pitufa796 Posted September 22, 2004 Share Posted September 22, 2004 My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and living together (in his house) for 1 year. About a month ago he told me that he couldn't take the pressure anymore of our erelationship and said he was moving upstairs until I found a place to move. after talking to him and try to make hime reason about it he decided to try one more time. In that time he got very stressed and impatient and finally last Friday he broke up with me again. I'm heart broken and very sad, I didn't want to stay in his house but I have an 8 year old that loves him very much and I didn't want to expose him to much pain. Sunday my boyfriend told me that we will try one more time (this is only because I have been a wreck and he feels bad for me, he also says he loves my son and doesn't want to hurt him) But as much as I see him trying (he says he hates to see me sad and that must mean somethin) I think that it won't work, since I feel that is not in him anymore. I felt badly all week and don't really know what to do next. I started looking into buying a co-op, but that will take months, I also don't know if will work or not, so I don't know what to do, and since our finances are together its a lot harder for me. Can I please get some advice? Link to post Share on other sites
Butchey Posted September 22, 2004 Share Posted September 22, 2004 What kind of pressure? What are you doing to make him feel pressure? Link to post Share on other sites
Girlie Posted September 22, 2004 Share Posted September 22, 2004 Without knowing anymore than what you said, it sounds like, from your words, that he's only trying to make it work because he feels bad. Not because he really wants to. That's not healthy for either of you, especially for you and your son. Having a young son of my own, I understand not wanting to expose them to pain. But your bf not wanting to be in this relationship anymore, for whatever reason, is outside of the realm of your control. It's going to hurt, but you'll both heal and you have each other. My advice would be to start getting your finances and your living arrangements separated now. It might take time, but it really sounds like this relationship is headed toward the end (again, this is just from what you said) and you need to get ready to be independent. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. Losing a long-term relationship is so painful...no way around that. I hope that everything turns out ok. Link to post Share on other sites
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