What to do with low self esteem guy

[miumiu]

I have been good friends with this guy for about 3 years. We met in college through my best friend and we had been going out to movies, lunches together and we had a great time together. He used to flirt with me and teases me all the time when we were with a group of friends but when he's with me alone, he doesn't gets really loud but we would talk about more serious issues like problems we had at work etc.. When our common friends asked about me and him, he would just laugh and didn't say anything more.

 

 

I saw him as one of my good friends but about 6 months ago I realised I had developed more deeper feelings for him. I didn't tell him about it cos I don't want to risk our friendship as I don't know if the feeling was mutual.

 

He has also been telling one of his friends he's not confident enough in developing a long term relationship due to his career (He works in Walmart). One of my friends think that the reason he doesn't want to take the relationship to the next level is because of the gap in our careers.

 

 

I really love this guy and I want to develop things further. Do guys really mind if his girlfriend earn more than he does? Should I tell him how I feel?

[fredrolin]

First thing this guy needs to do in order to boost his self esteem is to choose a real "career".

 

Working at Walmart is a "job". Only losers would make that a career choice.

[moimeme]

Only losers would make that a career choice.

 

Some people start out humble and work their way up. The guy who was the CEO of an oil company I worked for started out, literally, as a gas jockey.

[fredrolin]

Originally posted by moimeme

Only losers would make that a career choice.

 

Some people start out humble and work their way up. The guy who was the CEO of an oil company I worked for started out, literally, as a gas jockey.

 

In a retail corporation like Walmart there is no way to work your way up to making big money.

 

What is this guy's future...becoming a manager? Then he gets an extra dollar an hour to tell a bunch of lazy employees what to do.

[DJ_Dork]

you can' t help those who can't help themselves.

[EagleChick13]

If you truly love him, then build up his esteem and push him to do better in his life instead of settling for Wal-Mart.

[miumiu]

Thanks for all your advices guys. I guess he needed time to think about what he really wants and I need a cool off period to think about our relationship. I had a lot of fun with this guy and I know he cares for me. Maybe we just let things happen naturally and not giving him too much pressure?

[Proto]

Originally posted by miumiu

Thanks for all your advices guys. I guess he needed time to think about what he really wants and I need a cool off period to think about our relationship. I had a lot of fun with this guy and I know he cares for me. Maybe we just let things happen naturally and not giving him too much pressure?

 

 

You're doing a great job by standing by your man and helping him out.

 

 

My girlfriend and I are kind of in the same situation. I'm a junior in college and she hasn't gone to college or anything yet, and she's 21. She wants to go to school but she isn't ready to go yet. The angle I approached her with is that she's more than intelligent enough and capable enough to go to school and be thinking about a career that will be more worthwhile to her. Now she's saying that next year she'd like to start, which is great

 

 

I have EXTREMELY high ambitions on where I want to be in my future career and where I want to be financially, and I want my girl to share that with me...especially for our future family and whatnot.