cinta_satu Posted May 9, 2013 Share Posted May 9, 2013 Is it wrong to pray asking God to one day reunite me with the girl who once loved me? Link to post Share on other sites
pie2 Posted May 9, 2013 Share Posted May 9, 2013 Is it wrong to pray asking God to one day reunite me with the girl who once loved me? Cinta, are you Christian? Have you prayed for anything in the past? Do you pray or communicate with God now? Link to post Share on other sites
Author cinta_satu Posted May 9, 2013 Author Share Posted May 9, 2013 Yes I am. And I usually pray everyday. And yes I've been praying a lot more now - especially when I find myself falling back into depression at random moments throughout the day. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted May 9, 2013 Share Posted May 9, 2013 I don't know the answer to this (given that it's been a while since I prayed), but I've responded to your other post about the breakup, if it helps. Link to post Share on other sites
pie2 Posted May 9, 2013 Share Posted May 9, 2013 (edited) Yes I am. And I usually pray everyday. And yes I've been praying a lot more now - especially when I find myself falling back into depression at random moments throughout the day. Cinta, do you think it's God's will to reunite with this girl? If so, I don't think it's wrong to pray for that. I think it's super important to pray that God's will be done on earth, as it is in heaven, as Jesus mentioned (Matthew 6:9-13). Edited May 9, 2013 by pie2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author cinta_satu Posted May 9, 2013 Author Share Posted May 9, 2013 Elswyth, I read your reply on my other post. Thank you for that. Pie2, I wish I knew the answer to that question. How do I distinguish that from what could be the selfish desire of wanting her back? Link to post Share on other sites
pie2 Posted May 9, 2013 Share Posted May 9, 2013 How do I distinguish that from what could be the selfish desire of wanting her back? That is the big question, isn't it. I think prayer, first and foremost, helps us understand God's will for our lives. Then, the bible has the wisdom we need to know what God wants for us. And I think God does reveal what he wants for us. If you're unsure about what his will is...just keep waiting, praying and reading the bible until you are sure. It's really hard, but the sacrifice will save you loads of the extra heartache we get when we choose to do something for selfish reasons. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cinta_satu Posted May 9, 2013 Author Share Posted May 9, 2013 That's what I'm doing right now. Just praying, waiting, and trusting. I'm trying not to think too much about the future and focusing on each day as it comes. The reason I'm praying for us to get back together is because I really do feel like we're meant for each other. I don't hold any ill feelings towards her, and I've accepted what happened. Maybe I'm right, maybe I'm wrong - only time will tell. Thanks again for your advice/comments. If you don't mind, could you PM me your email? I could use some more advice as I'm sure I'll run in to more questions along the way. Link to post Share on other sites
TheFinalWord Posted May 9, 2013 Share Posted May 9, 2013 (edited) Is it wrong to pray asking God to one day reunite me with the girl who once loved me? I would say, no, it is not wrong to pray for it...but having done this before myself (more than once), I would say that we have to learn to take "no" for an answer. If God wanted that woman in your life, it would happen. You can just make your request known to God and leave it at that. You don't have to keep praying. Let me give you an example from a pastor I know. This pastor was employed at a gas station while working his way through college. He always liked this girl and would ask her out when they ran into each other. Her answer was always "no" (she now says she did not like him AT ALL during this time). This happened on and off over a period of 3 years. One night as he was working the gas station (it was supposed to be his night off), her car broke down right in front of his gas station lol (this is a true story). He came out, towed her car into the station, gave her a taxi home, and fixed her car for free. She decided to go out with him. Now they are married and she is a pastor's wife. My main point of the story, if God wants to hook it up, it will happen. Often, God is closing the door on a person that is not for us. I would advise to not try to pry it open Edited May 9, 2013 by TheFinalWord 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author cinta_satu Posted May 9, 2013 Author Share Posted May 9, 2013 Thank you for your reply TheFinalWord. It definitely helped me. While there is a part of me that is clinging on to the 'hope' that she will come back to me in the future, I'm trying to convince myself to let go. Looking back I realized that maybe I loved her too much (if that's possible). I loved her more than I loved myself and built my life around her. I never forgot about God though. I prayed frequently and was always thankful for bringing her into my life - I still am thankful for that. I will continue to live my life and do my best not to force anything. Don't know what the future holds. Thanks again. Link to post Share on other sites
Cutiepie1976 Posted May 9, 2013 Share Posted May 9, 2013 You should pray that you become truly open and accepting of God's will for your life. Link to post Share on other sites
Seachelle1 Posted May 9, 2013 Share Posted May 9, 2013 I and Thou by Martin Buber says there are two kinds of relationships. I-It. Our inner soul to the thing. I-Thou. Our inner soul to the Divine. Talking to who you believe God to be as if God were a gumball machine (I-It) is probably harmful to you and what you truly believe. I would shy from the black and white, right and wrong ideas here. It's not about sin and grace, it's about what is helpful to focus your mind on for your own good. It's not about guilt and you being bad for wanting your ex back. My advice: Talk to your God like a Thou, not an It. You'll get a lot more from the experience. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cinta_satu Posted May 9, 2013 Author Share Posted May 9, 2013 Thank you for that! I've actually been feeling guilty because I feel extremely selfish for praying for that. Lately, I've been trying to turn my prayer into more of a conversation rather than a list. Thanks again. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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