All these pretty girls and no personality

[phineas]

Your responses are quite emotionally violent. You've got a lot of anger inside of you and any criticism or perceived criticism flames it to hot. Are you like this in real life, over-reactionary?

 

Can you answer the above question? It was ignored.

 

It's cute the way you take my posts out of context when you quote them.

 

A word of advice, I troll better than you & people on the interwebs NEVER get a rise out of me.

 

And no. I won't answer your question.

[tbf]

It's cute the way you take my posts out of context when you quote them.

 

A word of advice, I troll better than you & people on the interwebs NEVER get a rise out of me.

 

And no. I won't answer your question.

I'm not trolling you. Just curious why you're so bitter and why your entire dating experience has been full of the same type of personality-less women. You're the only commonality.

[KathyM]

I may as well point out that much of personality is inborn (genetic). The rest is mainly the result of early childhood experiences and interactions with parents. So this concept that physical attractiveness somehow makes a person's personality disappear is just not factual. There are plenty of attractive people out there with great personalities, intelligent, etc. People can, however, work to improve their personality somewhat (i.e., develop their sense of humor, their social skills, their ease with interacting with others), but to say that personality is not developed in attractive people is just not accurate, since most of our personality is genetic or engrained before the child even knows he is attractive.

[Keenly]

I may as well point out that much of personality is inborn (genetic). The rest is mainly the result of early childhood experiences and interactions with parents. So this concept that physical attractiveness somehow makes a person's personality disappear is just not factual. There are plenty of attractive people out there with great personalities, intelligent, etc. People can, however, work to improve their personality somewhat (i.e., develop their sense of humor, their social skills, their ease with interacting with others), but to say that personality is not developed in attractive people is just not accurate, since most of our personality is genetic or engrained before the child even knows he is attractive.

 

I 100% disagree with your assertion that personality is genetic. If that's true than why am I so much like my father? Sure I have my mothers wit (biological) but why am I so much like my dad (adoptive)

[ScreamingTrees]

I 100% disagree with your assertion that personality is genetic. If that's true than why am I so much like my father? Sure I have my mothers wit (biological) but why am I so much like my dad (adoptive)

 

Parental interaction has already been stated as as one of the only other factors besides genetic tendencies in behavior and overall demeanor. I wouldn't say that you're going to automatically grow up to be exactly like your parent..

 

I think that one's genetics are only a tendency rather than a stone-cold rule. Towards introversion rather than extroversion, really. Those are the only major distinctions, neither one truly better than the other..

 

Hell, you could even grow up to be a lot like someone from either parent's side of the family, perhaps even generations back, someone you'd never even have possibly been able to have met.

 

Maybe even a gene mutation can account for you being unlike anyone in your family in certain ways? Who knows.

 

In your case, of course, it's probably because you'd learned from your adoptive parent, but of course it's possibly been applied through a similar mentality/mental processing as your mother.

[tbf]

I may as well point out that much of personality is inborn (genetic). The rest is mainly the result of early childhood experiences and interactions with parents. So this concept that physical attractiveness somehow makes a person's personality disappear is just not factual. There are plenty of attractive people out there with great personalities, intelligent, etc. People can, however, work to improve their personality somewhat (i.e., develop their sense of humor, their social skills, their ease with interacting with others), but to say that personality is not developed in attractive people is just not accurate, since most of our personality is genetic or engrained before the child even knows he is attractive.

It hasn't been proven that personality is genetic. They theorize that there are genetic components such as intelligence and possibly, introversion and extroversion.

 

As for the balance, the book's still out on what components are nature v. nurture.

[Anela]

It's cute the way you take my posts out of context when you quote them.

 

A word of advice, I troll better than you & people on the interwebs NEVER get a rise out of me.

 

And no. I won't answer your question.

 

I'm curious, too - and Emilia is great. Adventurous, as well as smart and amusing.

[nessaaa]

Not me! I always try to say hi & start a little convo u know but then they run away or something so it never works out for me . I dont mind girls with no personality as long as she looks nice & acts right.

AMEN....thanks for being honest...

Most men think this.

[Pyro]

AMEN....thanks for being honest...

Most men think this.

 

If most men think that way then I am truly embarrassed.

