KungFuJoe Posted June 30, 2013 Share Posted June 30, 2013 A lot of women won't go home with him that night, but if he's good looking they'll give him their #. Sure. For starters, it's not like women are keeping tabs on every single guy in a bar. They don't know if he hit on 30 girls or just her. Most likely wouldn't matter unless she actually witnessed him getting shot down by someone else in front of her. The last thing a woman wants is someone else's discards. Also, just like guys might just want a casual hookup, girls might want the same. Link to post Share on other sites
TheGuard13 Posted June 30, 2013 Share Posted June 30, 2013 What does approach even mean? Does it encompass just starting a conversation, or does there have to be romantic/sexual intent? Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted July 1, 2013 Share Posted July 1, 2013 Thinking back, I have been "approached" by more women than I had realized at the time, and I had no idea...and of course completely ignored the subtle "approach"... You and me both my friend. Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted July 1, 2013 Share Posted July 1, 2013 ... I have a golden vagina. I have no doubt. Link to post Share on other sites
Pompeii Posted July 1, 2013 Share Posted July 1, 2013 Are you aware of how many women I've approached and how many times I've been rejected? It's been well documented on here before. It's well over 200, probably closer to 300. I'm not your either. I'm like your age. Holy ****. What in gods name are you doing that you get shot down that much? Link to post Share on other sites
white Posted July 1, 2013 Share Posted July 1, 2013 Being 29, in my adult life, twice. Once just a girl I knew who I wasn't much interested in and she was after casual sex which I am not, although I did date her a bit. The other, she was a neighbour, French, attractive. Invited me over the second time we spoke and straight up asked if I was interested in seeing her. It scared me (it would not today), so I thought it was a joke, and that it was a bad idea to have a relationship with a neighbour (I stand by this). Twice. Neither going anywhere. No missed signals either. I could list probably ten examples of misinterpreted signals on my part. It's made me very cautious. Even now I make mistakes. I find women my age and older now starting to be a bit clearer. I don't worry about it too much. I meet very few women in my life, location or line of work. I don't drink and I hate club culture. I've never done online dating and probably never will. I'm average looking, although physically fit, but losing my hair. I don't dress fancy, my car hasn't been washed in a decade. So I know why it is, and they are nearly all my choices and part of who I am, and those not my choice, I can't change. I will not buy a suit tomorrow, I will not go drinking, I will not change careers, my hair will not sprout back. Link to post Share on other sites
Legatus Posted July 1, 2013 Share Posted July 1, 2013 I haven't been approached many times. Last time, by my now ex-girlfriend who asked me at the airport if I can help her with some jewellery before going through a gate. I am not going out much, don't have a car, but trying to build successful career. Didn't do online dating and I still don't think I'm going to. I do prefer to meet someone in a causal place like library, street, shop (not clubs or pubs though). But it's hard to believe a woman would approach me just out of the blue Link to post Share on other sites
Ryan9 Posted July 1, 2013 Share Posted July 1, 2013 (edited) OK, a thread yesterday got me thinking. So, approached means a woman has expressed unmistakeable interest in you. In your life. That simple. How many here have never had this happen? If it's only happened a few times in your life, or very rarely, you can chime in too. In other words, you've never or rarely rejected anybody. Thanks. I've been approached a few times in my life but the approaches were never "cold approaches" = (Hi, can I have your number, I'm so and so) they were always obvious signs, obvious contact, obvious double meanings, obvious out of the norm interactions with me socially. That said, women don't do "cold approaches" almost ever. If you've had a gorgeous woman EVER do a cold approach to you and she was sober, well, the universe was very happy with you that night/day because that **** never happens, ever, even to great looking men. It's beyond rare. A thousand parties and you'll never see it happen. So yeah. Grats to those guys. Now to the 99.9% of the rest of us.. You just have to notice the signs. If a woman is making any attempts to communicate with you and this isn't your friends friend, a coworker, or something else, then yeah, you need to be able to see the double meaning, because women will not hold your arm and say please. They'll think you're not interested and quickly fade away. I've had women tell me "you almost blew it ya know" after I got her number after having asked and I wasn't even sure then but I just went for it. IF she is interacting with you and she doesn't have to be doing so, that 9/10 *is* all she's going to do. Remember, she's a woman, she is waiting for you to ask. If you don't ask then she will take that as your answer. REMEMBER guys, women CANNOT handle rejection. They will NEVER put themselves in a position to be rejected. Ever. You have to understand this. The little girl expects the prince to ask her out. They're all little girls at the end of the day truthfully in terms of guts. They have none. You have to make it happen. Edited July 1, 2013 by Ryan9 Link to post Share on other sites
