AsGoodAsItGets01 Posted September 21, 2004 Share Posted September 21, 2004 Ok it has been 13 days since I have contacted my ex. I see her away messages at night saying she is staying the night with the new guy she is dating. They both go to the same college. Anyways she called me three times while I was at a party. I was with my friends and I think she knew I was in the same town she was. I didn't call her back and she didn't leave a message. I am not sure why she called but she messaged my friend on instant messenger asking him if he was going to be in town again because her and her roomies are throwing a big birthday party for her friend Satruday night. So one of the reasons she may have called was to invite me to that party. If that's the case then that is kind weird because she has said she needs time apart to figure out things for herslef, plus she will be there maybe with her new boyfriend, PLUS it will be my birthday too. My friends and I are not going to go of course, but I was suprised that she called. SO WHAT DOES EVERYBODY THINK ABOUT THAT??? Also she might call for my birthday or send me a card and I don't think I am gonna call her back...I still have my pride.....So what does everybody think about that too??? ANY ADVICE WOULD BE GREAT!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Fayebelle Posted September 21, 2004 Share Posted September 21, 2004 Don't return her calls- if you see her on the street- be polite but not engaging. If she leaves you birthday greetings- Thank her and move on. Nothing but the basic conversation until you feel you are truly over her. That is the best way to move on. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
beautiful Posted September 21, 2004 Share Posted September 21, 2004 I just do not understand all of this and I never will.......................an ex is an ex for a reason! Why are you still so involved in her life? why are you running around guessing about what she thinks etc etc etc? She is with someone new! Anything else going on is pure games! Aren't you worth being in a healthy relationship? So here is what I think.................................anyone that got dumped and is not moving on in a healthy way has some serious issues. That is a sign, a red flag that YOU must makes changes within YOU! Once those changes are made , you can have a healthy relationship. If someone dumps you that is OK! It is their choice to be with whom ever they want to be with. It is time to let go, Yes one feels bad and griefs because it is a loss however the madness starts with "GUESSING" "WONDERING". When someone sincerely loves you, there is no drama! There is mutual respect and there are 2 healthy people in a relationship. You only hurting yourself more by "GUESSING" what she may or may not think or what something means. There is help out there, if you need a counselor , get one to help you get over this. Stop allowing a girl to have such power over you! Start living your life. There are million other healthy girls out there, however until you fix you, you will never have one healthy relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
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