My Crush is back

[Kirsta]

A lil history- I work at the headquarters for a company that has a couple dozen employees scattered across the country. They call in all the time for this and that. Most of them are pretty cool but there is one (let's call him Alex) that happens to be my favorite. He’s always respectful, polite and cheerful. He also happens to be very good looking and a bit of a flirt. I’ve been getting what I think are mixed messges from him from time to time so I’m just wondering if there’s something actually there?* Or if it’s just wishful thinking. He lives about 500 mi away and a couple of years ago, the company flew in everybody for a big holiday party.*When our eyes met, I could not help but notice just how hot he was. We didn’t interact much during the party because it was a sit-down banquet and the big-wigs had an itinerary to follow. We did formally introduction ourselves & joked about “finally being able to put a face to a name” but didn’t really have time for any small talk. Anyway the party came to an end and everyone was saying goodbye. While we were filtering out I looked around for him (to say goodbye) in the main room and couldn’t find him so, I gave up and figured I’d talk to him later by phone. I turned the corner and there he was standing by the wall. It was an L shaped room and he was on the other side of the entrance wall (outside). It seemed like he was trailing behind/stalling, just waiting there. I said “It was nice to finally meet you” and he gave me a long hug. And at that point, I was crushing super hard. But nothing really came of it.

 

A few months ago, on a day my coworker who sits next to me would-not-stop bitching about everything, he called in, all cheerful and I complimented him on always staying positive no matter the situation. Partly to pay him the genuine compliment and the other so my coworker would hear and maybe consider changing her attitude. It was a spur-of-the-moment thing that I just blurted and I got sooo flustered. But ever since then he’ll initiate a few seconds of convo first when he calls in.* A few weeks ago he called in and chatted up my coworker (a 55yo+ married woman) and told her he thought of her the evening before, listening to some music she’d recommended him some time ago. The call dropped so I don’t know how that call would have continued. She later reiterated how very handsome and a big flirt he is. Didn’t know what to make of that so I pretended that I couldn’t remember how good looking he is. In case she was on to me!

 

I’m not the receptionist, but we have a round-robin system for the phones so when you call in, you never know who’s going to pick up. I’ve picked up his calls several times before where Alex’s greeted me normally but now he immediately compliments me on my voice saying “Mmm! Wow, who’s voice is this!?” (Sometimes I immediately identify myself sometimes I don’t. I switch it up ) Lately it seems he’s memorized my voice because last week when he called he said “Hi, Kirrrrsttttttaaaaa, is this Kirsta?” in a cutesy way. But then he also called in and said “Good Morning, who is this?” I* said “Heyyyy Alex, it's Kirsta”, and he said “I don’t even care which one of you this is, my God, just keep talking!” lol Was this flirting? I couldn’t flirt back because there were all these people around and no privacy to flirt back so I just giggled and said “Aww, thank you”. He’s also now throwing in “my dear” and “I’ll be in touch”. Now he’s complementing my voice just about every other time he calls in. Is he testing the waters? The other day he called to tell me he was going to *Email* me some paperwork. (Why not just email me then? Lol)* When he did email me the paperwork he sent me two of the same thing and forgot to add the third thing I needed. When I emailed him back he emailed “I’m such a silly boy.” I joked back “OK, I’ll let it slide this time” but he didn’t respond to that. Or maybe he didn’t need to? Anyway, needless to say my crush is back full-force and I'm confused on how to proceed. Is anything happening here? Or is it wishful thinking on my part? *And now I hear he might be coming in to our office for meetings soon…Oh Goddd!

 

What do you make of this? I'd appreciate any thoughts on this.

[Kirsta]

Thanks! And thanks for taking the time to answer. I appreciate it.

[Javelin]

What do you make of this? I'd appreciate any thoughts on this.

 

Distance is likely going to be a problem, but Brick is right - he's probably flirting with you because it's in his personality. Don't let this discourage you though!

 

You truly like him though, but just becareful - you might slip and have no one to catch you.

[Kirsta]

You truly like him though, but just becareful - you might slip and have no one to catch you.

 

I do- but that was precisely what I was thinking! It could go very wrong very quickly and if it did- oh boy. This whole thing might be better left to wishful thinking.