Is he blowing me off?

[scorpio1978]

And so it begins...I just joined this site for advice on a particular situation and found everyone who responds to be so helpful, that I am back for more advice.

 

I met someone about through work about 6 months ago and have had my eye on him since. He gave me butterflies when I first met him. He is going through a divorce that will be final next month, so I vowed to take it slow after he pursued me. We went on our first date a month ago I got texts every morning for 2 weeks thereafter, telling me to have a nice day, etc., asking me how my day was going and what-not, I talked to him every day while I was on vacation and on our first date, I felt literally sick with excitement and have never been on a better first date. We went out 3 times in one week and each date got better and better.

 

He invited me to his house for a BBQ this past week where I met his friends and we had such an amazing time. He was loving, attentive, kissed me, held my hand, all that jazz and we ended up sleeping together that night and since then, things have been very weird. I got the obligatory "have a nice day" text the day after, but no more trying to make plans with me, no calls from him like usual, and when I see him at work, he seems a little "frosty". We don't work together, but close enough to where I do run into him a little.

 

I stepped up and asked him if he would like to grab dinner this week and picked a night. He said he had plans with his friends at first, then backtracked and said he wasn't sure if they were going to come together and maybe he and I could do something afterall, but that he would keep me posted. The night in question, tonight is here and by 6pm, I hadn't heard either way yet what was going on. So, I shot him a text saying "I hope you didn't get stuck at work. Do you know if you and your friends are going out tonight afterall?". I mean, let a girl know! His response "Still at work, haven't heard from them. I don't know". Nothing else and no acknowledgment of anything with me.

 

Folks, I am bad at this. REALLY bad. Number one, I am beating myself up for sleeping with him because things seem to have gone downhill since then. Two, I am wondering if I am coming on too strong and Three, I am also wondering if I am being too sensitive with how tonight went. I just feel like something is off and I am not sure how to proceed. I really like this man a lot and feel like this could be the start of something good, but I don't know what to do now. We are supposed to go to a housewarming party together in two days and I just feel all kinds of awkward.

 

Did I do something wrong? Any pointers on how to get things back on track?

 

I know that a divorce can be a real strain on a new relationship and there is that possibility that he is not ready to move on afterall, but if there is something I can do to get things back to how they were at the first week, I would. There is something in me that just tells me that this guy is different and stick it out, but I don't know how.

 

Any advice?