backspn Posted September 23, 2004 Share Posted September 23, 2004 Last week we had a lil argument and she told me that she needed a break. She said that I expect too much from her emotinally and mentally as a friend. We have been broken up for over 6 months and she was talking about what I expect from a friend. She says that I have too high of expectations for my friends. You see, we are more than friends, we're really good friends and have been for 3 years even after the break. Well....she hasnt called in over a week now and I havent broken the NC that seems has been laid down by her by her not calling. She sits on AIM every night and doesnt IM me. Now before you say anything....Im not expecting her to......just hoping. I have sort of moved on...the first step to moving on.....and would like to start up communications with her again...but I will not break the NC. My birthday is today and Im not expecting anything from her, although I have received birthday greetings from her for 4 years now. I dont know why Im making this post but to ask a few questions. How long should I wait to end the NC? What should I do here? p.s....she put this on her away message last night.....any translations? Was it directed towards me? "getting some cake...its the only lovin i'm gettin lately...F@CK!!" Link to post Share on other sites
Scott S Posted September 23, 2004 Share Posted September 23, 2004 Originally posted by backspn How long should I wait to end the NC? What should I do here? It depends on who initiated the NC. That isn't clear from your posting. If you did, then you end it when you feel ready to talk to her in a mature & rational manner. If she did, it ends when she ends it. Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted September 23, 2004 Share Posted September 23, 2004 I think NC ends when the person who wanted time apart or broke stuff off gets their crap together and contacts the person. She was the one who wanted the space so that to me is what starts the NC. Link to post Share on other sites
Author backspn Posted September 23, 2004 Author Share Posted September 23, 2004 She called me this morning and wished me a happy birthday. It wasnt a mellow "happy birthday" but an upbeat one....the kind she used to give me when we were together. I was in between classes so I couldnt talk long so I asked her if she would call me back tonight and she said she would try. I ended the conversation by saying "good to talk with you and hope you call soon", I then hung up. Is it good that I was the one who ended the conversation? Or does it really not matter? I didnt ask her about us or why she took a week and a half to call me. BTW...she started the NC and she ended. Did I do the right things? What to do next? Link to post Share on other sites
Scott S Posted September 24, 2004 Share Posted September 24, 2004 [ I ended the conversation by saying "good to talk with you and hope you call soon", I then hung up. Is it good that I was the one who ended the conversation? Or does it really not matter? I didnt ask her about us or why she took a week and a half to call me. BTW...she started the NC and she ended. Did I do the right things? What to do next? It sounds like you handled it well, assuming you weren't rude or unduly brusque with her. Wait a few days back before you try callnig her back if she didn't call last night or today. Be friendly & polite, try not to sound anxious to get back together though. Link to post Share on other sites
Author backspn Posted September 24, 2004 Author Share Posted September 24, 2004 I dont know....I think maybe the 1 1/2 weeks of NC werent enough for her to realize if she misses me or not. She tells me she cares for me but her actions prove otherwise. I guess all I want to know if she does miss us. If she does great....if not maybe longer NC...if not then....I move on. I think I will go 2 more weeks of NC on my part. I wont answer her phone calls at all for the next 2 weeks and see where it goes. Link to post Share on other sites
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