MM wants to go ahead proceeding with our plan

[Mount]

Again, pls reply to other posters' post. I never accept Lecturing that coming from meanless or pointless thoughts.

 

Good for your for your bold part, pls continue living your life which is dealing with your issues...or whatever. Not welcome replying from you pls.

 

So he said he's got this plan - and his plan also depends on what his wife decides to do?

 

So now you've placed your future and life not only on what HE may or may not DO - but it's now also dependent on what his wife decides too?

 

Sheez, that's now two other people removed from being TOTALLY and SOLEY IN CHARGE of YOUR LIFE Mount.

 

My life isn't dependent on what others decide to do or not do - that is strictly up to ME and MY CONSCIENCE!

 

You need to become more in charge of your own decisions and life plan - in order to become happy on your own.

[Mount]

Alright...whatever you say, let it go....forget my post....Just let go.

 

Gzzzz...no wonder some men leave certain women, even being a woman myself, I can stand those kind of women.

 

Mount wrote, "Ha, it seems you already have my life planned out. At this point, as MM keeps saying that he wants to tell wife and asks for D next month, I am pretty much nervous."

 

Why are you nervous Mount?

I ask because a few hours later you posted, "So I am very ease on what he said about timeline or whatever he perceived us as future whatever, because I am not the one saying that."

 

I think you have more emotion than you let on here because of your reply to 2Sunny, "That is the down-side that when some posters replied with lots of moral education, talking about emotion, feeling, victim or being victim...etc,"

Otherwise, all this talk of being Moral & Ethical & having emotions for more than just yourself etc... would have rolled off.

 

Ya know Mount, it's OKAY to want to talk logically and realistically about things. I think the issue for many of us is that we don't find Affairs, cheating, infidelity, sharing bodily fluids w/three people and so on neither logical nor realistic.

To some of us, A's really do show a lack or lapse in morals/moral judgment and they are not ethical and they Do raise a-lot of emotions within us.

I don't necessarily believe I am stating this as a BW or for all BS's but for some AP's & WS's as well and others on involved in an A situation.

 

But I DO think that you said it the best in that this whole thread is an "UPDATE" on your CURRENT Stitch and the OUTCOME is yet to be REVEALED but the date or time is set.

We will see then and honestly Mount, I think you can be pretty cool* and I want you to have a happy future*

CIH

[2sunny]

What women? CIH or just women in general who happen not to agree with you?

 

Apparently she doesn't like women like me - the women who might try to help her make smart decisions for herself. Decisions that are in her best interest. Decisions that might help her grow and be happy all on her own. No, let's not listen to women who have been there, done that.

[Mount]

Enough...enough wasting time debating here...I can tell you I was intentionally leaving my original silverspoon life style (comfort zone) from my family, moving across half earth, and made everything myself, career, property.....how many people here can do that?

 

But what is the point to talk about this to you, I have 0 interest to lecture people, but people do thing they want to do - it does matter how many wives want to put leashes on their men, or vice versa, AGAIN -people do things they want to do (choose destiny).

 

Net, this post should end, I did not intend to make the post as venting ground for some pathetic women/Betrayed wives' grudge.

 

Plus, I am already very old...no need to "grow" (sounds so childish).

 

This post should close now.

 

Apparently she doesn't like women like me - the women who might try to help her make smart decisions for herself. Decisions that are in her best interest. Decisions that might help her grow and be happy all on her own. No, let's not listen to women who have been there, done that.

[2sunny]

I'm old too Mount - and I hope I never stop growing!

 

The day I stop growing is the day I might as well be dead.

 

 

You've made your choice - I hope you will be happy with it.

 

 

Ps - I don't understand your hostility and anger at people who have YOUR best interest in mind - that baffles me. So does the defensiveness. Makes me sad for you, but oh well, can't help someone who won't help themself.

 

Ultimately, yes, he should get honest with his wife - the sooner the better - as with everything and everyone in life.

[ComingInHot]

mount wrote, " go....forget my post..."

 

Which one/s?

 

Geez mount, I was actually being kind and empathetic while showing a couple contradictions from Three different posts of yours. I only did that to maybe help you see you Do carry emotions even in having logical discussion and that you do have heart.

 

Soooorrrryy, I was wrong. My bad.

[Mount]

I am very old (in my opnion), the MM is older than me (less than 20yr but older than 10 y/s). I also think I have mentioned multiple times as well, if people did not dwell on moral lecture, they would have seen these kind of information already, instead of asking and asking and asking again.

 

Net, end of post, no more replies req'd.

 

Can you answer the question that many have asked...

 

how old are you?

 

how old is the MM?

 

Thanks!

[Lillyfree]

 

Gzzzz...no wonder some men leave certain women, even being a woman myself, I can stand those kind of women.

 

whoah. sorry mount, but you seem to have a bit of a nasty streak. maybe it's no wonder some men end up with women like you.

[Mount]

Yes, agree. And your words are so NOT nasty.

 

Again, end of post.....pls re-start a new post if anyone wants to vent their grudge.

 

whoah. sorry mount, but you seem to have a bit of a nasty streak. maybe it's no wonder some men end up with women like you.

[ja123]

I haven't read the whole thread, but why does MM have to tell BS about the A. Why doesn't he just ask for a divorce? Wouldn't that make everyone's life easier?

