Why are white nerdy guys so into Asian women?

[Woggle]

For the same reason white women like black and latino men. While black and latino men in many women's eyes exude the masculinity that drives women wild asian women in many men's eyes exude the kind of femininity that drives men wild. I prefer Italian, Latin and women from those regions but that is me.

[StanMusial]

It might be related to where you live. In SF, CA for instance you couldn't swing a dead cat and not hit an Asian.

[Cogee]

It might be related to where you live. In SF, CA for instance you couldn't swing a dead cat and not hit an Asian.

 

Yes, I've noticed that too especially when traveling for conferences. It seems that I can pretty much guarantee, at least in the Canadian conferences I've been to, nearly all of the women in the field are Asian except when it comes to some of the central provinces (like Alberta).

[coltsfan1]

I work in science and technology fields & I find many woman of all types to be pleasing to my eyes. I have dated 2 Asian gals but neither cold hold my attention for long. I prefer white woman with dark hair, but I might be the exception to the rule. As I don't game or have other stereotypical hobbies most of my work friends have. I am tattooed, ride a harley, and I don't even own a gaming system.

 

Its just preference and what woman are around and available.

[StanMusial]

I work in science and technology fields & I find many woman of all types to be pleasing to my eyes. I have dated 2 Asian gals but neither cold hold my attention for long. I prefer white woman with dark hair, but I might be the exception to the rule. As I don't game or have other stereotypical hobbies most of my work friends have. I am tattooed, ride a harley, and I don't even own a gaming system.

 

Its just preference and what woman are around and available.

 

I work in IT.

 

I don't own a gaming console either.

 

When I mention my deer hunting or finding a part for my tractor my colleagues look at me like I'm an alien.

[rocketboy9]

I have read stuff about the Beta male thing being the reason. Not sure I agree, I think its who they come in contact with. Most of these guys are not into bars, not athletic and are into how shall we say "different" hobbies. Nothing wrong with that but generally you dont see white women around fields like engineering, math, etc... Whatever women they do come in contact for the most part are Asian.

 

I think that has a lot to do with it more than anything else. I have been at hard core engineering companies and there are little to no women. Whatever women you do encounter are usually Asian. Whatever ones you do see are usually in marketing, sales or HR.

 

Though I have met white guys that have Asian fever. Personally I dont get it, I evaluate women on a one to one basis. If you are cute and rock my boat than game on. Otherwise its a no go. This applies regardless of ethnicity.

[Disillusioned]

Anime? No. Many Asians carry the gene for thalassemia, a blood disorder which prevents them from putting on weight.

[SteveC80]

One nerd iam an acquaintance of who likes asians said its because they arent like western women who all idealize the tall hypermasucline macho alpha guys.

 

He feels they accept him for who he is unlike the white women who shunned him because he wasnt tall enough or masculine enough etc

[mtber75]

Asian women are usually Nerdy themselves...I mean they grow up in Asian household which champions working hard and being successful so they naturally gravitate towards like minded men.

[Jbum5]

Asian women are usually Nerdy themselves...I mean they grow up in Asian household which champions working hard and being successful so they naturally gravitate towards like minded men.

 

There is a saying that goes "birds of the same feather flock together". Putting aside the skin color and background, the idea still holds true in this context.

[Fondue]

White "nerdy" guy who dates primarily Asians here.

 

I'm definitely not into Anime. It never appealed to me, so that's definitely not why I like them.

 

It's mostly because they're quirky. I'm quite goofy/weird/off the wall myself, and I find that it best fits with Asian girl's personalities. They often share some of those same qualities.

 

That and they're a bit more submissive and less "crazy." I grew up with a very strict, confident, strong mother. I don't want that in a partner. I want someone who is complete the opposite. This is definitely part of my attraction.

 

Honest answer here .

[ViresSanctity]

There is a saying that goes "birds of the same feather flock together". Putting aside the skin color and background, the idea still holds true in this context.

 

Yeah, some people are forgetting this is the simplest reason people connect and date.

 

Looks, status, wealth...

 

When you connect and fall in love, all that really goes out the window. I never thought I'd date an Asian woman until that day. It literally opened and changed my mind.

 

I've dated girls from all ethnicity by now. Asians were the last since I've never met an attractive one until I went to Cosmetology school. She actually wasn't even that attractive at first, but the more I talked the more I found her beautiful. Until I found her to be the most beautiful person in any room she was in.

 

Love can make the ugliest person person beautiful, and the poorest man rich. I remember when she joked with me, "I either date men for money or love. You don't have money."

[somedude81]

I'm pretty sure that these nerdy guys aren't JUST into Asian women.

 

I'm a nerdy white guy and while I do like Asian girls, I also like white and Hispanic women. I would date whomever I can get. What's most important is the personality and body shape. Race doesn't mean that much.

[ltjg45]

One nerd iam an acquaintance of who likes asians said its because they arent like western women who all idealize the tall hypermasucline macho alpha guys.

