girlfriend lied about being at home

[barry77]

Last year, i rang my girlfriend, she sounded surprised that i wasn't at work. I asked her if she wanted to meet later but she said no, i'm tired i have to work early tomorrow. We have a good relationship. I went to her apartment because i was suspicious. When i was outside i rang her and asked "are you at home". She said yes, i said i am outside can you come out? Then she was like no, im not at home. I said where are you? and she said at a friends. It turns out she was in her friends' boyfriends apratment, she invited me to come there so i went. When i arrived there she came to the entrance to meet me with a really guilty look on her face, we went up and into the apartment, he was there and a male housemate and another girl who lives there. I dont know if it was all innocent or there was something going on? She says she went there to pay him money that she had borrowed, which is true as i corroborated it with the guys girlfriend. The gf was gone back to Brazil and wasnt around, he was still living here, my gf is brazilian aswell. When i asked her why she lied about going there, she keeps saying i didn't lie which is complete bs. This was late enough like 10 or half ten at night, he was making dinner for her. I dont know what to think, i am being too invasive into my gfs life?? Was she cheating on me??

[jolie_baby]

maybe she was not cheating, or nothing happened, but why would she lie about it? Also, is it usual that a male friend of hers makes her dinner at his apartment? Maybe she was just exploring potentials...

[USMCHokie]

LAUNCH on the spot and don't look back.

[Ruby Slippers]

When i was outside i rang her and asked "are you at home". She said yes, i said i am outside can you come out? Then she was like no, im not at home.

 

When i asked her why she lied about going there, she keeps saying i didn't lie which is complete bs. This was late enough like 10 or half ten at night, he was making dinner for her.

I'd dump her.

 

At the very least, she lied to you, then denied she lied - after she was caught red-handed.

 

If she can so easily lie about this, what else can she lie about?

[mammasita]

last year this happened??

[barry77]

Yeah last year, i know its a long time but still, its the principle of it. This will sound big headed but im a good looking fella, this other guy is overweight but has a decent job, maybe better than mine. She says you think i want &*&^/$? Come on, its not true. She keeps saying i didnt lie when she blatantly did which pisses me off. She says "you need to forget about this" . I do bring it up sporadically because i find it hard to forget about it.

[Darren Steez]

and now you'll forever doubt her word and actions. It's pretty simply..why lie? She made up a BS story about having to work in the morning because she didn't want to hang out with you..if you had left it at that and gone home you would have never have known. But fact is you swallowed it, and you keep swallowing it. So take some juice with it next time, might make it go down easier because at this point there's no use bringing it up over and over again.

 

You accepted it's ok to lie to, she got away with it, and that's that. Keep looking over your shoulder though..not dealing with the situation at the time now has its consequences.

[drifter777]

If you are still ruminating on it after a year then end it with her. Life's too short for all the drama you are going through. Get out and play with some other girls.

[crederer]

oi. I wouldn't have minded personally if she didn't lie about it and said "hey I'm at x place, come over" but she lied. That's a really weird thing to do.

 

I have close relationships with other females and have been in her shoes before. The ex's were weirded out by it and I respected that so during these relationships I wouldn't ever hang out alone with these women. I also, under no circumstances, lied about it. If I hung out with them, I'd be upfront about it.