How many men have never/rarely been approached by a woman?

[JuneJulySeptember]

OK, a thread yesterday got me thinking.

 

So, approached means a woman has expressed unmistakeable interest in you. In your life. That simple.

 

How many here have never had this happen?

 

If it's only happened a few times in your life, or very rarely, you can chime in too. In other words, you've never or rarely rejected anybody.

 

Thanks.

[fortyninethousand322]

In real life, not OLD? Because on dating sites I will occasionally (like once every 3-4 months) get an unsolicited message.

 

But offline. Never.

 

Sometimes a girl will give her number to one of my friends (even though he doesn't want it). Or a girl will be so obviously crazy about him. Never happened to me.

[AD1980]

Im 32 going on 33 and ive never been approached by a women.That's enough evidence for me to know im unattractive

[Andy_K]

It's happened, but very rarely. Less than once a year on average.

 

I do well enough on OLD, but actually being approached in real life is a once in a blue moon event

[Keenly]

I've been approached maybe 6 or 7 times.

[DannyMason]

I've had about three women show interest in me in my life. The first was a friend of mine who lived out of state that I would visit when I saw my family on vacation. She came on to me sexually, but I declined on religious grounds. She was killed by a drunk driver before I became an atheist and stopped saving myself for marriage. The second was another out-of-state friend who lived near yet a different set of relatives that I, again, only saw on vacation. She started hitting on me, but I declined because she already had two kids, both of which were morbidly obese, and no education or career prospects. She may be doing time for grand theft auto. The third was a coworker who was significantly older than myself, very unattractive and already had a kid.

[Imajerk17]

I almost never get approached. In OLD I get maybe one unsolicited message a year from someone whom I might be interested in.

 

I do OK in dating regardless

[Pompeii]

Never. Oh well.

[ThaWholigan]

I get approached once in a while, it's become slightly more regular as I've gotten older. At least once every few months on average. Perhaps because I'm a tad leaner than I was in my late teens.

[USMCHokie]

Thinking back, I have been "approached" by more women than I had realized at the time, and I had no idea...and of course completely ignored the subtle "approach"...

[PJKino]

Once in 33 years by an obese women.

 

Though hanging around my good looking buddy as he gets approached i guess is the closest i get as a few women at a time approach and fight over him while not knowing i exist a few feet away

[Necris]

*raises hand*

 

I simply never get approached.

 

Though there was this time when I was 14 a girl flirted with me, but she flirted with every guy. Other than that I'm never approached or flirted with.

Edited May 8, 2013 by Necris

[pcplod]

Despite female emancipation and notional equality, it is still the male's lot in life to do the running, so it is probably not surprising a lot of men will say that they have rarely been approached. We are, after all, supposed to be better equipped to handle the rejection. ("Oh well, you were an ugly looking slag in any event". It's the studied insouciance in the response that makes all the difference instead of bursting into tears and wailing, "Why is it always me"!).

 

With me, I laboured under the crazy delusion that if it was meant to be then it was meant to be, rather than having to slog my soul and dignity in a desperate effort to try to make something happen, against all the odds. On the other hand, on reflection, it could have something to do with the knob sticking out of my forehead.

[Roadkill007]

I get approached once in a while, it's become slightly more regular as I've gotten older. At least once every few months on average. Perhaps because I'm a tad leaner than I was in my late teens.

 

Yea, definitely had a bit more approaches during "skinnier" periods (never skin and bones type) rather than my "freshman 40" period. Like probably twice the frequency. Which isn't really saying much.

[Infnitysign]

Once and it took me 2 years to notice it and by then I was already holding hands and kissing her to death.

[Feelin Frisky]

Having had weight problems, it depended on whether I had my image in marketable shape or I was a lard ass. You get far less as a lard ass but if you're basically attractive you'll get some who will cruise you anyway. I'm a lardass now and this girl at the Kroger deli section says to me "you like the sweet meets don't ya?" Now she flashes a smile and goes out of her way to say hello and have a good night etc. She's cute but her butt would require two airline seats.

 

When I've achieved my goals and dressed well I had girls strike of conversations with me on the freaking subway--even after I had just cursed because the train was stopped in between stations. It happened many times. They'd say "excuse me?" and I'd say "no I was just griping about the train stopping" then they'd continue talking and I'd wind up with a phone number. If you have looks and height and dress well, you'd be surprised how forthcoming females are.

[ltjg45]

I don't know which is worst.

 

1. Being approached by a woman you clearly don't want.

2. Not being approached by a woman at all.

 

As for my count?

