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Why has she unblocked me from social media even if she is over me?

Thames Dweller

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Thames Dweller

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She says she over me and doesnt think highly of me but she has unblocked me from facebook,whatsapp,twitter.

 

why unblock me then?

 

Im getting over her and in the process of healing.

 

She's already seeing someone, weeks within finishing with me but i am very confused about her recent actions in choosing to unblock me.

 

Any thoughts/Ideas??

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flitzanu

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social media is not real life, who cares? it doesnt mean a thing. quit stalking her page. she is dating someone else, and clearly is moving on with her life. you should stop worrying about what she is doing on facebook and focus on your life.

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Thames Dweller

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I know your right, and with each passing day, ive been better and checking in less and less. but still, it seems to me a very peculiar thing to do.

 

anyway, thanks for your comment.

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all_cats_rgray

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We will never understand the actions of the ex.

 

They seem to do some of the stupid stuff all the time.

 

Do your self a favor, forget it.

 

To me its a control thing. They want to see how much they affected you. The more attention you pay to it/her/ the relationship the more important they feel.

 

ignore, ignore, ignore. indifference is the opposite of love.

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Either she is really not over you because she had to have made a conscious decision to unblock you or she is f****** with you. I had a ex do that before. I immediately re-blocked her on my end. I'm at almost 60 days no contact and I can tell you that NC works. not as tool to get her back abut as a tool to clear your own head. I would block her again and just keep moving on with your life. She had her chance.

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thefooloftheyear

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Just block her...

 

She is probably only concerned with who you are banging...She doesnt want you back, but wants to see you forever yearning for her so she can inflate her ego.... Do one of two things..

 

-Post tons of pictures of insanely hot women and comment on their assets. Also. tell all your female "friends" to like every stupid thing you post.

 

-Or just block her...end of story...

 

TFY

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Either she is really not over you because she had to have made a conscious decision to unblock you or she is f****** with you. I had a ex do that before. I immediately re-blocked her on my end. I'm at almost 60 days no contact and I can tell you that NC works. not as tool to get her back abut as a tool to clear your own head. I would block her again and just keep moving on with your life. She had her chance.

 

 

They know you will be looking at their pages. To me its a control thing. They want to see how much they affected you. By keeping the "door" open they can keep you thinking about them, this is for their OWN ego.

 

In no way about i'm thinking of you, maybe i made a mistake. NO

 

This is all about them not you.

 

ignore, ignore, ignore. indifference is the opposite of love.

 

Like before...she had her chance.

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They know you will be looking at their pages. To me its a control thing. They want to see how much they affected you. By keeping the "door" open they can keep you thinking about them, this is for their OWN ego.

 

In no way about i'm thinking of you, maybe i made a mistake. NO

 

This is all about them not you.

 

ignore, ignore, ignore. indifference is the opposite of love.

 

Like before...she had her chance.

 

Your right but one thing I have learned about myself is that I'm not the curious type. the only way I knew was she liked a mutual friends stuff and even then I did not look at her page. I don't want to know what shes doing and honestly, it's none of my business anymore. When I decided that NC was the best option I never once looked at her page when we had not blocked each other. I really decided and asked myself how bad I really wanted to heal? Once I made that decision, it's been pretty ok. Of course I miss her but then again I don't miss some of the stuff she did.

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mtnbiker3000

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Man, I do not get this Facebook stuff. So glad I don't even have an account. I just don't know how one could possibly even begin to heal while constantly checking in on the ex. Seems like pure, complete, self-inflicted TORTURE to me. But, I guess that's just me. Bad FB. Bad...

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Cognitive Miser

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My ex did the exact same thing. Right before blocking me, she posted some ignorant rant on my wall because I stopped talking to her and went NC after she broke up with me. I guess she tried to get a rise out of me and get some attention as well but it kind of just blew up in her face as my brother called her out on all of her BS.

 

Immediately after that she blocked me, along with all my brothers as well. And she made her siblings block me, too. She always proclaimed herself as being mature and does all that. Such childish antics, don't you think?

 

Anyway, as some time passes by I am scrolling through my feed and see her profile pop up. I was surprised but also not surprised, it just made me laugh.

 

Their unblocking can be interpreted in many different ways. In my opinion, it was either because 1) they feel they have out grown the relationship and have moved on so could care less if we remained blocked or not (but than why would they even care to unblock? hmm...) and 2) they want to check up on their ex. And it could be a mix of both as well.

 

Either way, I never gave too much thought to it or even really cared. It didn't give me any urge to check up on her or really even think much about it. I gave it a few quick thoughts than, mehhh, moved on from the thought. In which case so should you.

 

It doesn't really matter what their motives were, they're old news anyway. If it starts to create any problems for you, I'd suggest just blocking her. Don't pick at old wounds and just keep moving forward with your life.

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That can be confusing. For me unblocking means we are cool and she's cool with friendship oon a small level. Since it took her time to think of ypu, remember she blocked you and then uunblock, I would interpret that as she has let things go and is open to u communicating on a small level

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I can't say for sure, but i think that maybe she indeed got over you and she's telling the truth and that's the reason she unblocked you. When you get over someone, you are indifferent towards him, you haven't hard feelings because you don't want to, you once shared mutual feelings and you respect that. So does she if this is the case and she's telling the truth. You know better.



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block her and stop worrying. if she wants in your life she will tell you. my ex unblocked me after 2 years. know what it means? nothing, bc we still don't speak and we aren't fb friends.

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