Southern Cal Dude Posted July 2, 2013 Share Posted July 2, 2013 I've been approached a few times in my life but the approaches were never "cold approaches" = (Hi, can I have your number, I'm so and so) they were always obvious signs, obvious contact, obvious double meanings, obvious out of the norm interactions with me socially. That said, women don't do "cold approaches" almost ever. If you've had a gorgeous woman EVER do a cold approach to you and she was sober, well, the universe was very happy with you that night/day because that **** never happens, ever, even to great looking men. It's beyond rare. A thousand parties and you'll never see it happen. So yeah. Grats to those guys. Now to the 99.9% of the rest of us.. You just have to notice the signs. If a woman is making any attempts to communicate with you and this isn't your friends friend, a coworker, or something else, then yeah, you need to be able to see the double meaning, because women will not hold your arm and say please. They'll think you're not interested and quickly fade away. I've had women tell me "you almost blew it ya know" after I got her number after having asked and I wasn't even sure then but I just went for it. IF she is interacting with you and she doesn't have to be doing so, that 9/10 *is* all she's going to do. Remember, she's a woman, she is waiting for you to ask. If you don't ask then she will take that as your answer. REMEMBER guys, women CANNOT handle rejection. They will NEVER put themselves in a position to be rejected. Ever. You have to understand this. The little girl expects the prince to ask her out. They're all little girls at the end of the day truthfully in terms of guts. They have none. You have to make it happen. Eh she can walk then. I work in an environment where there's always someone who will make a move. Link to post Share on other sites
Charlie.Brown Posted July 2, 2013 Share Posted July 2, 2013 None. Im 41 and never have been approached. Ever. I never get smiles. I never get prolonged looks. i get nothing. Makes a guy feel great when he thinks about it! Link to post Share on other sites
Ryan9 Posted July 2, 2013 Share Posted July 2, 2013 Eh she can walk then. I work in an environment where there's always someone who will make a move. That's not an environment where you're going to find anything of quality then. Those women are either drunk or ones everybody else has already had many times over. Anyone can go to a bar and be come on to by the local drunk woman. That's not "being approached". Link to post Share on other sites
Southern Cal Dude Posted July 2, 2013 Share Posted July 2, 2013 That's not an environment where you're going to find anything of quality then. Those women are either drunk or ones everybody else has already had many times over. That's a misconception. A woman making the first move doesn't make her low quality. Link to post Share on other sites
Ryan9 Posted July 2, 2013 Share Posted July 2, 2013 That's a misconception. A woman making the first move doesn't make her low quality. No, but, it does say that she's done it 500 times, and you have to wonder, what happened even half of those 500 times? Yeah... Link to post Share on other sites
Southern Cal Dude Posted July 2, 2013 Share Posted July 2, 2013 No, but, it does say that she's done it 500 times, and you have to wonder, what happened even half of those 500 times? Yeah... Then the same goes for a guy. Unless you're holding guys to the same standard, you can't judge women for doing the same thing. Women who do make the first move aren't approaching every guy until she finds someone. She's only approaching ones she's highly interested in. Link to post Share on other sites
Ryan9 Posted July 2, 2013 Share Posted July 2, 2013 Then the same goes for a guy. Unless you're holding guys to the same standard, you can't judge women for doing the same thing. Women who do make the first move aren't approaching every guy until she finds someone. She's only approaching ones she's highly interested in. No I'm not holding guys to the same standard. Guys are guys. Anyone holding guys and girls to the same standard should just stop right there. Society works the way it works. I didn't write the rules but I know em. No yeah I get you, but like, okay, so she liked you and cold approached you (which is insanely rare even for 10's/10's). Okay. So. She did let's say (and wtf do I care? lol). Run it through your mind. She cold approached you randomly because she was physically attracted to you. Hello. How many places do you think she's been where she had the same scenario? Put two and two together. There's no such thing as cold approaches among women. You're either dealing with the rare 1 in a million virgin, or this is a hard hoe and you're way down the list of "guys she was attracted to". It just doesn't happen with good girls. They don't do it. And why do I think it isn't the rare virgin lol? Link to post Share on other sites
