anotherimaginarypers Posted April 24, 2013 Share Posted April 24, 2013 So I met this person online and had a crush on her since the first time we E met. We met for the first time in life at a small rock show where I decided to make a move at the end of the show. I asked if she wanted my number so we could hang out sometime. She said yeah. We became friends on facebook and then I found out that she had a boyfriend. I'm like okay maybe I should leave her alone before this hurts me. But then she starts messaging me all the time on facebook giving me a lot of interest. And we started hanging a out here and there. I really liked her and wished I could show her how I truly felt at the time, but I didn't want to be that guy who complicates someone else's relationship just to satisfy his own personal needs. I really felt bad because she seemed unhappy and her unhappiness just got worse and worse as our relationship gone. I showed less and less interest the more we hung out. She started hurting my feelings and I had to stop talking to her for 6 months because she hardly said anything to me when we hung out. I really understood what she was going through and I felt bad for her. Even worse I felt bad that I couldn't do anything about it. I know how to make her happy, I just didn't want to show it to her while she had a boyfriend. Well, 2 months ago she broke up with her boyfriend. and we started making plans to hang out again. I wasn't really interested in her at that time, but I decided yeah, we need to hang out. So 3 weeks ago we hung out for the first time in ever. And she walked to my car wearing this super sexy outfit and I'm like changing my mind about her already. And she really seemed kinda interested in me at first, but I don't know. We hung out a couple more times since then and I just couldn't take it anymore. I've been going through a lot of stress with other things in my life and she really seemed like the only thing that could make me happy right now. I want to show her who I truly am and I want to know more about her. I really feel like I understand her. So I confessed to her through a pm on facebook. This is so stupid I don't know why I did it but I did. And I told her all the cliche **** like I care about her and that think she's smart, beautiful, and cool and all that **** which it is true to me. I just wanted her know how I felt and what I was going through. More importantly I want to know what she's going through. I want her to tell me how she feels. I didn't mention this in the message maybe I should. It was really all about me and not enough about her. She told me she wasn't interested in dating anyone, but she said that likes me and thinks I'm awesome, but I have no idea what that means. More **** continued to happen in my life and I found out she was seeing a friend far from where she lives and that she's going to stay with that person for a week. I started snooping through one of her blogs to see that she might be interested in someone else. And I'm like panicking and getting desperate so I deactivate my facebook. I don't know what to do. I'm trying to get over her right now, but maybe nothing will happen and she will chose me. I texted her and told her what I did with my facebook.She still hasn't answered me. Which is a good thing. I think all this **** is really destroying my chances with her. I probably had a potential chance with her before I spewed everything out on the internet. Here I am doing it again. I just need some insight on whether or not anyone has gone through this and has done the same stupid **** I'm doing. Link to post Share on other sites
ForeverHopeful1 Posted April 24, 2013 Share Posted April 24, 2013 I dont know why people think telling someone over facebook how they feel about them will help them in any sense of the word. Cut your ties. Get your life straightened out. For the love of Peter, please dont ever tell a woman over facebook how you have feelings for her. Thats kind of................. pathetic. How rude, immature, silly and NOT heartfelt! Its facebook! Get together with her and tell her to her face how you feel about her like a man! I would question the sincerity of a man who couldnt tell me to my face how he feels about me and instead chose to do so through social media. What were you thinking, Hun? I know the answer! You werent! She started talking to you while she was with someone else. Then she dumped him, hung out with you, she didnt want you and has moved on to someone else. Whats there to get? If she liked you are thought you were awesome, she would be with you, right? She was trying to be nice, and now she is going and dating who she wants. Move on and please dont ever, ever, ever tell anyone ONLINE how you feel about them! Tell them to their face like a man. It is heartfelt that way. When you verbally vomit your feelings into an email, it screams "impersonal!!!" Maybe I am just old fashioned. I dont know. I think if you like someone or want to be with someone, you should tell them while they are in front of you. If you dont get that chance to tell them to their face because they wont make time for you, they obviously dont want to hear it, or entertain the idea of being with you... Link to post Share on other sites
Author anotherimaginarypers Posted April 24, 2013 Author Share Posted April 24, 2013 You're not old fashioned. You're an a/sshole. See this is where you and I defer. I don't see myself as a man. I and you're insensitive towards my feelings. I'm in a lot of pain right now and everything you've said to me is what I'm beating the **** out of myself for. I already said that it was stupid of me to tell her how I felt on facebook. I'm like 5 ****ing remarks from killing myself you *******. Link to post Share on other sites
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