RomanceLow Posted May 9, 2013 Share Posted May 9, 2013 My ex and i were friends after a messy break up( he was sexting other girls), but we still talked every other week. I just blocked his number and didnt tell him should i have? we were friendly to one another. He told me he wanted to work things out yet he was still texting other girls. Did i do the right thing? Link to post Share on other sites
Eggplant Posted May 9, 2013 Share Posted May 9, 2013 Absolutely. No way can you ever be "friends." You need to grieve and heal and find another one. Link to post Share on other sites
malxme Posted May 9, 2013 Share Posted May 9, 2013 Yes. Good for you! He didn't treat you right when you were with him, and now you're standing up for yourself! If he really wanted you back, he'd stop texting those other girls! Maybe this will make him wake up and make things work with you (if thats what you want), otherwise this is exactly what you needed to do in order to let go and move on Link to post Share on other sites
BetrayedH Posted May 9, 2013 Share Posted May 9, 2013 Hard to describe him as a friend if he betrayed you. I can't be friends with my exwife. If you were considering reconciling with him, it doesn't sound like he was sufficiently remorseful if he's still texting other girls. Of course, if you were "just friends" it makes sense that he can text whomever he likes. I'm just not sure you can truly be "just friends" with an ex. I'm sure some do but I also suspect that one of them always quietly hopes for more. When you've been betrayed, it's another entire level of difficulty. I think it's fine that you cut him off but don't be surprised when he asks why. I might be inclined to answer (briefly) when he does. If I may ask, what's your motivation? What do you want to see happen? Friendship or romance? My guess is that you may really wish for a renewed relationship but only if he is remorseful and pursuing you and that friendship isn't really what you want. When that failed, you passive-aggressively cut him off. I think you might be better off attacking the problem head-on rather than dancing around it. I'm not judging you for how you've reacted (betrayal sucks and makes us a little crazy) but I might recommend facing your demons rather than trying to go around them; you'll heal faster. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RomanceLow Posted May 9, 2013 Author Share Posted May 9, 2013 I had talked to him recently and I told him how i felt and he told me how he felt. It was a mutual like, but i told him i didn't want anything right now. So we agreed just friends and he said maybe more in the future? So as of now we are friends he texts me every week. Yet, he still seeks to hook up with nasty skanks while talking to me. I'm just confused Link to post Share on other sites
ver13 Posted May 9, 2013 Share Posted May 9, 2013 I had talked to him recently and I told him how i felt and he told me how he felt. It was a mutual like, but i told him i didn't want anything right now. So we agreed just friends and he said maybe more in the future? So as of now we are friends he texts me every week. Yet, he still seeks to hook up with nasty skanks while talking to me. I'm just confused IMHO I don't see anything wrong with cutting him off period. Link to post Share on other sites
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