Grace1990 Posted April 30, 2013 Share Posted April 30, 2013 Tomorrow will be six months since me and my ex broke up. We have had LC at the start of the break up but its been NC pretty much all the way through. Our lives are so different now, he is at school with a group of people I don't know (may well have a new girlfriend) and I work full time, in a job that should be the start of a great career. I really want to contact him to see how he's getting on but when we have spoken in the past I always feel like he's trying to rush me away and making polite conversation. I'm very accepting of this break up but a part of me hates the fact that the last time I saw him we were screaming, crying and fighting with each other I'm just nervous to get in touch with him for fear of looking desperate and needy. I miss him, would like another chance but my head tells me its best to stay away....has anyone ever reached out to an ex after a long period of time? Link to post Share on other sites
Kobe2345 Posted May 1, 2013 Share Posted May 1, 2013 Who broke up with who? if you are prepared for any type of response then it shouldn't matter if you want to contact him or not, six months to me sounds like a good period of time for both of you guys to cool off and sort things out in life.. Link to post Share on other sites
mbee Posted May 1, 2013 Share Posted May 1, 2013 I would definitely contact him if you feel comfortable doing so. I've tried reaching out to exes in the past 6 months after a breakup and was glad doing so. Some people think you hated them and others are relieved and want to begin a friendship. I had an ex who wanted to start over but that was finished and over with. Just yesterday I met with my ex. He's someone I'm deeply in love with and completely broken hearted about the break up but it had to happen. We had last seen each other fighting, crying and saying terrible things out of anger and pain. See each other one last time and telling each other what the relationship meant and how much we love each other hurt so much, but it's way better than having that be our last memory. Give him a call and just catch up. Don't approach getting back together. You are both in different places in your life anyway. Also, don't have high expectations. He may not want to talk, it may be awkward or he may outright tell you that he's not ready for this. Alternatively you guys could become friends or even go on a date. Just don't have high expectations. I've been through that before and hurt a couple of guys who wanted that second chance and I couldn't give it to them. Plus it makes friendship harder if you know the other party is not over it entirely Link to post Share on other sites
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