Can't get over gf cheating and leaving me

[BeholdtheMan]

She has told me she feels like an idiot with him in public and she told me there was no future with him. She has waivered in her words between me and him the whole time, all the while keeping physical and emotional relations with him.

You're the back-up guy. Do you really want to live your life as someone else's second choice? Come on bro, you're better than that

 

I feel naïve

Nice punctuation, I rarely see this. Good job!

 

...and yes you sound quite naive, it's OK. It's never too late to grow up.

 

I feel like she is the only girl for me

No she's not man. You can do better. You sound really desperate and low self-esteem. You honestly think you can't find another girl? By the way, when a guy gives off these vibes of "you're the only girl for me" despite her banging other dudes, it telegraphs to the girl that this guy is a loser who has a hard time hooking up with women, hence he desperately clings to what he has.

 

Suffice to say, women don't find these desperate vibes attractive

 

Just looking to vent and get any friendly advice.

Man up and move on. This is the best advice you can follow. Trust me

 

If you move on and she comes crawling back, then maybe you can consider taking her back...maybe.

 

If she let's you go, well hey, her loss. You're now back in the dating pool. That ain't a bad thing.

Edited May 13, 2013 by BeholdtheMan

[wkbetrayed]

We chatted late Sunday night via text. She admittedly said she misses me so much it hurts and that she is so sorry for putting me through hell. Said she wants to try again, though she knows it will be hard. She also met up with the other guy last night to tell him that she was not on the same page as him - they hadn't seen each other in over a week as she was feeling for me.

 

All our communication has been via text cause I said I wasn't sure if I wanted to meet in person at this point. I don't want to see, touch, smell her until she has had enough time to validate her feelings. I told her I was fine and moving on, but maybe we could meet later in the week.

 

She had asked if I had been with anyone else and said she was really worried about that. She was aware how hypocritical that is.

 

I am really working hard at figuring out what I want first and foremost. I am struggling to get past this whole trauma and can't afford to go through it again.... but such a huge part of my pain is that we didn't get to try again. I still don't trust that she is stable regardless of what I want.

 

I understand the safest way to go is to just move on and say no to trying again, but it also seems like something I will regret.

[Darren Steez]

Honestly dude what the heck is wrong with you? Where's your self respect man?

So she dumps you to the curb, tosses you out like a piece of trash then all she has to do is tell you some sweet words and you're on her again?

 

What she is doing now is the very reason she could cheat on you in the first place, she has no respect for you and you put such high value on her that she can do whatever she wants but as long as she nices you, you will take her back.

 

So they're not on the same page because she's feeling you? lol and when she stops feeling you, will that put them on the same page again? Was she feeling you when she was sleeping with him and ignoring you?

 

She wants a puppet to stroke her ego, man you're so happy she's giving her time you barely know what to do. You've already forgotten what she's done to you because you're willing to sweep it under the rug so you can be with her.

 

I wish you luck brah. You're going to need it.

[Chi townD]

Dude, there are 11 billion people on this planet and you are hung up on the only one girl that cheated on you and dumped you without a second thought.

 

Dude, remember what it felt like going by that dude's place and seeing her car parked out front? How gutted you must have felt knowing that she was currently in his place. Spending time with him and doing God knows what with him?

 

Dude, you can do sooo much better. You deserve so much better.

[BeholdtheMan]

TS is stuck in "groveling door-mat mode". We've already given him plenty of advice. It's up to him whether he wants to respect himself