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Ladies: Would you date a guy if he was 25, no car, still lived with parents?

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Confusia1 Member

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Basically, what the title says?

 

I am 25 years old and I still live at home with my father. I went through a bad patch of depression a couple years ago and since then I've been unable to find stable work. I have a certain idea of what I would like to do, but it would mean going back to education and I'm not sure what to do.

 

I have been working a temp job for a few months now and the pay is average, so I don't have enough money to move out. As for the car situation, well, I've taken a lot of lessons but then I've had irregular work and have had to stop and start with lessons.

 

Anyway, I'm not going to go into too much detail, but if you dated a guy without knowing all this, would you then be turned off by it or would it not matter to you?

Seductive Established Member

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If I was your age ,it probably wouldn't matter. I was living at home at your age too and suffering from depression. At the age of 30, I wouldn't date you. But, that's only because I don't think I'm a good match for men in their 20's anymore. :)

 

You're working towards achieving your goals, so that may make a difference. Good luck.

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Agree with above....at your age it's not that big of a deal. The main things are that you are working towards a goal (stable job, own place).

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xpaperxcutx Established Member

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Going back to school for an education will more likely guarantee you a job in a better paying a field. What are your interests? Computer sciences and nursing are in demand and it's possible to go to school while you are working parttime.

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It is unusual for a man your age to not have a driver's license, at least here in the US.

 

If you live in suburbia, and must walk or use public transport, that will deny you a certain segment of women who expect a man to be independently mobile. In a big city, less denial, as more people walk/use public transport.

 

Living at home at your age could be an issue for some women but not overwhelmingly so.

 

IMO, the main issue affecting attractiveness for dating is how you've progressed through your depression and how your current behaviors are perceived. Having a stable job is also a factor, but that can be variable depending on where you live as certain areas are depressed economically.

 

The bottom line is, if a lady likes you, dating you won't be a problem. The rest works itself out. If the factors you mentioned are or become dealbreakers, that's how it goes. Good luck..

Pompeii Established Member

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They won't do it.

 

Better hope you're not a virgin too.

HoneyBadgerDontCare Established Member

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I moved out when I was 25. I never had trouble getting girls before or since.

Hopeless80 Member

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I'm a 32 year old woman and I'd still date a guy my age who lives at home and/or doesn't have a car/license IF I really felt that I could have something with him. If he was up front about it and I knew from the beginning I'd be fine with it. However, if I found out he had been lying about it then I would be upset.

 

I personally feel that if you have a connection with someone than everything will work out in the end. You just need to be open and honest about it and find someone who accepts you for you.

 

They won't do it.

 

Better hope you're not a virgin too.

Well, that was rude and non helpful. :rolleyes:

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Pompeii Established Member

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Well, that was rude and non helpful. :rolleyes:

 

No, it was actually the truth. Most women won't date a guy who can't take them from point A to point B and most women don't like to teach virgin guys.

 

Just the way the world works.

iris219 Established Member

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I'd be more concerned that you suffer from major depression and that don't have a career path than I would be about you living at home with no car.

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No, it was actually the truth. Most women won't date a guy who can't take them from point A to point B and most women don't like to teach virgin guys.

 

Just the way the world works.

Maybe "most" of the women you know. Most I know don't really give a damn if a guys a virgin or not. For me personally, the less partners a guy has had before we got involved the better. I'd rather have a guy who respects women instead of one who does a lot of bed hopping to get a piece.

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How many hours do you work each week? I had true admiration for my ex. He didn't have a college degree, and he lived with 3 other men, and his car was 16 years old, but he worked 90+ hours/week.

 

Also, if you end up with a woman with significantly higher earning potential, would you consider being a house-husband and stay-at-home dad?

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Maybe "most" of the women you know. Most I know don't really give a damn if a guys a virgin or not. For me personally, the less partners a guy has had before we got involved the better. I'd rather have a guy who respects women instead of one who does a lot of bed hopping to get a piece.

 

No, I believe it's most of the female population in general. A guy isn't seen as a "real man" unless he's wanted by other women.

 

A quick Google search can help you with that.

 

Also, just because you sleep with a lot of women doesn't mean you don't respect them.

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Basically, what the title says?

 

I am 25 years old and I still live at home with my father. I went through a bad patch of depression a couple years ago and since then I've been unable to find stable work. I have a certain idea of what I would like to do, but it would mean going back to education and I'm not sure what to do.

 

I have been working a temp job for a few months now and the pay is average, so I don't have enough money to move out. As for the car situation, well, I've taken a lot of lessons but then I've had irregular work and have had to stop and start with lessons.

 

Anyway, I'm not going to go into too much detail, but if you dated a guy without knowing all this, would you then be turned off by it or would it not matter to you?

 

hey pal, i have a friend who's 29, lives in a studio basement apartment (with no heat, no A/C, no space to do anything) who has no car, has no job, is collecting the bare minimum off the goverment, doesn't shower, doesn't take care of himself at all, has no motivation to change his life, has no idea how to treat women, has no idea how to act in public, and yet he landed an attractive girlfriend.

 

if he can do it, so can you!

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Basically, what the title says?

 

I am 25 years old and I still live at home with my father. I went through a bad patch of depression a couple years ago and since then I've been unable to find stable work. I have a certain idea of what I would like to do, but it would mean going back to education and I'm not sure what to do.

 

I have been working a temp job for a few months now and the pay is average, so I don't have enough money to move out. As for the car situation, well, I've taken a lot of lessons but then I've had irregular work and have had to stop and start with lessons.

 

Anyway, I'm not going to go into too much detail, but if you dated a guy without knowing all this, would you then be turned off by it or would it not matter to you?

 

If you are physically attractive and charming she probably won't care, it's not like you're the only 20something who is down and out right now. Tons of girls are as well I can't count how many I know who are in your age group, or older, who are back at mom/dad's because they are broke.

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No, but I'm over 50. And married.

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I would date you if I knew you were trying and wasn't someone that was just all talk. I don't care about the car, but as someone who is 21 and has been living on my own without the support of my parents (out of my own choice, didn't want to be a financial burden on my hard-working parents) since I was 18, I would only date someone who still lived with his parents if he was trying to to make a life for himself and in the mean time paid his portion of living expenses while living with his parents or at least did his share of the work around the house.

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I believe that women can see potential far better than men. If the right lady meets you, see what you have gone through and that you are working towards a goal and you have planned steps in achieving them, then Yeah women will go for a guy like you.

 

Keep your chin up, have confidence and believe in the person you are and who you want to become and you will be suprised with the attention the ladies will start giving you.

 

Good luck and have faith!!

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