Harradin Posted April 25, 2013 Share Posted April 25, 2013 (edited) I didn't know really where to put this, so decided here was the best place! I am naturally very shy, I'm mildly autistic so I guess that also contributes to my current dilemma. Because I am shy, approaching people and making conversation etc is one of my biggest weaknesses. I'm fine approaching friends who I know well enough, but the problem then turns to women. I seem to get a lot of anxiety when I see a woman I find attractive, I'm fine if they start talking to me but I can't approach them to save my life. Its tiresome as a hot girl on my course started talking to me and every time she saw me she'd smile at me, if she came to talk to me I'd be fine, be really chatty and be able to have a good conversation (I found it weird, she had piercing/intense eyes which made me a bit uncomfortable) but I can't seem to grow a pair and go start a conversation with her. Its strange though, I do motorsport so when I see a hot girl at racing, I can go up and start talking to her no problem. I was talking a hot girl last time racing and we spoke for a while and didn't seem like I was boring her to death . But as soon as I got home I thought I should add her on Facebook, it took me 2 hours to send a friend request :/, I just got anxious and it was bizarre. She did accept me on Facebook but I haven't spoken to her or anything, I just don't have the courage and its kinda bad. I'm not afraid of being rejected if I did develop a crush on her, its just the first jump into the swimming pool I find hard. I'm fine over Facebook/text if they text me first. I've looked at PUA stuff but I don't want to be an arrogant knob :L. The last ex made the moves on me, I was too shy to do anything until she made the move on me! If anyone has any advice I'd really appreciate it, I'm not going to get anyone by having anxiety so I can't talk to them! Edited April 25, 2013 by Harradin Link to post Share on other sites
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