futuregopher Posted April 27, 2013 Share Posted April 27, 2013 When it's just the two of you? And not as gf/bf, just as friends. I don't have a gf and she doesn't have a bf (as far as I know ;p ) Was recently asked by female friend to accompany her to country halfway around the world, just the two of us for a week. Is this the ultimate friend zone? extremely confusing, need help...not sure how to proceed thank you ls! Link to post Share on other sites
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 27, 2013 Share Posted April 27, 2013 When it's just the two of you? And not as gf/bf, just as friends. I don't have a gf and she doesn't have a bf (as far as I know ;p ) Was recently asked by female friend to accompany her to country halfway around the world, just the two of us for a week. Is this the ultimate friend zone? extremely confusing, need help...not sure how to proceed thank you ls! I've done this twice. I hooked up with them both times. Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted April 27, 2013 Share Posted April 27, 2013 I've done this twice. I hooked up with them both times. I've done it twice and never hooked up with either of 'em. Still friends with them, too! Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted April 27, 2013 Share Posted April 27, 2013 Done it a few times. Various results, generally positive. Since my relationship style is getting to know people platonically, I've never had issue with such 'adventures'. One particular person remained my best female friend for a decade, until she got married. If you want to 'get laid' with any such 'friend', then such an adventure will either be glorious or an exercise in frustration. Only way to know is to go. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
MrNate 2.0 Posted April 27, 2013 Share Posted April 27, 2013 I don't even know if I'd trust myself in that situation.. Link to post Share on other sites
soccerrprp Posted April 28, 2013 Share Posted April 28, 2013 Done it a couple of times. No hanky-panky involved as they were "friends." Link to post Share on other sites
Shepp Posted April 28, 2013 Share Posted April 28, 2013 I've been on holiday with the same girl a few times, once abroad with friends, once camping with my family. The only time it was just me and her was when i had a football tornument in spain, we were there for like four days and then me and her went back via paris cause she'd always wanted to go. I dont think shes 'friendzoning' you buddy - if anything its more of a opportunity for two friends to get closer! Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted April 28, 2013 Share Posted April 28, 2013 Went on vacation with a friend after my epic breakup a few years ago. We had sex. I think it's inevitable... Link to post Share on other sites
Archgirl Posted April 28, 2013 Share Posted April 28, 2013 Went on a trip with my ex last year. I had sex. Just not with him Because we really are just friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Author futuregopher Posted April 28, 2013 Author Share Posted April 28, 2013 Oh yea, I forgot to mention that the trip is a little over a week and it's $2K USD. It's one of those tour things that you go on with a group of tourists and airfare/hotel is included. The money isn't a problem but I don't want to drop $2k and have a chance of not coming back alive since the country is in Africa. A part of me is a BIG wuss. How many of you guys would go on this? Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted April 28, 2013 Share Posted April 28, 2013 When it's just the two of you? And not as gf/bf, just as friends. I don't have a gf and she doesn't have a bf (as far as I know ;p ) Was recently asked by female friend to accompany her to country halfway around the world, just the two of us for a week. Is this the ultimate friend zone? extremely confusing, need help...not sure how to proceed thank you ls! if you have some self control and separate beds you can do it....if you make it clear no funny stuff before you go anywhere...........deb Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted April 28, 2013 Share Posted April 28, 2013 I can be sure of myself if it's understood to be platonic. That's all I can say. If she then breaks the rules, I'd have to see. Link to post Share on other sites
Lilla Posted April 28, 2013 Share Posted April 28, 2013 Not knowing you or your friend, I wouldn't like to comment. All I can say is, I have gone on holiday and to events (admittedly never so much money/distance) with friends of the opposite sex. And never hooked up. I am in their friend zones as much as they are in mine. Though a couple of my friends did a driving tour of Europe last summer just as platonic besties. It apparently didn't mean a thing, but then they got together at Christmas, only a couple of weeks after one of them broke up with another partner. Go figure Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted April 29, 2013 Share Posted April 29, 2013 How many of you guys would go on this? Is she hot...? Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted April 29, 2013 Share Posted April 29, 2013 I would if I was not repulsed by him. I have this thing where if a guy I am not attracted to likes me in "that way" I feel Like if he tries to "accidentally on purpose" touch me and stuff, I cringe. So I wouldn't go unless I didn't mind us hooking up. Link to post Share on other sites
Babolat Posted April 29, 2013 Share Posted April 29, 2013 Talk about the boundaries prior; if you both are on the same page and it's a trip you really want to do, do it. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted April 29, 2013 Share Posted April 29, 2013 Talk about the boundaries prior; if you both are on the same page and it's a trip you really want to do, do it. Or you could just not talk about it and let it happen as it will... Link to post Share on other sites
Author futuregopher Posted April 29, 2013 Author Share Posted April 29, 2013 Or you could just not talk about it and let it happen as it will... haha yea...asking before hand would just be 10000% awkward. I think she's fairly attractive but I don't really know her that well Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted April 30, 2013 Share Posted April 30, 2013 haha yea...asking before hand would just be 10000% awkward. I think she's fairly attractive but I don't really know her that well This is favorable for you then. There's less of an expectation of anything...meaning she won't necessarily associate you with being just a friend based on prior interaction, and she won't rule out hooking, especially if you show her a good time. Link to post Share on other sites
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