Author WreckedDan Posted May 25, 2013 Author Share Posted May 25, 2013 Woke up still upset, sinking into sadness again. Amazes me how cruel she was last night. She had been talking to one of her sisters for 20 minutes before I got home... I know she put her up to that. What amazes me most is all the strange lies... she is doing to me exactaly what her mother did to her, blaming me for all her woes creating this false reality where she is the victim... she had the affair, she cheated on me. I did nothing to deserve how she treated me. Crushed again, Dan Link to post Share on other sites
Author WreckedDan Posted May 25, 2013 Author Share Posted May 25, 2013 How the heck do get cameras and all that, I'm broke! Link to post Share on other sites
Simpleoldschool Posted May 26, 2013 Share Posted May 26, 2013 (edited) SEPARATION AGREEMENT THIS SEPARATION AGREEMENT dated this 23rd of May, 2013BETWEEN __________ __________ __________ __________, in the State of ______________ ("Husband") __________ __________ __________ __________,__________ County in the State of ______________ ("wife") 1. JURISDICTION. _______________________ and ______________________ acknowledge they have both resided in ________________ county for __ Years and __ months which satisfies the residency requirements of the state of __________________. 2. ARMED FORCES. Neither Party is a member of the Armed Forces 3. MARRIAGE DATE. The parties were married to each other on ____________________ in ___________________, _________________and one child was born in ______ , on __ date , of ______ year , in the state of _________, ________. 4 SEPERATION DATE. The parties date of separation is _________________. 5. CAUSE OF DISSOLUTION. Due to irreconcilable Differences the Marriage and the parties have been Irretrievably broken. It is because of the Unfortunate Circumstances that “Husband” and “Wife” cannot any longer reside together in the same residence for the following reasons A. The wife has decided to pursue an affair outside of the Marriage and has demonstrated intent by way of act and Choice to vacate the marital residence and move into this new residency with the intent to Divorce During the course of this marriage the “wife” by explanation to the husband has chronically abused alcohol to the extent that it has created an atmosphere uncomfortable for them continued living compatibly.[/sIZE During the course of this marriage the “wife” by explanation to the husband has participated in acts of Substance Abuse to the extent that it has created an atmosphere uncomfortable, and unsafe for continued living together with her husband and minor child. During the course of this marriage for reasons mentioned above the minor child has been neglected, in the area of motherly parenting due to alcohol and substance abuse. Which deprived her daughter of certain parental obligations in way of her as “daughter” in this marriage that has been carefully provided for by the “husband” in the “wife’s” absence both in state of mind and mental awareness and throws into question from the perspective and scope of parental guardianship as to whether it is better to be determined in area’s of a court, she should have such a legal capacity. To this point the father/husband has provided everything in the way of the child’s welfare that the mother cannot and will not because of such said addictions. To this degree the child only has one parent who serves as a responsible guardian. PARENTAL ARRANGEMENT/AGREEMENT. At this time, with the best interests of the minor child ____________, ___________ in consideration It has been decided by both “husband” and wife” jointly that the child Should remain in full custody temporarily or indefinitely to that effect of the “husband” and only the husband, even after divorce is final. If it is determined temporarily it is of question, why not indefinitely. Since the “husband” shows the full extent and serves to such an extent to the best interests of the minor child financially, of mental competence and awareness, nurturing and providing a balanced home it should be so. Also in lieu of the mothers display of character and mental attitude “unfit” to parent seems absolute and anything else would subject to endanger the minor child by way and cause of detriment. To such a degree she cannot serve in matters of any good judgment towards the welfare of the child and in such the capacity to serve as a responsible guardian. DISCLOSURE. The parties Acknowledge that they willingly, Have made full disclosures of all assets and debts owned jointly or individually. Whether community or separate property, nothing has been withheld and both parties believe the other has been truthful in their disclosure. INCOME. ___________ has ___________ monthly income and, _______________ has _____________ monthly income. COOWAPERATION AGREEMENT. The parties agree to cowaperate with one another in the signing of these papers, in signing of any legal papers or documents needed to finalize this agreement, including deeds, title certificates, etc. Within ten days of notification of entry of judgment, the parties shall execute any document, transfer papers, titles or any other documents to the provisions herein of this agreement and any resulting decree of separation. In the event a party fails to sign transfer documents, the final decree of legal separation shall operate to transfer of title. I HAVE NOT FORGOTTEN ABOUT YOU DAN IM WORKING ON THIS. IT IS UNFINISHED I WILL DO THE REST SOON. look over it to see if you agree. Edited May 26, 2013 by Simpleoldschool Link to post Share on other sites
