Controlling? You were "allowed" to have oral sex with the hookers, that's you and your wife's biz. But some people don't like having their soon-to-be-husband having his d***k sucked by some hoe. I doubt my fiancee would want me to get eaten out by some gay aids ridden male stripper before I say "I do." Did you "allow" your wife to have oral/vaginal sex w/male strippers. Would it have bothered if she went out the night before your wedding and had sex with some guy? Stumpt-That's good you did what you did. It's not controlling, although personally, I think you should have left him for planning on that. If you don't trust him anyway, that's bad. Do you wonder what your marriage will be like with him? When he goes out drinkin' with his buddies and a slutty girl hits on him, he might act on his temtations. Years of marriage and watching you get pregnant, older, etc wont stop him. Think about that. He might be a bad idea. For all of you... This subject, all the forums of cheating in different ways, are really scaring me. After reading this, I don't know if I want to get married. Since this is somewhat annonymous, you wonder what your spouse would admit to on here. Maybe people shouldn't get married. Maybe marriage is a bad choice for all people. Why would you vow to someone to be faithful if you already haven't? Just have a relationship with them and when it gets boring and you crave someone else, dump the other person and go with the new. These bachelor parties are making me wonder what my fiancee would do. I think if he ever cheated--yes BJ's count, so does deep kissing and fondling, I would dump his a$$. After that, I would never want to get engaged again. Personally, I trust him, and I know he wouldn't do that (at least I think so!), but his friends are losers and prob would take him to a strip club and force him into something. He's guilable like that. That's what worries me. not to mention, I know men feel a great deal of pressure not to look like a pussy when their male friends are rooting for them in a large crowd to do something. Link to post Share on other sites
Jilly10340 Posted September 22, 2004 Share Posted September 22, 2004 My number one fear in a relationship is the bachelor party. Even the nicest guy can do something stupid. I'm not even engaged and I'm still afraid of that coming up. Is it so common place for guys at bachelor parties to either get danced all over by some half naked whore or just sleep with someone else completely? Is there any guys out there that were freakish faithful to their wife at their bachelor party? Link to post Share on other sites
katie79 Posted September 22, 2004 Share Posted September 22, 2004 how would you feel if this all came back to you? Cheating I find always does. What goes around comes around. The worst part about women is when they do cheat, it's rare their husband finds out or has even a clue. They look like fools for the most part. You sound like your "Controlled" more than most men if anything. "Being ALLOWED" to have oral from other women? She's made a choice for whether or not YOU can cheat at your ba party? If she said you couldn't, would you have? YOu did what she TOLD YOU TO DO in the first place. You couldn't say "no, I am not interested in that?" Sex and love are different. But with love, you don't have SEX for fun w/someone else. We are all attracted to others when in a relationship. It's normal to fantacise, but acting on it is a different story. I don't want to come down (excuse the pun) on you too much, all do respect, I don't know you, but from what you said, you don't sound like a respectable partner to your wife. Link to post Share on other sites
Jilly10340 Posted September 22, 2004 Share Posted September 22, 2004 I'm thinking that Katie has a point. You're wife did tell you to get oral at your bachelor party and you did. If she told you to go ahead and have sex with the hooker would you of? Link to post Share on other sites
sun1 Posted October 2, 2004 Share Posted October 2, 2004 I thing it depends of how you define "final fling". I've seen woman on their bachelorette parties bar hopping and kissing/flirting with guys as their fling and dont have a problem with it. I dont think they take it seriously and its just fun. I didnt have a problem with my wife going to bars with her friends on her night - I went to a different city with my friends and had a blast. I didnt sleep with another woman or feel the need to, much less pay someone to sleep with me. In todays society, most of us have had different partners and know what we are getting or "missing out on" when getting married. Personally I think sleeping with someone becouse you are getting married soon is just an excuse - just come out and say what you want. Link to post Share on other sites
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