Autistic Kid Wanting Love <3

[Nathan Sovik]

Ok so I've been getting heartbroken and hurt for the past 2 years now. <\3 I want to find love. I've been dealing with an uphill battle in life since day 1. I am born on the really functional side of the autistic spectrum. I know how to talk, eat, and etc. But I still get judged for me having autism and every girl I've liked has broken my heart. :''( I've tried making social friends but even that didn't work. The only thing that I can think of that can sooth the pain is love. I've tried everything; love notes, valentine cards, sweetness, affection, and being funny. But I still get my success and hopes crushed by someone that's better than me or has no class what so ever. I am not one of those 'swag' idiot kids either. I'm looking for a sweet girl that isn't slutty, 2 faced, or on drugs. Just want one girl to my sweetheart to stop my crying in pain. :'(

[quankanne]

forgive me for assuming, but you sound like you're in your teens to early 20s, a time when love just seems to be a hard thing to get a handle on. But don't give up. Don't ever give up.

 

if I could visit myself at that age and share advice, it'd be to embrace and appreciate who I am, even though that girl was not very popular in school (think geek). There are things about you that shine, Nathan, and if you remain true to those things, people will appreciate and respect you for those things. It doesn't matter if you're a geek or an autie – you've got some "oomph" that no one else has, and you're incredibly special because of it. Believe in that, not the labels people want to slap on you, because otherwise you make a miserable life for yourself.

 

in the meantime, get to know yourself better and start loving yourself who you are and what you have to offer – it's the perfect way of "being" while you're waiting to meet the one you're meant to be with. Learn to be comfortable in your skin – people pick up on that, and respond to it. Don't put yourself down for ANY reason – you are a gift to this world.

 

and don't give up. Love will walk in a door you never discovered, and it'll be the richest, most enjoyable thing you'll ever have known.

 

so, keep the faith, kiddo

Q

[2sure]

Oh you poor young guys. Autistic, artistic, average , and not. All in the same boat, at least now. But it changes love.

[hppr]

I've tried everything; love notes, valentine cards, sweetness, affection, and being funny.

 

Being funny is the only good one there the rest of those are for when you are *in* a relationship for awhile. Also girls that are on drugs, crazy, violent, mean, whatever, not worth your time. So don't worry about that either. Crying? Dude WTF. You are what, 19-20? You aren't the only guy that age without a girl, never been laid, etc. It's very common. ***What do you want to do with your life?*** that is the question you really need to ask yourself.

[Dudesmobile]

You'll find love everyone does just be patient i've had four heart surgeries, am allergic to milk and in my early 20's and have found love don't give up :)You still have college to experience

[gaius]

I notice a lot of awful parents today decide to ingrain in their male child that he has autism, or some other thing that makes him different. Then he takes that as his identity and it's a humiliation that destroys his confidence and haunts him for the rest of his life.

 

Here, if this makes you feel any better.

 

www.nytimes.com/2011/12/26/us/navigating-love-and-autism.html

[arthus1]

Ok so I've been getting heartbroken and hurt for the past 2 years now. <\3 I want to find love. I've been dealing with an uphill battle in life since day 1. I am born on the really functional side of the autistic spectrum. I know how to talk, eat, and etc. But I still get judged for me having autism and every girl I've liked has broken my heart. :''( I've tried making social friends but even that didn't work. The only thing that I can think of that can sooth the pain is love. I've tried everything; love notes, valentine cards, sweetness, affection, and being funny. But I still get my success and hopes crushed by someone that's better than me or has no class what so ever. I am not one of those 'swag' idiot kids either. I'm looking for a sweet girl that isn't slutty, 2 faced, or on drugs. Just want one girl to my sweetheart to stop my crying in pain. :'(

 

 

autistic people are most of the time socially awkward, from the ones I've met anyways. Just work on your social skills. Do you get along well with other people? Are you able to maintain conversations?

[ThaWholigan]

Being that you're high-functioning, you're probably more socially and emotionally attuned than you realize and likely struggle with processing all of this. Knowing this, it would be advisable if you learn to thicken your skin.

 

Being autistic is just a figment of who you are, not the whole. Identifying with it and believing that people are rejecting you for this affliction is not going to do you any favors.

 

The best thing you can do is try not to buy into the stock phrases and focus on who you are as a person and what are your likes, dislikes, goals and boundaries. Once you do this, you will be in a better, stronger position.

 

If I were you, I would not worry about "love" too much. What you need to do is practice conversing with people (particularly girls if you wish) without attaching so much meaning to it all. It's simply cutting your teeth to learn some skills.

[arthus1]

what I'm jealous and envious of about women is that social skills and conversation skills are not as important for them to have as it is for men to have

 

I know what to you mean, very true and it sucks. Women have it easy but us men have to do the hard work.