Finally Settled Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 I think this is a great letter. However, before I can really understand it, please clear up some contradictions. First , in another thread you say the OW ended the affair. In this letter you make it sound like you went NC with no explanation. Second, you say "I hope one day you'll be able to forgive me and find someone who is worthy of your love." But, in multiple places you say you are divorced and with the OW now. I want to take you at your word, but these points need to be explained before anyone can really find your words helpful. Thank you so much and I look forward to your response. I've actually responded to another and hopefully you will have your answers. I will also apologize to you for having not answered in a more timely fashion. If you have further questions do feel free to ask. Link to post Share on other sites
Praying4Peace Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 Hi FinallySettled- Thanks for sharing. I hope your family member that is ill is doing better. From what you described you had a Dday and then took the affair underground for 1.5 years? When she left at the end of that period did you try and reconcile and go No Contact? FWIW I think you are really brave to share. Link to post Share on other sites
Finally Settled Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 Hi FinallySettled- Thanks for sharing. I hope your family member that is ill is doing better. From what you described you had a Dday and then took the affair underground for 1.5 years? When she left at the end of that period did you try and reconcile and go No Contact? FWIW I think you are really brave to share. Thank you Praying4Peace, it is my mother and she is now home resting comfortably. I appreciate your kindness. We did have a discovery, but nothing between my other woman and I changed once we reconnected. When she ended the affair she was strictly no contact with me, but I was weak. I tried various forms of contact and she never responded until she opened an email after I had left my exwife. A second of being brave in a lifetime of being a coward. Thank you for the sentiment though. Link to post Share on other sites
Praying4Peace Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 FinallySettled- You should be proud of yourself. Not because you hurt people, not because you left your wife, but because you did something brave that you thought you couldn't do. I feel like the men that leave their marriages get bashed here and the women that leave are applauded because they 'let him go..let him find what he deserves.' I might be generalizing, that's just how I feel. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
bellasue Posted May 4, 2013 Share Posted May 4, 2013 Dear Dickwad, I know today you are off on your grand vacation with your wife and grown daughter. That actually is a relief to me since it means I don't need to worry about running into you or your perfect wife. My heart is broken. I know you don't give a s&^%. I want more than anything to have my dearest friend back. But I know that is no longer possible. Enjoy your perfect life. Link to post Share on other sites
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