cavalier99 Posted May 10, 2013 Share Posted May 10, 2013 I decided to to see ex. called her and showed up at her work. we are both in new RS. we went to dinner after. have been drinking until now. what a weird night. im indifferent but tempted. so is she. what am i doing. will update later. told her we arnt f*cking no matter what. cav Link to post Share on other sites
Echo000 Posted May 10, 2013 Share Posted May 10, 2013 tbh man your so straight forward and aggressive with nc and then you do stuff like this..i dont really get it. you keep saying your indifferent but thats not how an indifferent person behaves..i.e. calling and showing up at her work. Btw is your new girl even cool with this? 9 Link to post Share on other sites
Author cavalier99 Posted May 10, 2013 Author Share Posted May 10, 2013 tbh man your so straight forward and aggressive with nc and then you do stuff like this..i dont really get it. you keep saying your indifferent but thats not how an indifferent person behaves..i.e. calling and showing up at her work. Btw is your new girl even cool with this? I dont know.. that is why i said. What am i doing!!! Nobody would be cool with this. Im not emotional though. We talked all night about our new RS's. Weird! This isnt going any further than tonight. It is impossible. although it is nice to catch up. Again weird. It does feel good to be friendly with her. I said we arnt seeing each othe again for 6 months. Cav Link to post Share on other sites
GB25 Posted May 10, 2013 Share Posted May 10, 2013 (edited) I am a little let down by this..not gonna lie. Obviously it's you're life and all but I can't help but feel weirdly betrayed...I thought you were the poster boy for NC now you're breaking it left and right with claims of being "indifferent"..oh well..good luck Edited May 10, 2013 by GB25 4 Link to post Share on other sites
BLo7687 Posted May 10, 2013 Share Posted May 10, 2013 Are you sure this new girl isn't a rebound? You're still in love with your ex lol 6 Link to post Share on other sites
GB25 Posted May 10, 2013 Share Posted May 10, 2013 Kinda feel like how I did as a kid when milli vanilli was caught lip synching.. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ViciousCycle Posted May 10, 2013 Share Posted May 10, 2013 Is this a drunk post? That is so weird.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author cavalier99 Posted May 10, 2013 Author Share Posted May 10, 2013 Got me. Cav Link to post Share on other sites
shadow15 Posted May 10, 2013 Share Posted May 10, 2013 im tagging this one for later, this should be a good read later on lol. Btw only thing i can say is wow, good luck i guess. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cavalier99 Posted May 10, 2013 Author Share Posted May 10, 2013 I never asked to be a poster boy. Lol ill let everyone know tommorow what happened. It is just us conversing. I didnt kill anyone. And we arnt getting back together. She is sorta like a little sis now. Sorry if everone is let down. Sorry. Im living my life. And im fine just wanted to share it with you guys. Cav Link to post Share on other sites
GB25 Posted May 10, 2013 Share Posted May 10, 2013 I never asked to be a poster boy. Lol ill let everyone know tommorow what happened. It is just us conversing. I didnt kill anyone. And we arnt getting back together. She is sorta like a little sis now. Sorry if everone is let down. Sorry. Im living my life. And im fine just wanted to share it with you guys. Cav Its cool benedict arnold keep doin wat you do...lol im kidding man 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author cavalier99 Posted May 10, 2013 Author Share Posted May 10, 2013 Was that ever really in question? New girl is going to get HOSED. Cav's feelings will change, he will want out and dump her. Where it gets ironic is Cav's Ex feelings changed, she wanted out and dumped him. She was cruel, selfish and evil for doing that but when Cav does the same thing to the new girl... He is justified and doing what is best for both of them. Funny how that works. I guess im a scum bag. But im not leaving new girl. Nor am i getting back with ex. Of that i can guarantee everyone. But everone likes drama so ill keep posting. Link to post Share on other sites
aisuru Posted May 10, 2013 Share Posted May 10, 2013 LOL all the way through this thread. It's full of awesome. Oh Cav.... you remind me so much of my college boyfriend (many moons ago). He was tough, strong, determined... could get any girl he wanted pretty easily... but for some strange reason, never was able to quite break from me, both then, and over more than a decade, up until about 2 years ago... when after he was off and on with the same girl seriously for 3 years, he FINALLY married her out of nowhere. SIX months after he and I went to Costa Rica (I haven't had romantic feelings for him in years, but we do have wicked chemistry to this day). He didn't know how to be alone. Still doesn't. Yep, you remind me of him. Either way? I hope you have a good time tonight playing with fire. Sometimes it's just what you gotta do. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GB25 Posted May 10, 2013 Share Posted May 10, 2013 Of course you are not leaving New Girl... You can't be alone and the Ex doesn't want you. Don't kid yourself, you are the one who loves the drama. Uncalled for 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted May 10, 2013 Share Posted May 10, 2013 ....Dafuq......? What is this, a parallel dimension? So much for this crap.... NC General, demotion to Private.... 9 Link to post Share on other sites
