A maybe?

[RomanceLow]

Long story short was with an ex for two years, he was sexting so i left him. Six months later he texts me and we talk about things we end in good terms. He says he still likes me and vice versa. Says lets be friends and maybe we can b more in the future? I say lets start by being friends i'm thinking maybe in the future. He invited me on a trip and i told him I had no money to pay for it he said don't worry about it i'll pay for you...I feel weird accepting since we are just friends... should I? He's trying to reconnect and no, he does not just want sex from me nor he will get it..What do you guys think I should do?

[Spark1111]

I wouldn't be friends with someone who was sexting another while in a relationship with me.

 

Why would he want to be your friend and afford your trip? To assuage his guilt and feel better about HIMSELF, as in, See? What I did could not have been so bad because she is still willing to be my friend.

 

the bigger question is why do you want his friendship with the chance of something more in the future with this guy?

 

You can do better. Move on and tell him no thanks.

[IfWishesWereHorses]

He is after sex. The "maybe more" in the future tells you that. Someone who constantly pushes boundaries is not someone you want to be friends with or "owe" anything to. If you're even considering this trip, I'd say you've made up your mind as well.

[jnel921]

Sounds like he is lonely and now needs someone to hang out with. He is willing to pay for some a$$ it seems.

 

Besides, who the heck is he to set the terms of your relationship? I am sure if you go the expectation would be some snatch, and if you don't give it I am sure you won't see him after the trip nor will he be the friend he is telling you he wants to be.

 

You don't need a guy like that. Pay for your own trips.

[BetrayedH]

He wants to be more than friends and he's willing to pay for your trip for the shot at it. I would stop pretending that this is a friendship, regardless of what you may want to call it. You're exes that are about to shack up on a trip together. If you go, I see this ending in frustration for both of you.

[CantgetoveritNY]

He wants to be more than friends and he's willing to pay for your trip for the shot at it. I would stop pretending that this is a friendship, regardless of what you may want to call it. You're exes that are about to shack up on a trip together. If you go, I see this ending in frustration for both of you.

 

I think you can be friendly, nice, polite, civil, with an ex even if that ex treated you very badly. But to be really close friends with an ex that treated you even just this badly would be asking for trouble. To go on a trip.... wowza! If you do it let us know how it goes. Should be fodder for some serious "don't try this at home" tales.

[Jonah]

Sounds like he wants to take you hostage with the promise of release.

 

Go have fun. Go without any money. Go without any expectations except to be hit on constantly. Be prepared to see him pout-a-plenty unless you put out.

 

What do you want? If its a future, just start making a bunch of rules. If he grew up any, he will like that and play along. If he its still a child, you will catch on real quick if you can stay out of denial.

 

if you can shed your expectations, then really, its no big deal.

[Jonah]

Accept, then when he comes to pick you up tell him you'll need to examine his cell phone before you get in the car. :-D