Southern Cal Dude Posted July 2, 2013 Share Posted July 2, 2013 No I'm not holding guys to the same standard. Guys are guys. Anyone holding guys and girls to the same standard should just stop right there. Society works the way it works. I didn't write the rules but I know em. No yeah I get you, but like, okay, so she liked you and cold approached you (which is insanely rare even for 10's/10's). Okay. So. She did let's say (and wtf do I care? lol). Run it through your mind. She cold approached you randomly because she was physically attracted to you. Hello. How many places do you think she's been where she had the same scenario? Put two and two together. There's no such thing as cold approaches among women. You're either dealing with the rare 1 in a million virgin, or this is a hard hoe and you're way down the list of "guys she was attracted to". It just doesn't happen with good girls. They don't do it. And why do I think it isn't the rare virgin lol? Cold approaches can be done by either gender. You're essentially calling those women whores because they made the first move. Link to post Share on other sites
Ryan9 Posted July 2, 2013 Share Posted July 2, 2013 (edited) Cold approaches can be done by either gender. You're essentially calling those women whores because they made the first move. Well look man, I mean, am I ruling out that you found a place that isn't somewhere you work where women *have* to talk to you and where non-ogre women that are great looking go around doing cold approaches? Eh..... I could be possibly ruling that out..Yeah. Then again. Maybe you have defied the universe. Maybe you aren't wearing a rolex and making sure they see it. Who knows. Do I believe you? Probably not. Will I? Probably not. But hey, if you found what nobody else has ever found in all of human history, then hey, exploit that ****. That's for sure. Nobody is saying cold approaches can't be done by women. What I am saying is they are not done by women that are clean. And yes. We are saying that. Edited July 2, 2013 by Ryan9 Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted July 2, 2013 Share Posted July 2, 2013 Ryan, All I gotta say is you are way way way way way off base. A woman who makes the first move is a great thing indeed. You need to get out of the 60s. Link to post Share on other sites
Ryan9 Posted July 2, 2013 Share Posted July 2, 2013 Ryan, All I gotta say is you are way way way way way off base. A woman who makes the first move is a great thing indeed. You need to get out of the 60s. Lol I'm sure that's what the other guys said too until she first moved the next guy Lol it's all good. You guys have fun with the first movers. I believe yall. Yall were definitely her first! Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted July 2, 2013 Share Posted July 2, 2013 Lol I'm sure that's what the other guys said too until she first moved the next guy Lol it's all good. You guys have fun with the first movers. I believe yall. Yall were definitely her first! Lol. You're worried about being her first? Ok it all makes sense now. Link to post Share on other sites
will1988 Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 when I did OLD I would only get approached by spam bots. In real life I get approached when I am being myself and being full of myself or overly confident in some situation. Rarely do I get approached out of the blue... I mean most women see me as a fat guy, which I am, a handsome one, but still fat... so I have to attract them with my personality and charm. However, in situations where I am naturally charming and even at my intellectual best, women seem to approach me. I get hit on frequently in my college program i am in, mostly by middle aged single women. It is an ego booster, but not interested. I guess they see that I am an outgoing, masculin, confident, charming, smart younger guy and that attracts them. But when all is said and done I'd say maybe half a dozen times a year I'm flirted at, and only once or twice am I out right approached. Link to post Share on other sites
DannyMason Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 A week or two ago the elderly grandma ahead of me in line at the grocery store stood there half turned-around staring into my eyes with a love struck expression. Even the cashier noticed. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Moe'sTavern Posted July 4, 2013 Share Posted July 4, 2013 I've never been approached by females, whether in high school or later on. But I can't really complain since I've rarely approached myself. So In a weird it kinda balances out. :/ Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted July 4, 2013 Share Posted July 4, 2013 I used to get approached from time to time, in fact I'm pretty sure my exW approached me, as did my first love. Few and far between these days.. Link to post Share on other sites
chromeo Posted July 21, 2013 Share Posted July 21, 2013 "Unmistakeable interest?" Define. OK, a thread yesterday got me thinking. So, approached means a woman has expressed unmistakeable interest in you. In your life. That simple. How many here have never had this happen? If it's only happened a few times in your life, or very rarely, you can chime in too. In other words, you've never or rarely rejected anybody. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
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