Author cavalier99 Posted May 10, 2013 Author Share Posted May 10, 2013 I love you guys and LS! Gotta go! Cav Link to post Share on other sites
suladas Posted May 10, 2013 Share Posted May 10, 2013 Wow cav I thought you were doing awesome, but it really shows how much feelings you still have for your ex, and the worst part is denying it. It is very dangerous to be seeing her, especially with alcohol involved. And guaranteed your new girl wouldn't approve of you seeing your ex. I'm not a huge fan of NC or ignoring people, but what you're doing can't end well. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LoveB86 Posted May 10, 2013 Share Posted May 10, 2013 Cav.. nooooooooooooooooo!! lol 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LoveB86 Posted May 10, 2013 Share Posted May 10, 2013 maybe he should of stayed single a bit longer. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
SalientPoint Posted May 10, 2013 Share Posted May 10, 2013 At the end of the day, though I've always enjoyed and paid creedence to Cav's posts, he is just a regular person like the rest of us, able to succumb to the same strength's and weaknesses. I know there are a few mutually designated leaders on LS that we universally look up to for strength and enhanced encouragement, but the fact that we're here, though at various stages of grief and loss, mean it could in theory happen to anyone of us. Ok, if he jerks around new girl, then yes, that is a relevant element of unsavoriness and THAT would deserve scorn, but I'm willing to wait and see how this pans out. I'm not saying it couldn't happen to me at this point... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
suladas Posted May 10, 2013 Share Posted May 10, 2013 Something to ponder cav, if you were really indifferent and don't care like you claim, you would have no desire or care to text her at all, despite seeing her. I'm not saying contacting her was really stupid or anything (i've done it myself) but you have to be honest with yourself and see it for what it really is. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
grace777 Posted May 10, 2013 Share Posted May 10, 2013 Whaaaa??!! Haha oh boy, Cav. Be careful on this one. Trust me, I get it...but then again, you know exactly how this can turn out. I hope you find whatever answers you are seeking. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author cavalier99 Posted May 10, 2013 Author Share Posted May 10, 2013 (edited) Ok just got home. No sex. We slept together for a bit. But decided sex wanst a good idea for either of us, I really cant put anything into persepective right now. Im not torn up..i think???. It was like a surreal trip down memory lane. im really not sure what my intention was seeing her???? I would have never guessed that i would have been getting home this time. Initial idea was to see her at work, let her pet my dog some, and catch up. I wasnt stressed or torn up about seeing her at all so NC does work. But it is definitly a slippery slope once you break NC. it is like playing with fire seeing some one you spent so much time with....both of us were dumbfounded we ended up back at her place. Super weird and surreal. Ill see if i tore out stiches or not in the coming days. i did get the impression she would be willing to get back with me but i made it clear that this was a one time thing. But at this point i guess i have no credibiltiy here on LS. I guess ill see if this f*cks me up or not. Cav full analysis later. Good night Edited May 10, 2013 by cavalier99 Link to post Share on other sites
th90 Posted May 10, 2013 Share Posted May 10, 2013 I think it was just a temptation. It's like wanting to try something so badly, then you try it and realize it isn't all that great. Better get your ass back on the right track Cav. Can't believe you slept with your ex though there wasn't sex, you are basically cheating on your new girl emotionally. The girl didn't do anything wrong to deserve this. Better clear your head and make a decision. If your ex still matters, better come clean with your new gf. I'm still rooting for you! Don't be a douche. There are things that should stay in the past. You're giving an impression that you're really excited to find out whether this reunion with the ex will **** you up or not than feeling any remorse for the wrongdoings that were done tonight. Be a man! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Harradin Posted May 10, 2013 Share Posted May 10, 2013 I have no advice. I'm just glad I'm sticking to NC, 7 months NC on Sunday. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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