Trying to Move on, Can't Stop Thinking of Her

[fiftyofsomethin]

Well, to be honest, it's not that I don't understand it, it's just that, up until now, I hadn't implemented it fully. I am now going to completely remove her from FB, unfriend her.

 

Unfortunately, right now my biggest concern isn't even so much her as it is my concentration. No doubt she didn't help my concentration, but still.

 

I'm taking it a couple of steps at a time. I know I will get through this, but unfortunately even with blocking her on Facebook, I still see her often in school, and that is where the most pain is.

 

I just need to soldier on.

[fiftyofsomethin]

Well today has been pretty damn good today.

 

I have been able to implement all the things I said I would and today I killed it on my presentation in a class, laughed and enjoyed the company of some friends in a lunch period I haven't been in for a while.

 

Things just might get better.

[fiftyofsomethin]

Hey guys, I actually feel like I made some seriously good progress the other day, but I will spare you the details as I have something else to ask about.

 

I know how serious NC is, I know you should never break it because you can prolong your pain, yaddyaddyadda.

 

I actually have done a damn good job I think lately since I unfriended her on fb and deleted her number, but now my therapist is telling me that I need to contact her.

 

He is telling me something contrary to the old "ignorance is best" method that I tried to use. He is telling me rather than just ignoring the reasons why she is acting how she is with me right now (very... well... b itchy) I should actually confront her in person and talk to her about how things are right now.

 

Just as a refresher, since the breakup she has gotten more and more distant from me, I have made no effort or attempt to contact her or even say anything to her yet she is constantly trying to make it clearer and clearer that we are over. It's as if she is trying to build up her pride in thinking that I am trying to get back with her even though I'm not. Bigger and better things for me.

 

So basically I'm just asking for your input guys. Do I listen to what a million online amateur therapists tell me? Or do I listen to what one professional therapist of 30 years tells me?