Extrovert vs. Introvert

[Emilia]

I think they are both slandered in some way. A lot of people assume that introverts lack ambition or are not assertive. I am an introvert, although lately I've been enjoying socializing, but I've always fared fine on my own. I have always been ambitious, but do I need to be around people all the time? No.

In my job having a mixture of introverted and extroverted traits is desirable. I work with people a lot so I socialise with them after work picking and choosing the activities I prefer. However, my introverted nature helps with office politics as I am not so concerned about what they think of me as I don't need to engage with them constantly (in fact, prefer not to).

 

So you can turn your traits to your advantage.

[Shepp]

I think its less about extrovert or introvert and more about charisma and 'natural leadership'.

 

I'm not the most extroverted guy in the world, I don't really talk for the sake of it but people would never say im introverted because I love to crack a joke and have a laugh (which is funny really cause theres no reason why you cant be funny & introverted).

The thing is although I don't speak for the sake I know what to say when I open my mouth - ive always had people see me as a 'leader' of sorts - even when the projects doomed and the last thing I want to be is leader it seems I cant help it.

 

I don't believe its about how much you open your mouth but about the quality of what you say when you do

[pink_sugar]

I think its less about extrovert or introvert and more about charisma and 'natural leadership'.

 

I'm not the most extroverted guy in the world, I don't really talk for the sake of it but people would never say im introverted because I love to crack a joke and have a laugh (which is funny really cause theres no reason why you cant be funny & introverted).

The thing is although I don't speak for the sake I know what to say when I open my mouth - ive always had people see me as a 'leader' of sorts - even when the projects doomed and the last thing I want to be is leader it seems I cant help it.

 

I don't believe its about how much you open your mouth but about the quality of what you say when you do

 

Exactly. I crack all kinds of jokes with my close friends. Once you get to know me, you're in for a ride! However, I've never been into partying or clubbing as I just don't like big loud social situations. I get a lot more out of 1x1 interaction than being part of a huge group. I don't like huge gatherings. In that way I'm introverted, which has nothing to do with how successful I will be.

[Southern Cal Dude]

Depends on your job. In a job where it's commission like car salesman or stock broker, being extroverted and outgoing is going to get you more money. But in a job doing research or anything that is computers related, it probably won't be as beneficial.

 

You don't need to be extroverted and outgoing to network or be popular. I'm actually introverted, but still successfully network and am still popular. Personality and as shallow as it is, physical appearance, both go a long way.

[Ryan9]

I have found money making capacity is most often mediated by one's appreciation for time.

 

Personality can influence social capital, but even introverts can successfully engage in social networking opportunities. As an introvert, antecdotally, I have found that I recharge via being alone, while my extrovert colleagues recharge through engagement w/others. Being an introvert does not necessarily mean you are not able to maximize social capital IMHO

 

 

This is very true.

 

 

Introverts are capable of extremely extroverted peaks. Introverts simply recharge differently. They run on a different fuel.

[genuinelyloverly7]

Wow- I am this way and think of these things ALL the time. Until I found "Party of One: The Lover's Manifesto." It is AWESOME! Validates those that need more internal charging, and serves up the media (generally speaking) as the perpetrators of so much 'loner misunderstanding.' Love yourself, and respect your right to solitude.

 

From a similar solitudinoust, RS

[Dread Pirate Roberts]

Wow- I am this way and think of these things ALL the time. Until I found "Party of One: The Lover's Manifesto." It is AWESOME! Validates those that need more internal charging, and serves up the media (generally speaking) as the perpetrators of so much 'loner misunderstanding.' Love yourself, and respect your right to solitude.

 

From a similar solitudinoust, RS

 

I'm a bit of an ambivert. When I was a kid I played a lot of sports, video games, did all sorts of fun stuff. I went out with friends a lot. Later in life I was told by some friends, "Yeah we missed you. You didn't come out that much with us." and I'm thinking, "What? Lol I went out with you guys all the time." I did also spend a lot of time alone, with myself, keeping myself entertained.

 

So, I drive introverts nuts with my extrovertedness and openness, but I drive the extroverts nuts with my introvertedness. Somewhere in the middle and I can't win for losing. lol

[Dread Pirate Roberts]

So my dad says you need to not be an introvert to make good money. His impression is that my husband will have a hard time making good money because of this. I disagree. There are all types of personalities. While being outgoing is a major plus, I know plenty of quiet and introverted people who make a good living. Unless you are a salesperson, like my dad who is living off of commission, I don't think you necessarily have to be outgoing.

 

You have to learn to be outgoing when its necessary for you. Introverts still go out and have fun, they're just easily spent with outside stimuli. Go at your own pace...as long as you don't turn into a hermit and never see the light of day you'll be fine. xD