 

1.

 

She was also bi-polar. Attractive but, apparently, me being broke is an future deal breaker with her.

 

That didn't end too well after 4-5 months.

[Fondue]

You have to remember, women typically do not approach. It's very rare that they get the "balls" to do so.

 

They often just leave signs that they are interested in you approaching them. The only thing is, most men (definitely me included) don't pick up on these signals. So nothing ever comes of it.

 

There have been countless times when my friends would notice from afar women checking me out, or "giving me signals," but I almost never see them. I am in my own world, I guess.

 

I have found a good way to be approached, is if you're presenting yourself in a likable, fun fashion. If I in a good mood, I act like a total spazz that's fun to be around. Like, I do goofy dance moves, spin women/men around, high five every person that walks by me, joke around and laugh like an idiot. I also emulate a bit of David Tennant from Dr. Who. Women approach me then, or at least walk by and have a laugh or get a high five from me. On the other hand, if I am in a ****ty mood, and sit around all quiet, I get much, much less attention. There has been once or twice where a woman would go up to me and say, "hey! You look like you're not having fun, get up and dance!" Otherwise, women stay away from a guy like that.

 

Hope it helps!

[colejack]

I've been approached by a lot of women, but ones that are clearly out of my age range. I've never actually been approached by a girl in her 20's. Maybe they're less passive as they get older? I've also been hit on by a lot of gay guys of all ages.

[EasyHeart]

Thinking back, I have been "approached" by more women than I had realized at the time, and I had no idea...and of course completely ignored the subtle "approach"...

IF I could go back in time and tell young-self one thing about dating, it would be to pay more attention to the signals women send. I spent much of my life clueless.

 

As to the OP, if the test is a woman "expressing unmistakeably interest", that's happened hundreds of times. BUT they always expected me to make the first overt move.

[JuneJulySeptember]

 

As to the OP, if the test is a woman "expressing unmistakeably interest", that's happened hundreds of times. BUT they always expected me to make the first overt move.

 

You're a lucky man.

[colejack]

IF I could go back in time and tell young-self one thing about dating, it would be to pay more attention to the signals women send. I spent much of my life clueless.

 

As to the OP, if the test is a woman "expressing unmistakeably interest", that's happened hundreds of times. BUT they always expected me to make the first overt move.

 

Maybe you can enlighten some other youngins then.

 

If I see a girl make prolonged eye contact with me, then I'll usually approach. If she smiles, I'll definitely approach. Thing is, this very rarely happens. What other more subtle signals do you wish you knew when you were younger?

[SJC2008]

I can remeber a handful from my late teens till now. The best one was when I was at a bar/club and a very attractive blone came up to me and swore she knew me. She was pretty tipsy and was all over me! She started to kiss me, drug me out to the dance floor and I can't dance to save my life lol. my friends seen me with her but they didn't see us kissing, just my luck. Afterward she said "We're gonna get in trouble, we're gonna have sex". One of my friends said he thinks she was there with someone becuae some dude kept looking at me??. We didn't leave together... Back then I wouldn't even of known how to set it up.

[ltjg45]

I can remeber a handful from my late teens till now. The best one was when I was at a bar/club and a very attractive blone came up to me and swore she knew me. She was pretty tipsy and was all over me! She started to kiss me, drug me out to the dance floor and I can't dance to save my life lol. my friends seen me with her but they didn't see us kissing, just my luck. Afterward she said "We're gonna get in trouble, we're gonna have sex". One of my friends said he thinks she was there with someone becuae some dude kept looking at me??. We didn't leave together... Back then I wouldn't even of known how to set it up.

 

While that was a crazy experience on your part, I can't blame you for bolting since that bolded part tells me she wasn't really that serious.

 

Just drunk.

[colejack]

I can remeber a handful from my late teens till now. The best one was when I was at a bar/club and a very attractive blone came up to me and swore she knew me. She was pretty tipsy and was all over me! She started to kiss me, drug me out to the dance floor and I can't dance to save my life lol. my friends seen me with her but they didn't see us kissing, just my luck. Afterward she said "We're gonna get in trouble, we're gonna have sex". One of my friends said he thinks she was there with someone becuae some dude kept looking at me??. We didn't leave together... Back then I wouldn't even of known how to set it up.

 

I usually find that girls who do that, especially pretty girls, tend to do that with every guy. I knew one very pretty girl who used to hit on me pretty hard, but she also used to hit on 8 of my friends and cycle between each of us at a party. It was like speed dating with one woman and nine guys.