netrie Posted September 20, 2004 Share Posted September 20, 2004 I saw my ex bf for the first time after a 5 week no contact initiated by me. He was happy as a lark and admitted it that I had come over. Sexually, I just "could not" get into it but we did have sex and he was enjoying himself. I seemed to want affection for some reason instead and he noticed that. I am not sure what this means or if I just don't "feel it" anymore for him. I don't know. He has hurt me so many times, that I am not sure and I will take this very carefully. But it was very pleasant and "warm" between us. [color=black][color=red]Below he sent me an email today:[/color] [[color=red]i] Netalia, Thank you for the nice visit! Sorry I was such a slug -- I needed sleep. I had to get up at 4:45am. I'm under A LOT of stress right now. I hope to get out from under it soon. Cheers, (his name)[/color][/i][/color] That "cheers" part I don't like much... ANY ADVICE would be very welcome. Netalia Link to post Share on other sites
Jeannie Posted September 21, 2004 Share Posted September 21, 2004 You're wanting more than just sex - he had sex because - there you were! The cheers part sounds like his ego going "yipee" she came back and wanted me! What are you going to do now? Link to post Share on other sites
backspn Posted September 21, 2004 Share Posted September 21, 2004 Agreed....pursue it now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author netrie Posted September 21, 2004 Author Share Posted September 21, 2004 Originally posted by backspn Agreed....pursue it now. [color=blue]Backspn,[/color] Are you saying that I should "pursue him?" meaning he wants to be with me? Or not? [color=violet]Jeannie[/color], so you think that he is just "having sex" without any true love or intentions? Thanks so much for your OBJECTIVE opinions. Its so hard when we are "in" the situation and it helps for someone to lead us a bit or give another perspective. Netalia!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
backspn Posted September 21, 2004 Share Posted September 21, 2004 Do you want to be with him? If yes...go for it....you dont get many 2nd chances in life. And Im not talking for Jeannie but I think she meant he's happy that you are there now and want him that way. He probably felt rejected before. Link to post Share on other sites
hurtingandconfused Posted September 21, 2004 Share Posted September 21, 2004 Thank you for the nice visit! Sorry I was such a slug -- I needed sleep. I had to get up at 4:45am. I'm under A LOT of stress right now. I hope to get out from under it soon. Translation: I'm glad you came over I was horny. Even though I haven't had sex for a while- I thought I was good. Maybe we can have sex again soon. Sucker. Link to post Share on other sites
Author netrie Posted September 21, 2004 Author Share Posted September 21, 2004 Originally posted by hurtingandconfused Translation: I'm glad you came over I was horny. Even though I haven't had sex for a while- I thought I was good. Maybe we can have sex again soon. Sucker. hey hurting: I appreciate your opinion! You may be right... I may be a sucker. But I think I have been a sucker with some of my regular female same-sex friends such as when they hurt me or burn me, I am always able to forgive. Its just me. However, I dont let anyone take me for a FOOL too long. I get off the train real quick. But I cannot figure out WHY men can just have "sex" without any feelings---or some of them. And I mean an ongoing sexual involvement with one woman. I mean if a woman does it and still accepts dinners or gifts then she is labeled a WHORE. Double standards. I know he will call---what should I say to him or do this time? Any advice? Netalia Link to post Share on other sites
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