Author youngnlove89 Posted April 24, 2013 Author Share Posted April 24, 2013 For the first time I can say LOL and actually mean it! I instead wrote him back on a Word Document but DID NOT send it. I just did it for myself because I felt like I needed to say something. I feel better now that I got it out my system, tears and all. Seriously though, I don't know what I would do without all of your support and you guys helping me make the right decision. I appreciate it, so thank you everyone. And no, I am not a writer, well not professionally at least. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author youngnlove89 Posted April 24, 2013 Author Share Posted April 24, 2013 That letter he sent you seems so full of sh.t It's 80% guilt trip, 10% him kissing his own ass about his great goal setting, how he has all this money for a down payment and 10% emotional fluff mixed with bait for you to reply. Don't reply unless you're compelled too? "Well f*ck if you didn't make me have all these tears because I feel so bad for leaving you because you couldn't commit I wouldn't want to write back." You should write back something like, "Hmm... Thanks for your email... I guess. It's nice that you shared some of 'you' with me but what I want/need for a proper relationship hasn't changed." Yes it is full of **** now that you mention it that way. The email was all about him as if to shove it in my face. Although, I appreciate your opinion, I do think (after all the responses I've gotten) that no contact is the right thing to do. He doesn't deserve a response back, whether it be F*** off or a nice cordial reply. For 2 years I responded to him every time, for 2 years I have poured my heart out to him, for 2 years I have given everything I have for him, and now I'm done. Sometimes you just got to know when enough is enough and let it go and move on. Then they'll realize you're not the person they thought you were. You're better. 9 Link to post Share on other sites
ThatJustHappened Posted April 24, 2013 Share Posted April 24, 2013 For the first time I can say LOL and actually mean it! I instead wrote him back on a Word Document but DID NOT send it. I just did it for myself because I felt like I needed to say something. I feel better now that I got it out my system, tears and all. Seriously though, I don't know what I would do without all of your support and you guys helping me make the right decision. I appreciate it, so thank you everyone. And no, I am not a writer, well not professionally at least. Consider the possibility. You have a way with words. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Am4Real Posted April 24, 2013 Share Posted April 24, 2013 That a' girl. You are on track now. Post advising you with "click me" and other messages are nothing other than immature and bowing down to his need to "poke" you. Remember that analogy. I'm very proud of you and happy for your decision. You seem sure! Once you are sure, you will know what to do and not amount of calls, text, or pokes from him will make you feel guilty because you are "sure". Although, I appreciate your opinion, I do think (after all the responses I've gotten) that no contact is the right thing to do. He doesn't deserve a response back, whether it be F*** off or a nice cordial reply. For 2 years I responded to him every time, for 2 years I have poured my heart out to him, for 2 years I have given everything I have for him, and now I'm done. Link to post Share on other sites
Author youngnlove89 Posted April 24, 2013 Author Share Posted April 24, 2013 Only when you are positive, will you receive positive outcomes. I'm not afraid of meeting someone else, because I know I will. I'm not afraid of never being happy again, because I know I will be. Life is too short to not appreciate things and it can ALWAYS be worse. My ex and I ended on a very mature level with no negativity and name calling, I am thankful for that. It's nice to walk away from something without regret or shame. Of course I will miss him, of course I'll have my bad days, but in the end it's for the better. That's what helps me sleep at night. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Am4Real Posted April 24, 2013 Share Posted April 24, 2013 Dear L&L, If I missed it as a sarcastic joke then you have my sincere apologies. I am sorry. For youngnlove and her dilemma, you may have noticed she has been living a life with this young man of near subservience. She is always at his whim and has only recently found herself and become sure of herself as a young woman. If she would respond to him in anyway, no matter the temptation, she would again be subservient to this "boys" control over her emotions. She has been on one hell of a roller-coaster. Hence me taking notice of her progress with maintaining control and being sure of her determination to break free from his grasps. Again, sorry if I missed the point of sarcasm. You have my respect and apology. I think you missed the way over the top sarcasm of the "Click me" message. The intent was for younglove89 and the rest of us to laugh. Even though she wouldn't ever send (nor was that even the intent)... It's the attitude / mindset that many of us have regarding BS breadcrumbs the dumpers throw our way. It helps to laugh and make light of the things that our Exes and we do after a break up. At least for me, it does. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
EmptyWalls Posted April 24, 2013 Share Posted April 24, 2013 Wrong. If she says anything, it should be this... Click Me! How do I feel? What do I say? F U and it all goes away. Think ill copy and paste that link just in case I need it, lol. In all seriousness silence and moving on is the best killer though. Until they block you in your own parking lot and force you to talk to them.... nvm. Glad to hear your doing well young, hang in there. Think ill go have be some sherbert ice cream and watch toy story 3. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author youngnlove89 Posted April 24, 2013 Author Share Posted April 24, 2013 (edited) Both L&L and Am4Real, have been huge help to me and true gentlemen and have given great advice. Along with Katzee and the rest of you to whom I haven't mentioned, I appreciate each unique response whether it is mentioned as right or wrong. I take into consideration everybody's feelings on my subject and feel thankful to have your time to give me a response to my own crazy story. I don't think anybody should apologize for being honest and saying what they feel. Without all of you, I would have probably contacted him and fallen to his feet. I have you all to thank for my perseverance that I've been able to maintain as of late and the diligence in this crippling heartbreak of an emotionally unavailable man. Dear L&L, If I missed it as a sarcastic joke then you have my sincere apologies. I am sorry. For youngnlove and her dilemma, you may have noticed she has been living a life with this young man of near subservience. She is always at his whim and has only recently found herself and become sure of herself as a young woman. If she would respond to him in anyway, no matter the temptation, she would again be subservient to this "boys" control over her emotions. She has been on one hell of a roller-coaster. Hence me taking notice of her progress with maintaining control and being sure of her determination to break free from his grasps. Again, sorry if I missed the point of sarcasm. You have my respect and apology. Edited April 24, 2013 by youngnlove89 Link to post Share on other sites
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