Simpleoldschool Posted May 26, 2013 Share Posted May 26, 2013 holy cow dan that was annoying to organize do you just have an email.???? Link to post Share on other sites
Simpleoldschool Posted May 26, 2013 Share Posted May 26, 2013 Tell me i need to finish, also does she have a POA???? power of attorney? Link to post Share on other sites
Simpleoldschool Posted May 26, 2013 Share Posted May 26, 2013 NOW DAN ONE MORE THING DONT SCREW ME! first i dont have a license so anything i write or type up isnt LEGALLY BINDING! *Second dan i am giving you information provided on a level and basis that is strictly informational and for use of that information* well i mean that can be argued it is an agreement...lmao.... sorry i had to start that. Now dan i can argue my way around anything but if you use my INFORMATION ...lol and the judge asks you who prepared this... again dont screw ME... haha i dont want to get a summons. get a free consultation and see if a lawyer will abide by it or atleast...whatever... just whatever you do dont say i did it ....actually forget my name when you appear in court LMFAO. Link to post Share on other sites
Author WreckedDan Posted May 26, 2013 Author Share Posted May 26, 2013 Looking at that thing scares the hell out of me. Plus I thonk it's spells cooperation... Anyone think this is a bad idea?, Dan Link to post Share on other sites
Author WreckedDan Posted May 26, 2013 Author Share Posted May 26, 2013 I do not want to take my child from my wife, I would like to be her primary legal and custodial parent.. maybe that part could be toned down some? Dan Link to post Share on other sites
Simpleoldschool Posted May 26, 2013 Share Posted May 26, 2013 Dan in all honesty you are not TAKING HER AWAY. you simply have FULL custody. you can change that later since you have full custody if she sahpes up. actually you can let her see you and her daughter anytime you wish. full custody simply means you make all the decisions. Link to post Share on other sites
Simpleoldschool Posted May 26, 2013 Share Posted May 26, 2013 (edited) Dan i worded it in a way to first 1.protect you 2. protect you from any lies. 3. protect you financially 4. avoided her claiming you as unfit and made it seem without a reasonable doubt she is unfit, which she is. think of this dan. if she gos to court, and gets custody. she will have both you and her daughter, sitting in a corner while she is smoking it up with this new man or drinking it up and while shes high or drunk how can she take care of the daughter you share in common? she cant and she wont. im trying to avoid future abuse and also her getting grips into your daughters mind and alleinating you. dan its the usual. she has your daughter and focus' on why you are a horrible father and husband. it will come out when shes drunk and because she is seeing someone else. over time your daughter will blame you and then visitation will be less and less until she beilieves her daughter is going to lie about you like she will and then she gets full custody and then you are really alone. rather she has shown that her interests are more in this new relationship than in a family relationship. she had a family, sho chose an affair. im trying to lock you in to win this. also the verbage associated with the disclosure makes all her property hers in the way its worded and such. i was going to write a property division secition where you maintain everything that is yours and she maintains what is hers. its just avoding her taking everything that you want to keep. just trying to help. let me know how best i can adjust it, but then i would have to remove everything shes done and it would be a simple sep agreement and you cannot claim anything shes done after its signed. just try to keep that in mind. Edited May 26, 2013 by Simpleoldschool Link to post Share on other sites
Author WreckedDan Posted May 26, 2013 Author Share Posted May 26, 2013 I aprecite your help, please continue... Just scares me, Dan Link to post Share on other sites
Simpleoldschool Posted May 26, 2013 Share Posted May 26, 2013 ill start on the rest tommorow. remember dan you dont have to listen to me or anyone. its your comfort level here. i have to make sure that DCF doesnt get involved and twists this out of proportion if they get wind of any of this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author WreckedDan Posted May 26, 2013 Author Share Posted May 26, 2013 What's rhw DCF? Link to post Share on other sites