 

He feels they accept him for who he is unlike the white women who shunned him because he wasnt tall enough or masculine enough etc

 

I'm sure that is part of the reason. Even if it isn't, the way they act sure makes it sound that way. The majority of the women down here in my age group go after the tattooed, pants-dropping-off-their-butts "bad boys". You can just look at them from a distance and expect nothing but trouble out of them.

 

Nerdy guys just decided not to bother since it is like looking for a needle in a haystack and just find someone else. I'm somewhat nerdy myself.

 

I currently feel the same way. I may be attracted to these women but I'm sure they aren't attracted to me unless I can shower them with money.

 

I wouldn't be surprised if I can get along so much easier with Asian women too.

[Necris]

Thing is asian girls are attracted to white guys in general. The most common interracial relationship is white man, asian woman, that's just how it is, no need to get upset over it.

[Necris]

 

I wouldn't be surprised if I can get along so much easier with Asian women too.

 

Possibly.

 

Though I don't see many asian girls with black guys. And in my personal experience they have nothing to do with me, but then again women in general aren't attracted to me so I'm not really a good example.

[aeren944]

I'm sure that is part of the reason. Even if it isn't, the way they act sure makes it sound that way. The majority of the women down here in my age group go after the tattooed, pants-dropping-off-their-butts "bad boys". You can just look at them from a distance and expect nothing but trouble out of them.

 

Nerdy guys just decided not to bother since it is like looking for a needle in a haystack and just find someone else. I'm somewhat nerdy myself.

 

I currently feel the same way. I may be attracted to these women but I'm sure they aren't attracted to me unless I can shower them with money.

 

I wouldn't be surprised if I can get along so much easier with Asian women too.

 

Sounds like you need to adopt the "tattooed, pants-dropping-off-their-butts bad boy" attitude. Honestly.

 

I am a nerdy guy, too, I guess. But the thing about nerdy guys is they're far too often the "nice guys". From my experience, women want some different textures in relationships. Lets call it s'mores. Women like the whole thing... the crispy outer graham cracker layer, the sweet chocolatey flavor, and the gooey part of the marshmellow. Nerdy guys are kinda like a s'more with just the marshmellow. Yeah, they're good, but missing the tasty texture of the graham cracker. Bad boys are like a graham cracker s'more. Tasty and crunchy, but nothing in the middle at all.

 

If you're a nerd, I suggest adopting some graham cracker and throw in the chocolate when you've piqued her interest. Seriously, step out of the comfort zone (a zone nerds totally exist in) and do something crazy, spontaneous, or scary. Put up the impression of the bad boy, then when she bites in, expecting just graham cracker, she gets substance and taste with the bite.

 

****, I want some s'mores now...

[Necris]

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If you're a nerd, I suggest adopting some graham cracker and throw in the chocolate when you've piqued her interest. Seriously, step out of the comfort zone (a zone nerds totally exist in) and do something crazy, spontaneous, or scary. Put up the impression of the bad boy, then when she bites in, expecting just graham cracker, she gets substance and taste with the bite.

 

****, I want some s'mores now...

 

That sounds like bad advice tbh.

 

Why would you want to fake like you are this "bad boy" character?

 

Doing so would just make you look foolish, and women can likely spot someone faking a mile away, plus you'll be uncomfortable being someone you're not.

 

For example look at me I feel extremely uncomfortable cursing so that's not something I'd like to do.

 

Being an actual nice guy (my niceness isn't because I'm using this to get into pants or get favors or whatever I do it because I want to) is what comes naturally for me. And you're right I'm a nerd as well, besides my social awkwardness I love my hobbies, its nothing to be ashamed of. Its better to be your own person.

 

Now as a nice guy I'm not a doormat I will defend/stand up for myself and not just cower from others.

Edited April 23, 2013 by Necris

[aeren944]

You're mistaking changing for faking. I'm saying you have to step out of your comfort zone for a change... do something else for a change.... blah blah blah for a change. The point is change... if you dislike how no girls like you because you're all marshmellow, you gotta change that, or start liking the alone feeling. I said nothing about faking it.

 

But it sounds like you've answered your own question. "Being your own person" is greater than "Being in a relationship". So, there you have it. I agree with you. You shouldn't change who you are because someone tells you you should. You should, in my humble opinion, change who you are if you're looking to expand yourself... so you can level up in life, to use nerd terms.

 

You wanting these women to suddenly be interested in you or what you're into is exactly the same as these women wanting one of the bad boys. You know?

 

Also... I chose those parts of the s'mores for a reason... if you're a nerdy guy, you're like a marshmellow in that you are soft and squishy... you're the type of guy who has feelings, and who is squishy in that you adjust your feelings and emotions to the situation. The bad boys, the graham crackers, are hard... **** the feelings. They have something hard about them, unlike the marshmellow. They don't bend or squish. Then, I guess you have your chocolate... which makes you sweet, but too much can make you sick...

