na49 Posted May 7, 2013 Share Posted May 7, 2013 Well the semester is winding down and you'd think that'd be a good thing. For most college students it probably is. I live in a different town than my girlfriend and I won't be able to see her as much as I do when she's on campus. We'll definitely see each other and idk if I'd call our relationship long distance because she lives 30+ minutes away. This wasn't a huge issue last summer, but I feel like it's worse this summer as I am more invested in her emotionally. So at a time when I thought I'd be excited to finally be finishing up with finals, I'm finding myself bummed out that I won't see her as much. Calls, texts and video chats can only fill the void so much. I want to try to get out with my friends and stay active, but so much of my happiness is based on her and being with her. hold me LS. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted May 7, 2013 Share Posted May 7, 2013 Well the semester is winding down and you'd think that'd be a good thing. For most college students it probably is. I live in a different town than my girlfriend and I won't be able to see her as much as I do when she's on campus. We'll definitely see each other and idk if I'd call our relationship long distance because she lives 30+ minutes away. Ok I'm confused. How is anything under an hour distance a problem? Don´t you have a bike? Link to post Share on other sites
Toddbt12y1 Posted May 7, 2013 Share Posted May 7, 2013 Wow NA. You already have your near whole happiness wrapped up in her...you better be careful with that. Link to post Share on other sites
fiftyofsomethin Posted May 7, 2013 Share Posted May 7, 2013 Wow NA. You already have your near whole happiness wrapped up in her...you better be careful with that. I agree. If you don't find something else that interests you or that you can find happiness in, you are at extreme risk for a very painful breakup. Of course that may not happen, but you gotta be prepared. These things come out of nowhere. You don't want to be left as the one in the relationship who is more attached. The one who is the most attached is the one who always gets burned. Trust me. I know. Link to post Share on other sites
Author na49 Posted May 7, 2013 Author Share Posted May 7, 2013 Wow NA. You already have your near whole happiness wrapped up in her...you better be careful with that. If not all of my happiness a lot of it is wrapped up in her, and being with her as much as I can. It just bothers me that now during the summer I'll be seeing her only once every 1-3 weeks instead of close to every day like I do when we're in school. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted May 8, 2013 Share Posted May 8, 2013 If not all of my happiness a lot of it is wrapped up in her, and being with her as much as I can. It just bothers me that now during the summer I'll be seeing her only once every 1-3 weeks instead of close to every day like I do when we're in school. sorry I still don't understand why so infrequently? Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted May 8, 2013 Share Posted May 8, 2013 I'm with Emilia. What's up with once every 1-3 weeks? It's just 30 minutes. Take a bus or something, even if you don't have a car. Many people commute further than that to work, 5 days a week. That being said, I think it's not a good thing that you're describing contact with her as filling up a 'void' in you. Might want to look into that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author na49 Posted May 8, 2013 Author Share Posted May 8, 2013 Everyone works during the week so I don't have a car to drive to go see her. I guess I could try to get a bus, but the issue isn't finding ways to see her. The issue is how not seeing her makes me feel bad. Link to post Share on other sites
McDonald Posted May 9, 2013 Share Posted May 9, 2013 Wow NA. You already have your near whole happiness wrapped up in her...you better be careful with that. Na thought he could run from us Toddbt haha. Na 30 minutes is not far at all lol. Try 330 miles. Also, I thought by now you would have things to do that did not involve her.. things that would make you happy? and maybe you are still having trust issues with her. out of sight out of mind... maybe your thinking what if she finds someone else? Because she easily did it that one time. You know what im talking about. Oh wait, shes changed right? Find your happiness with her, and with yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
McDonald Posted May 9, 2013 Share Posted May 9, 2013 I agree. If you don't find something else that interests you or that you can find happiness in, you are at extreme risk for a very painful breakup. Of course that may not happen, but you gotta be prepared. These things come out of nowhere. You don't want to be left as the one in the relationship who is more attached. The one who is the most attached is the one who always gets burned. Trust me. I know. Oh he knows about break ups, fiftyofsomethin. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted May 9, 2013 Share Posted May 9, 2013 Everyone works during the week so I don't have a car to drive to go see her. I guess I could try to get a bus, but the issue isn't finding ways to see her. The issue is how not seeing her makes me feel bad. It's normal to feel bad if you're only seeing a loved one once every 1-3 weeks. It is NOT 'codependency' to want to see a steady partner more often than that. Most people in LDRs feel crappy at times. The difference is that yours is avoidable. Unless what you really mean is that you don't want to get too serious/invested in this? Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted May 9, 2013 Share Posted May 9, 2013 Everyone works during the week so I don't have a car to drive to go see her. I guess I could try to get a bus, but the issue isn't finding ways to see her. The issue is how not seeing her makes me feel bad. But you are not seeing her because you are lazy? Get a bicycle or a motorbike or something. Jeeeez Link to post Share on other sites
Author na49 Posted May 10, 2013 Author Share Posted May 10, 2013 I need to get on highways so a bike isn't going to work. Also I'm not buying a motorcycle because I don't have the money. I'm a newer driver so my parents don't like the idea of me driving on highways yet, and aren't ALWAYS down to drive me there themselves because they're busy. When they aren't busy they do, but every now and then just isn't enough for me. Link to post Share on other sites
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