K.J Posted September 20, 2004 Share Posted September 20, 2004 Ok dated someone for a few months, Got into argument about things (known eachother for years). When I do not call him messege him or have anything ot do with him, he calls me out of no where to ask how I am doing? Well through friends he knew how I was doing, He was telling me everything that was happening in my life!!! I got mad once again and have not talked to him since. I do not know what to do, i can not stop thinking of him. I dream about things just everything, I want to clear the air really bad because It has effected other friends. He will not talk to me though. Is there anything that I can do? I do not go out now because we all hang out with the same people, his co worker and is my sisters boyfriend. Yes I care for him and I have told him that but I give up on that part of the relationship. I just want things to be back the way that they were.... Is there anyway that I can get this back? any advise is great for me at this point Link to post Share on other sites
ycart Posted September 20, 2004 Share Posted September 20, 2004 hi i too dated a friend well to be honest i had an affair with him but wed known each other for 7 years im now pregnant by him but things have got really messy and we dont speak anymore i know where you comin from as all iwant now is for us to go back to how we used to be and for him to be there for our child but at the mo its looking pretty grim it hurts becausewe used to talk for hours about anything id go to him for advice if something happened in the day id just call or text it him thats all gone now and thats what i miss the most im sorry i dont really have any advice but if you want to reply maybe we could try to help each other out. Link to post Share on other sites
K.J Posted September 20, 2004 Share Posted September 20, 2004 Oh ya, I am really hurting, I really should be mad and not want to talk to him, I moved many miles to be with him, I hurt, I ended so many things in life for him. Now I sit in my place that has next to nothing in it alone... I do not know what to do at all, In the day I cry at night i do not sleep and I have not eaten that much. I miss the friendship more then anything, I always had feelings for him. Never thought that this would happen. I feel bad for you, I can not have anymore kids so that never happened. I do not have any advise for you either but ya ltes help eachother through chatting!!! I think that it is a cool idea thanks Link to post Share on other sites
ycart Posted September 21, 2004 Share Posted September 21, 2004 hi i really feel for you as i know what this is like it must be especially bad as you have moved to be with him my man asked me to do the same but i held back as i wasnt sure how it would work out but i could have been in the same situation every one says to move on but its really hard as knowing someone for so long and especially when they were a friend first its hard to let go of that bond that you had s with this man and yesterday especially was anightmare as i had 4 phonecalls people ringing to say you ll never guess who ive seen and they all have there say then come back to you with different stories of whats been said the worst thing i heard yesterday was from my dad who caled to say that hed started work at the same place as him so it looks like theres no getting away from him it hurts most because we used to be so close and i dont understand whats gone wrong i think alot of people have had things to say or whatever i just wish we could sit down face to face and sort this out because it also feels like ive lost a best friend do you have any children?? speak to you soon! Link to post Share on other sites
K.J Posted September 21, 2004 Share Posted September 21, 2004 No there is no way of getting away fom them!! this is know, I do have kids, I have 3 of them. 2 of them lived here before I moved ( with the father ) thats another thing about this that is so darn hard, I get along with all of my ex's we all still talk hang out and have fun together ( one is getting married). Last night out of no where he called me to talk to me, kinnda venting with me. It made me feel a bit better, I now know that I can go places and does not matter if i see him and i told him that. I will not hide from him or pretend that he is not here Do you talk to him at all? It must piss you off a tiny bit that he is working with your father. Wow my father would be really mad about that!! Get back soon K.J Link to post Share on other sites
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