[KathyM]

I 100% disagree with your assertion that personality is genetic. If that's true than why am I so much like my father? Sure I have my mothers wit (biological) but why am I so much like my dad (adoptive)

Personality is both genetic and imprinted through early childhood experiences. That is what I said. It is not just one or the other, but there is scientific evidence that much of personality is genetic. Here is an article about twins studies that shows that identical twins have the same personality traits, whereas fraternal twins have fewer similar personality traits. Both types of twins have the same parents and the same home environment, but it is only genetics that is the factor that can account for the fact that the identical twins have more similar personality traits than the fraternal twins. This would prove that genetics plays a significant role in a person's personality. Early childhood experiences also play a role, but genetics is a primary factor. But I don't need this study to convince me, because I have twins of my own (fraternal) that are as different as night and day in their personality. They have had the same upbringing and experiences in their early childhood, but their genetic makeup is not exactly the same, as it would be with identical twins.

 

It's nature, not nurture: personality lies in genes, twins study shows - Telegraph

[gaius]

A lot of attractive women aren't looking for random male attention when they're out and about, except for the occasion glance in their direction. So they give you weird vibes to make you go away without sounding rude. Doesn't mean they don't have a personality to bring out when they want. But yeah, some attractive people really do glide through life on their looks and never develop any charm. I'd say they're a small minority though.

[KraftDinner]

You know, I have to say...and keep in mind that I'm a woman...I find a lot of women act really generic around men.

 

I don't get it. I've had friends who are interesting normally turn into vacuous, boring non-personalities around men.

 

I think I embarrass some of these women because I joke around, laugh, tell stories and chat with random people who talk to me. I'm embarrassing because I'm not "cool" I guess.

 

These are my friends who spend hours getting ready.

 

I dunno. I don't get people who are SO WORRIED about what other people think.

 

I would guess, and I could be wrong, that maybe the women you choose to approach are all similar in some way?

 

I'm not a sit-around-in-a-bar-and-wait-for-guys-to-approach-so-i-can blow-them-off-and-feel-good-about-myself kind of gal. These women just might be.

 

If most men think that way then I am truly embarrassed.

 

I think maybe younger men think this way? Some, anyway.

 

It doesn't seem to hold true whatsoever when dudes move into their 30s. But it's no skin off my sack if most guys are like this. As long as some aren't

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[Pyro]

I think maybe younger men think this way? Some, anyway.

 

It doesn't seem to hold true whatsoever when dudes move into their 30s. But it's no skin off my sack if most guys are like this. As long as some aren't

 

True. I believe that way of thinking goes hand in hand with immaturity.

 

Nothing prevents them from maturing though, so yes the older they get they may change.

 

Thanks for not losing faith in our gender.

[KraftDinner]

True. I believe that way of thinking goes hand in hand with immaturity.

 

Nothing prevents them from maturing though, so yes the older they get they may change.

 

Thanks for not losing faith in our gender.

 

Oh, I love your gender! The guy sleeping next to me right now is just about the greatest thing I can possibly imagine! . If y'all can count him among your ranks, then you are a great crew!

[Negative Nancy]

This may sound crazy but when your a young attractive woman there's no real incentive for you to develop or have a great/interesting personality. People are going to like you regardless

 

Yes, because men care about women's looks first and foremost.

 

So in a way, you men get what you ask for.

[phineas]

I'm not trolling you. Just curious why you're so bitter and why your entire dating experience has been full of the same type of personality-less women. You're the only commonality.

 

I asked you once before to show me where you get my "ENTIRE DATING EXPERIENCE". from.

 

This is twice. If you can't do that then you are indeed trolling.

You seem to take my comments so personally.

 

By the way, you are starting to bore me with your unsubstantiated claims.

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[William]

As a reminder, the topic is about 'hitting on' pretty girls who turn out to have no personality, relevant to observing other men who don't and the question is asked: 'Maybe they already know?' Hence, the thread is primarily or tangentially about missing signs of 'no personality', or overlooking them, with 'pretty girls'. Please do so in a civil and respectful manner. Carry on.

[Divasu]

I'm really beside myself with this. Here I am in the busiest city in the world, with tons of young women showing off their assets and walking the streets all slowly, so to me, that's a cue to make a move so I do.

 

But 9 out of 10 times these dames have no personality whatsoever. I'm the one who has to cut the conversation short.

 

At least I'm hitting them up where most guys just stand there and look or pretend like they don't even see them. Maybe they already know?

 

My observation is that you are trying to assess a person's personality within a brief interaction. Keep in mind, that when you randomly approach someone in a public setting (such as what you described), they may be taken back and a bit stand-offish.

[TheGuard13]

Exactly. It takes a while to truly get to know someone, before most people let you see their real self.