 

Not trying to insult you with the marshmellow thing at all... I was a marshmellow for a very long time, that's kinda why I've come to these conclusions.

[CarrieT]

Here in the Bay Area, the White Guy/Asian Girl phenom is oft-discussed on local chat sites and there is no consensus but it is HUGE. Especially on Yelp. There always seem to be threads from white guys asking where to meet Asian chicks... Here is just one example.

 

I, personally, have several guy-friends who admit to having "Yellow Fever" and completely disdain dating any other ethnicity. Some are nerds and some are not.

 

There is no rhyme or reason to the attraction. It just is.

[ViresSanctity]

Here in the Bay Area, the White Guy/Asian Girl phenom is oft-discussed on local chat sites and there is no consensus but it is HUGE. Especially on Yelp. There always seem to be threads from white guys asking where to meet Asian chicks... Here is just one example.

 

I, personally, have several guy-friends who admit to having "Yellow Fever" and completely disdain dating any other ethnicity. Some are nerds and some are not.

 

There is no rhyme or reason to the attraction. It just is.

 

A lot of the Hispanic guys I know from trade school also really dig the Vietnamese girls. I'd say 10/10 guys there dream about having a Vietnamese girlfriend, although most of them only date Hispanic girls.

 

I hate to get off on even more stereotypes but Asian women really take care of their hygiene and beauty. When I went to trade school I could tell which women showered everyday and which ones didn't.

 

Their skin is soft and smooth, and they smell/taste fantastic everywhere. My ex-girlfriend said she couldn't stand not showering twice a day.

 

Taking care of your personal body is lost on some people these days. You might not be superficial when it comes to looks, but you can appreciate someone working hard to take care of themselves.

[Necris]

You're mistaking changing for faking. I'm saying you have to step out of your comfort zone for a change... do something else for a change.... blah blah blah for a change. The point is change... if you dislike how no girls like you because you're all marshmellow, you gotta change that, or start liking the alone feeling. I said nothing about faking it.

 

But it sounds like you've answered your own question. "Being your own person" is greater than "Being in a relationship". So, there you have it. I agree with you. You shouldn't change who you are because someone tells you you should. You should, in my humble opinion, change who you are if you're looking to expand yourself... so you can level up in life, to use nerd terms.

 

You wanting these women to suddenly be interested in you or what you're into is exactly the same as these women wanting one of the bad boys. You know?

 

Also... I chose those parts of the s'mores for a reason... if you're a nerdy guy, you're like a marshmellow in that you are soft and squishy... you're the type of guy who has feelings, and who is squishy in that you adjust your feelings and emotions to the situation. The bad boys, the graham crackers, are hard... **** the feelings. They have something hard about them, unlike the marshmellow. They don't bend or squish. Then, I guess you have your chocolate... which makes you sweet, but too much can make you sick...

 

Not trying to insult you with the marshmellow thing at all... I was a marshmellow for a very long time, that's kinda why I've come to these conclusions.

 

If by being squishy you mean let other people walk all over and control me then no I'm not the kind of nice guy that is "spineless" as I will stand up for myself.

 

Being a nerd is just how I am as well, what can I say I like my videogames, my D&D, scifi books, reading about history, new scientific discoveries, etc.

 

As for stepping out of my comfort zone I'm not going to pretend like I'm some "bad boy" or whatever. Even if I were to try I don't know where to begin. Besides most likely the "bad boy" gets the girl because he's somehow physically attractive so women are more likely to overlook his other qualities. Also this type of guy probably has some level of charisma as well so he knows what to say, when to say it, how, and where. If you're a "bad boy" "edgy graham cracker" except ugly and not socially intelligent you are going nowhere.

 

Besides would you really want to be with one of those girls that only go after "bad boys" and just get used and dumped all the time?

 

I have however tried doing other things outside my comfort zone like going out more, talking to women randomly (just strike up random conversations with women I don't even know), and cold approaching (pure and utter failure).

[CarrieT]

When I went to trade school I could tell which women showered everyday and which ones didn't.

Showering every day is one thing: Healthy.

 

My ex-girlfriend said she couldn't stand not showering twice a day.

Showering twice a day is obsessive/compulsive. Who does that and/or who expects that of another person???

[Els]

 

Showering twice a day is obsessive/compulsive. Who does that and/or who expects that of another person???

 

Ummm. Every single person I know back where I come from did that. Those who could afford running water, at least. And I'm not just talking about my family - I went through 3 groups of different roommates in college.

 

I don't live there anymore, but old habits are hard to break.

Edited April 24, 2013 by Elswyth

[CarrieT]

Ummm. Every single person I know back where I come from did that. Those who could afford running water, at least.

 

Hey, we're from a tropical country, you gotta do that or you'll stink. I don't live there anymore, but old habits are hard to break.

 

Wow - learn something new everyday...

 

Even when I lived in Panama (and sweat a lot), I had a hard time using that kind of water!