[Mount]

Because apparently you did not understand my post at all, and honestly I do not expect you to understand as people are so different.

 

Nervous - I meant I do not want to have or have least repercussion after the MM tells;

 

Ease - I meant because the timeline was said by the MM, NOT ME (DO I even have a timeline in my mind? no), not like other OWs going after their MMs, I don't mind MM postpones the timing later for him to expose the affair.

 

Clear now? End.

 

 

mount wrote, " go....forget my post..."

 

Which one/s?

 

Geez mount, I was actually being kind and empathetic while showing a couple contradictions from Three different posts of yours. I only did that to maybe help you see you Do carry emotions even in having logical discussion and that you do have heart.

 

Soooorrrryy, I was wrong. My bad.

[Mount]

I don't think I am even an often poster here, for this particular post, because some people had to "win" over posting by lecturing, preaching about moral, thus I had to reply back which I did not intend to do at all. Endless debating is POINTLESS, nothing good or even bad (because nothing real) comes out of it.

 

Pls do not portait me as those desperate OWs, let me say again, it is the MM wants to set the timeline and wants to ask for Divorce by telling wife about A, and he wants me to back him up. I ask him why now he challenging me back what is the point to wait longer. Thus I support him.

 

Can we stop the pointless meanless debating here now? Anything real comes out it?

 

 

You know what? I wish you luck, Mount. Good luck in your little adventure. I truly hope you get exactly what you want and deserve. I'm not sure why you even bother posting here as you have it all figured out. I'd say, obviously nothing is troubling, yet you keep posting. Hmmmm. Anyway, have a wonderful life, I hope the prize was worth the fight.

[2sunny]

I don't think I am even an often poster here, for this particular post, because some people had to "win" over posting by lecturing, preaching about moral, thus I had to reply back which I did not intend to do at all. Endless debating is POINTLESS, nothing good or even bad (because nothing real) comes out of it.

 

Pls do not portait me as those desperate OWs, let me say again, it is the MM wants to set the timeline and wants to ask for Divorce by telling wife about A, and he wants me to back him up. I ask him why now he challenging me back what is the point to wait longer. Thus I support him.

 

Can we stop the pointless meanless debating here now? Anything real comes out it?

 

You have a very odd version of what's happened in this thread.

 

For you to call it "lecturing, debating, preaching etc" is just absurd.

 

Are you not accustomed to interacting with other people? Are you accustomed to listening to differing viewpoints?

 

I can't understand why you're taking suggestions so personal - it's NOT anyone attacking you Mount - folks here were trying to make suggestions to help you consider helping yourself.

 

If you don't want ANY input - maybe you should start a blog - you know - somewhere that allows you to eliminate others from interacting with you. - a journal maybe?

[Mount]

See...another clear case that you did not even read my post, information here. You only care to vent.....your bitterness or too busy to lecture.

 

I said many times I dont like to write, don't like poem, emotional expression, so what ##$% about the blogging, that is not kind of me doing such useless thing. so read clearly now and remember.

 

Instead, you need to have a blog venting your grudge, unhappiness, bitterness (my perspective only, you can deny of course). There have lots of website for betrayed wives, bitter women...or whatever you call.

 

Also, because those women are so co-dependent, wanting to "HELP" , want to "save" their husbands and it makes men leaving them for sure. Even here as a woman I would feel those kind of women so annoying.

 

My intention for this post is NEVER SO LONG so many pages - that is so ridiculous.

 

If you can stop replying the post, that is the best contribution or useful thing you have ever done.

 

You have a very odd version of what's happened in this thread.

 

For you to call it "lecturing, debating, preaching etc" is just absurd.

 

Are you not accustomed to interacting with other people? Are you accustomed to listening to differing viewpoints?

 

I can't understand why you're taking suggestions so personal - it's NOT anyone attacking you Mount - folks here were trying to make suggestions to help you consider helping yourself.

 

If you don't want ANY input - maybe you should start a blog - you know - somewhere that allows you to eliminate others from interacting with you. - a journal maybe?

Edited May 10, 2013 by Mount

[2sunny]

Woos, just wow - you got it!

 

Have a nice life.

[Mount]

Your attitude here is really saying something, I can even imagine how you deal with your personal life, no wonder.........

 

When people don't need you, you just need to go away - not the opposite. What is the point....?

 

And pls listen, and respect others and YOURSELF too.

 

This post is no req'd replying anymore.

 

Woos, just wow - you got it!

 

Have a nice life.

[ComingInHot]

okay mount. Let me try a different approach to be nice...

 

Mount, it's sounds from what you write that MM has come to a decision.

 

Coming to a decision, regardless the issue is healthy.

 

You seem realistic of all the possible outcomes.

 

Logically, the next phase is to prepare yourself for any of the realistic outcomes and whether or not your brain tells you, you're ready.

 

The basic fundamentals of the human mind is to react illogically setting aside the analytical approach that you have.

 

As long as you have mapped out the probable possibilities using raw data gained through statistical studies using an anolog based on the basic individual traits of both you and MM taking into account the variables to decipher the success rate of the relationship once the facts are out in the open for review by all parties involved, your results should be accurate enough to make a confident decision.