RogerWallace111 Posted April 26, 2013 Share Posted April 26, 2013 (edited) Just looking for any input aside from the conclusion I've already drawn. I want more females in my life. Whether it's for casual "dating", a possible long term thing, straight sex, whatever... I just want to have female company to enjoy. I was in a 3.5 year relationship till about 7 months ago and am enjoying the freedom, so I'm not looking to get caught up in anything too serious, but if she were awesome I'd definitely be open to it. Besides some one-time things, there's only been one woman I've been hanging with at all these past several months. She's shown she'd want more, but I'm just not too drawn to her (which I've been very nicely honest about, yet she still likes to keep in touch). So that's just sex and a more friendly kind of company. Both of which I enjoy, just don't find myself getting excited over. So my question is just a personal take on the classic : "where do I find girls?" Points to consider: ~ not in school ~ never around girls through work ~ not going to do online dating (well that could change if I'm feeling this same sh*t in a year) ~ live in a suburb of the cities where my circles of friends are and have a miniscule social network here ~ go out with my friends in their towns every couple weeks but bar/club hookups have yet to turn into anything cool for me ~ not going to do meetup.com or join a softball league, already have a bunch of sh*t going on with work/art/etc What I've concluded is that I just have to start chatting up/asking out girls anywhere I see them. Grocery store, on the street, at the gas station I can't think of more actually but you catch my drift. I guess it was easier a few years back when I still found myself at parties more often. It was like weekend nights were the given time that you'd meet new ladies. Maybe I can sift some chill girls out of the bars, etc, I've found that tough though... I don't go out too often but I should be more aggressive when I do. Anyway, I'm sure people will find a way to pick my post apart and bust my chops but I'm just being honest... And I have no self-pity regarding the matter, nor is any of this a complaint in any way. Just looking for opinions on my conclusion that everyday, at-the-store type of "approaches" are basically all I'm left with given the conditions I listed. Edited April 26, 2013 by RogerWallace111 Link to post Share on other sites
ChessPieceFace Posted April 26, 2013 Share Posted April 26, 2013 Grocery store actually seems like an inefficient idea, now that I think about it. Sure, everyone shops, but consider that single women are often eating less to lose weight / stay trim to attract a mate. Logically then, the proportion of single women will be lower at the grocery store than in the general population of women. The few times I went over bachelorettes' apartments they had rotten fruit and spoiled milk. They just don't seem to care about shopping properly. Just a thought. Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted April 26, 2013 Share Posted April 26, 2013 Join a yoga class. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
outsidethebox Posted April 26, 2013 Share Posted April 26, 2013 Assuming you found another girl to date, transitioning from having sex with a girl to dating another girl without ticking anyone off will be pretty tricky. Link to post Share on other sites
c57dood Posted April 26, 2013 Share Posted April 26, 2013 Learn how to do something not many people can do and do it in public. Women are always attracted by bravery and boldness because these are masculine qualities. They'll approach you instead. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted April 26, 2013 Share Posted April 26, 2013 I realized a little too late in my last dating life that 7am on a Sunday was a great place to scope out men. They weren't sloths if they were up that early, and they weren't at church. Odd hours at a 24/7 grocery were good for checking out the stock boys as well, LOL! Link to post Share on other sites
Author RogerWallace111 Posted April 26, 2013 Author Share Posted April 26, 2013 Thanks for the responses, much better than I'd expected Castle - Was thinking of doing some yoga just yesterday. More for fitness and general mind calming but hadn't even thought of that aspect... c57 - Getting that going as we speak... I sing pretty well and have been piecing a group together. and outsidethebox - She's an easygoing, down to earth chick and it's all all out in the open that we're in no way exclusive. I honestly get together with her once a month on average. She's gone on dates, i've hooked up with some other girls... Link to post Share on other sites
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