How many men have never/rarely been approached by a woman?

[nickkelly9]

I'll admit I haven't read this whole thread, but it's just funny because I always bitch at least in my head about this.

 

I have NEVER been approached.

 

The one comment about the subtlety in women's tactics and their apprehension in making the first move seems accurate to me, but I still know guys that have girls that pursue them who they reject.

 

I have never rejected anyone lol, never been given the chance. I don't have girls who pursue me.

 

So for what's it worth, I certainly have never been approached. I've done lots of approaching with varying results, still no actually date or girlfriend. But never been approached.

[yankees51988]

Hmmm, I've actually turned down a lot more women than I have been turned down by. Usually for stupid reasons too, even if they are attractive. It sucks when you shoot down a hot girl for some stupid reason like boosting your ego, having hooked up with your friends, or just being promiscuous, and then later you want to hook up with them but it's too late, haha.

 

I don't know if I really believe that some people here have never or rarely are approached, women are usually pretty good at getting what they want and it's usually pretty obvious what they want. Maybe it's the type of girls I hang out with, since they're mostly college aged chicks that like to party.

[Mme. Chaucer]

Just as a point of interest, I'm old, on my second marriage, had a few very long term and serious relationships as well as many dates and shorter things in my history, and I don't think I EVER approached ANY guy. Unless I was drunk in a club and don't remember it so many years on, but that would not really count anyway.

 

Online, yes. I initiated with a "wink" sometimes. That's all.

 

I realize that women who feel more passive and allow the men to do the pursuing have an easier time of it socially than men who'd prefer to have that role. But, it is what it is. Please abandon all this woe and poor me and life's not fair whining over this, guys. Honestly, life is NOT fair and much of this unfairness is painful. I'm sure that everybody suffers from the pain of unfairness in their lives. Some much, much more seriously than others. And for much better reasons than others.

 

Whether women approach you or not? What a first world problem that is! Either just accept that women are, in general, not as comfortable or prone to doing approaching than men are so they might NEVER do it - not just to you, but EVER - or start getting over your fear of it.

[somedude81]

In my life three women have made it obvious that they were interested in me. All three of them were at least 200 lbs.

 

I have since stopped wearing bacon scented cologne.

[hppr]

Either just accept that women are, in general, not as comfortable or prone to doing approaching than men are so they might NEVER do it - not just to you, but EVER - or start getting over your fear of it.

 

Half-truth. I see women approach men all the time, not just in clubs or bars either. Women flirt with men out of the blue about as often as guys do.

 

The real truth is that there are some guys and girls out there who are just plain, no bones about it, UNATTRACTIVE to 99% of the other sex. And as a result they don't get flirted with very often, if ever.

 

So then the question is, do you make yourself into something more widely attractive to the opposite sex or do you plod onward and hope that you run into that 1% who does like you. Some people change, others plod on.

[hppr]

In my life three women have made it obvious that they were interested in me. All three of them were at least 200 lbs.

 

I have since stopped wearing bacon scented cologne.

 

200lbs? LUXURY! I used to DREAM about 200lb chicks when I was skinny and 400lb ones were chasing me around!

[KungFuJoe]

In my life three women have made it obvious that they were interested in me. All three of them were at least 200 lbs.

 

I have since stopped wearing bacon scented cologne.

 

Dude, you can be such an ass sometimes, you know that?

 

And you wonder why you struggle with women....

[Mme. Chaucer]

Originally Posted by Mme. Chaucer

Either just accept that women are, in general, not as comfortable or prone to doing approaching than men are so they might NEVER do it - not just to you, but EVER - or start getting over your fear of it.

 

Half-truth. I see women approach men all the time, not just in clubs or bars either. Women flirt with men out of the blue about as often as guys do.

 

Excuse me, but because you don't agree with what I posted does not render it a "half truth." It kind of seems that you're calling me a liar.

 

What I wrote IS the truth. I am speaking in generalities and made that clear. Of course many many women approach men all the time.

 

And flirting is NOT the same thing as "approaching." Flirting is want a lot of girls and women do to INVITE a desirable (to her) man to approach. It happens throughout the animal kingdom. And, yes, the gender roles can be and are often reversed.

 

The real truth is that there are some guys and girls out there who are just plain, no bones about it, UNATTRACTIVE to 99% of the other sex. And as a result they don't get flirted with very often, if ever.

 

Yep. Unattractive people get approached or flirted with rarely, if ever. Is this news?

 

So then the question is, do you make yourself into something more widely attractive to the opposite sex or do you plod onward and hope that you run into that 1% who does like you. Some people change, others plod on.

 

Actually, the question was: How many men have never / rarely been approached by a woman.

 

Not what unattractive guys need to do in order to be approached by women.

 

My advice is sound. ANYONE, male or female, who is sitting around whining about not getting approached is in poor shape. People need to develop the courage and skills to go for what they want in life. Or if they prefer to remain passive, accept the results of that.

