cooldaddy Posted September 26, 2004 Share Posted September 26, 2004 well first off i am a newbie and wanted to say hey to you all i have a question to all of you that have been dumped by someone that: 1.never appreciated you? 2. never had any follow-thru? 3. someone who was constantly confused about your relationship and their life? 4.said that you smothered them and spent too much time together, but they never tried to make friends and wanted to spend all their time with you, and in the end, say that "we spent too much time together, it got old? did you ever find love again??????is it true that when you go thru all kinds of b.s. with a person like that you always find someone 20x better??? i am wondering because in the above description is my ex. instead of dating other women, i decided to just be by myself and re-focus on me, but i feel like i would like to go down the relationship road again, just apprehensive and weary, and would like a little advice and some stories of new love after you got dumped. i dont want my ex back, i want a new woman that will love me better thanx!!!!!!!!!!!!!! p.s. im really glad i found this site, i took the break up hard, but i realised after all that time that i deserve a woman that appreciates me and the things that i do, and i hope that anyone going thru a break-up like mine where it seems like you are getting blamed reailzes that you are too good of a person to worry about someone that cant appreciate a good man/woman "if you fall, fall on your back because if you can look up, you can get up!!!!!!!!!!!! thats real Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted September 26, 2004 Share Posted September 26, 2004 1.never appreciated you? Yes, but it's my word against hers. 2. never had any follow-thru? Yes. Again, my word against hers. 3. someone who was constantly confused about your relationship and their life? Yes. Huge signal. Need someone who is sure. 4.said that you smothered them and spent too much time together, but they never tried to make friends and wanted to spend all their time with you, and in the end, say that "we spent too much time together, it got old? Sounds like someone she didn't reallly love you but wanted you to really love her. She was a real catch! I'll bet she was really pretty, or else she'd have learned that she can't get away with that kind of behavior. I can see reflections of this in my relationship. Milder signs, but it sure gets on my nerves. Hence, our current status of not having spoken for a week. Just 2 semi-angry emails from her. I wish there was a way to find out what would have happened if I had done everything perfectly. I wonder how much I contributed to this failure. I blame her for all of it, but it couldn't be that simple. I just don't know whether I was justified to respond like I did. Or to take this break. Maybe I should have had more faith. Maybe she was right and I was wrong. It sucks that some guys like you and me invest so much, are so patient, and there's no payoff. You seem to be coming to terms with it. I would recommend that you start dating as much as you can. Don't invest anything in them. Don't take it seriously, just get to know different women. Lots of test driving. That will give you a better chance to meet someone who loves you better. I guess if things break down completely with my girlfriend, I'll have to follow my own advice. Then I'll be able to answer your question about what to expect next. Or maybe you can let me know. Maybe it won't be 20x better, but I hope it's not as bad. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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