Simpleoldschool Posted May 26, 2013 Share Posted May 26, 2013 director of child and family services. i should have said CPS. im trying to mitigate a response if they have one to this. im trying to figure out what the judge is going to order just out of the simple facts of the situation. and how on the wayward that places you in all of this. i think full custody for you would be best. however in order to do so, you would have to prove all the crazyness going on. then if you do that, CPS will want to investigate if the alchohalism and drug use is mutual. man there is so much stuff that can happen. but im not really worried about it. im going to have to do alot of research so i may be off the grid. dont get scared dan, everything will be ok. 95% of what we are afraid of never happens but its good to be prepared. i just have to research a few things and then ill be back on here with a revised sep agreement or, information on what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
Author WreckedDan Posted May 26, 2013 Author Share Posted May 26, 2013 She walked out on me on March 26th if that makes a difference... Dan Link to post Share on other sites
Author WreckedDan Posted May 26, 2013 Author Share Posted May 26, 2013 Thanks so much... Dan Link to post Share on other sites
Simpleoldschool Posted May 26, 2013 Share Posted May 26, 2013 let me look up some of the statues in washington regarding marriage and see if we cant nickel and dime this. March 26th makes it 2 months tommorow. dont worry though i dont want you to think about this at all. just enjoy yourself and ill be researching alot of stuff for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Simpleoldschool Posted May 26, 2013 Share Posted May 26, 2013 my last piece of advice is this. DO NOT EVER SIGN A CPS "SERVICE PLAN". never let them in the house and decline signing. its your right because you havent done anything. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Simpleoldschool Posted May 26, 2013 Share Posted May 26, 2013 nothing is happening anyways. just advice. be happy my friend. just think of it this way sometimes we are pushed out of our comfort zones to be someone of great status. thats you dan. your being prepared for only a job you can do one day. plus enjoy your life. Just remember EVERYDAY is YOUR life. Link to post Share on other sites
Simpleoldschool Posted May 26, 2013 Share Posted May 26, 2013 also dan, i think it would be best if you update the forumn on how your feeling so other members can reach out to you and you dont keep it inside. Link to post Share on other sites
Author WreckedDan Posted May 26, 2013 Author Share Posted May 26, 2013 This morning I woke up still ...frustrated?...angry? About how she verbally attacked me. Then after the first hour it settled back into pain and questions of why she created these false ideas and why she was so venomus towards me,.. I never cheated, I was always there for her... one thing she told me last night was that she was ready to leave me 3 years ago but had no where to go... ouch.. so now the last 3 years have been a lie? Every day is still harder than the days before... Tomorrow it's just me and my daughter, hope to make the best of it, Dan Link to post Share on other sites
Simpleoldschool Posted May 26, 2013 Share Posted May 26, 2013 Make the best of it dan. Atleast theres no venom tommorow. you have your daughter. im sorry that you feel that way. just try, and i know its difficult to let those feelings go. make your daughter laugh and smile. treat her as im sure you do with great love. it will help you as much as it helps her. as for the last three years. you stated everything in the way you didnt do anything. nothing. dan it may be difficult but, you dont have to do something wrong for someone else to do something wrong, to you. man i wish we could get your wife on the right track toghether. decrease her access to these venemous friends she has that only fill her ear with garbage. i wish women didnt gossip. gossip is a form of venting that women turn into fun to talk trash. i never understood it. still dont. never will. tommorow is a new day. as it is said let todays troubles be enough for today because tommorow will bring its own. be happy about how you are choosing to handle this. i think you are a very honorable person in all that you are trying to do, i really think so. and as you say lol my2 cents. haha i cant find the cool c thing you do. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted May 26, 2013 Share Posted May 26, 2013 my last piece of advice is this. Do not ever sign a cps "service plan". Never let them in the house and decline signing. Its your right because you havent done anything. ever ever ever Link to post Share on other sites
Author WreckedDan Posted May 26, 2013 Author Share Posted May 26, 2013 Thanks, I'll take that advice, though I have no clue why it would ever come up... Dan Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted May 26, 2013 Share Posted May 26, 2013 my last piece of advice is this. DO NOT EVER SIGN A CPS "SERVICE PLAN". never let them in the house and decline signing. its your right because you haven't done anything. The three greatest lies ever told! 1. I love you! 2. The checks in the mail! 3. Hi! We're from the government! We're here to help! I've never heard anything good come of CPS getting involved in what is essentially a separation and divorce. It use to be that we once looked up to lawyers, judges, the politicians, Doctors, the police? Now they're the very ones we have to watch out for the most! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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