[Mme. Chaucer]

In my life three women have made it obvious that they were interested in me. All three of them were at least 200 lbs.

 

I have since stopped wearing bacon scented cologne.

 

I think that as long as you keep looking down at overweight women, you don't even deserve to have a date with ANY woman. You don't feel attracted to fat women, fine. I don't either. But dissing them all the time? Makes you look like a world class creep.

[somedude81]

Dude, you can be such an ass sometimes, you know that?

 

And you wonder why you struggle with women....

LOL I love posts like that.

 

The logic just fails on several levels.

 

BTW women like jerks

 

Maybe I should try to be an ass around them.

[KungFuJoe]

LOL I love posts like that.

 

The logic just fails on several levels.

 

BTW women like jerks

 

Maybe I should try to be an ass around them.

 

You probably ARE an ass around them...you just don't realize you are.

 

Just like how you don't realize parking in front of a No Parking Fire Zone sign is illegal. You think everything you do is just fine and dandy and it's everyone ELSE who is crazy.

 

Your sense of self is really lacking and I think that is your biggest problem, along with your depression. You've spent so much of your life not liking yourself and trying to be someone else, that you have no idea what kind of person you are...or even want to be anymore.

[hppr]

You probably ARE an ass around them...you just don't realize you are.

 

I would bet this as well. Just not in the way he thinks 'being an ass' qualifies.

[Pompeii]

In my life three women have made it obvious that they were interested in me. All three of them were at least 200 lbs.

 

I have since stopped wearing bacon scented cologne.

 

What a terrible joke. Not terrible as in "dehumanizing" but terrible as in "get this clown off the stage before someone throws a sharp object at him". I hope you're funnier in real life because I can see why you don't get girls.

 

BTW women like jerks

 

Maybe I should try to be an ass around them.

 

No, women like good looking guys who know how to throw a good volley of mean-spirited yet playful jabs.

Edited May 16, 2013 by Pompeii

[dirtysweet]

I used to approach men all the time until I realized that most men like to do the chasing. So now I rarely approach men. I'm more likely to do it online than in person, but usually I let men do it and give them signals to hit on me.

[somedude81]

What a terrible joke. Not terrible as in "dehumanizing" but terrible as in "get this clown off the stage before someone throws a sharp object at him". I hope you're funnier in real life because I can see why you don't get girls.

The right crowd would love that joke.

[somedude81]

You probably ARE an ass around them...you just don't realize you are.

(Talking about a specific group of fat girls)

 

I was as nice to them as everybody else. Then they got too familiar, at one point trying to tickle me then I just had enough and walked away. Still one of them wanted to hug me whenever she saw me and another kept wanting to talk to me and sit next to me on the bus till i got off.

 

Frankly I was probably too nice.

[KungFuJoe]

(Talking about a specific group of fat girls)

 

I was as nice to them as everybody else. Then they got too familiar, at one point trying to tickle me then I just had enough and walked away. Still one of them wanted to hug me whenever she saw me and another kept wanting to talk to me and sit next to me on the bus till i got off.

 

Frankly I was probably too nice.

 

And once again...you wonder why you struggle with women......

[somedude81]

And once again...you wonder why you struggle with women......

Why do you even bother to post junk like this?

 

If you're going to say something, say it. Don't try to be a smartass.

[sillyanswer]

(Talking about a specific group of fat girls)

 

I was as nice to them as everybody else. Then they got too familiar, at one point trying to tickle me then I just had enough and walked away. Still one of them wanted to hug me whenever she saw me and another kept wanting to talk to me and sit next to me on the bus till i got off.

 

Frankly I was probably too nice.

 

Why didn't you flirt back?

[hppr]

No, women like good looking guys

 

It all depends on the girl and what she thinks is good looking and funny. Obviously the girls he is interested in don't like him or don't overtly show interest in him while the ones he doesn't like chase him around. I think every guy has been there before it's how you handle it that counts.

[somedude81]

Why didn't you flirt back?

Because I didn't have any interest in them at all and just wished that they would leave me alone.

[Pompeii]

The right crowd would love that joke.

 

Yes, but I highly doubt that you have the charisma to pull it off.

[Biscous]

Happens once in a while to me.

[hppr]

Because I didn't have any interest in them at all and just wished that they would leave me alone.

 

LOL look there's nothing wrong with that it's just 1) be polite to em anyways and 2) what are you doing to change it? Obviously you don't like those women so what are you doing to get the ones you really want?

[somedude81]

LOL look there's nothing wrong with that it's just 1) be polite to em anyways and 2) what are you doing to change it? Obviously you don't like those women so what are you doing to get the ones you really want?

Oh I'm always polite to them. Probably too much.

 

And for #2. I don't have a clue.

 

This thread is about being approached by women, and I don't think I will ever be approached by somebody I'd consider desirable. If I want to date someone I'm attracted to, I'll have to do all of the work. That's just how it is.