meanon Posted September 30, 2004 Share Posted September 30, 2004 I feel very good, havent felt this way in a long time Great news, stoneheather Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted September 30, 2004 Share Posted September 30, 2004 You'd better record all your hapy thoughts post 150 $ fast for when the low period comes. I'm sure they were woth it to make you feel better ... for awhile. I've always felt that he real hard work you have to do it yourself, and if indeed you need help, then it comes a whole lot more and... I'm sorry, Heather, maybe it's just my one colosemindedness, but I get so frustrated to see you reinforced and doing so fine, knowing that tomorrow or the day after that you'll be so low.. To me real change is possible only if it comes within yourself and only if you really really work on it a lot. Just like hapiness: it should come from within you, not from 150 bucks spent on a one-time therapy session. I feel so frustrated, I so wish we had the same ability as that silly doctor to tell you the right things, and you to understand it... I know he helped you and I know you are feeling better and I know that's what you wanted, but I still feel bitter towards a guy who takes 150$ from your pocket only to sell you one bottle of the magic potion called "I'm okey now",with a limited effect in time... Keep us updated and don't forget your promises, Curly Link to post Share on other sites
Author Stone Posted October 3, 2004 Author Share Posted October 3, 2004 I don't know why I just can't let him go.... I called his parents up north this morning but all they said was he was just following the docotrs orders to have no contact with me... That's either a crock of Sh*t or his doctor is a quack!! what doc tells you to just completely abandon your faimly... I don't know what it will take to get over him I guess I will never get a strait explination.... But all of his stuff is still in my house... What the heck should I do with it? PLUS he owe's me $4,000. and now I really need it being single and all should I wait a month and SUE HIM? Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted October 4, 2004 Share Posted October 4, 2004 Talk to his parents before thinking about suing him. Wasn't he the suicial?Who needs a law suit in a time like that? I'm afrai you'd have to make it all alone. I certainly doubt you'll get your money back any time soon, but sure wish it on you. Be strong, Curly Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted October 4, 2004 Share Posted October 4, 2004 Be like your avatar, sweetheart, and run. Be thankful for this opportunity to run. You run your ass off. Like your avatar. Shake it, baby! Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted October 4, 2004 Share Posted October 4, 2004 i know I should end it but I keep thinking about how wonderful our relationship was like before he was sick, I was the envy of all of my freinds because I had this mand who adored me... You're making the mistake everybody makes when a relationship dies - whether it's with someone with disorders or not. You're thinking that the early months - the infatuation months - are the 'real' relationship and you want to stay with him hoping it will go back to 'the way it was'. But that was not reality. It was the happy fuzzy cloud everybody's in at the beginning of a relationship. What you are going through now is reality. This is the life you can expect if you stay with him. Some folks with bipolar are motivated to stay on their meds and to deal with the illness. Others have a harder time and do things like drink when they shouldn't. This fellow has proven that he's not managing his illness well and there's no real reason to believe he will do better in the future, unfortunately. I don't know why I just can't let him go.... I called his parents up north this morning but all they said was he was just following the docotrs orders to have no contact with me... That's either a crock of Sh*t or his doctor is a quack!! what doc tells you to just completely abandon your faimly... You can't let him go because your brain wants 'the way it was'. Tell your brain that it will never be 'the way it was' again. The doctor isn't a quack. You are not his family. You are a gf with a child who needs you to pay him attention. Your bf can barely handle his own life, much less a relationship. It's better for you to break the ties now because it's a relationship that will cause you grief from now on. Let him go. I don't know what it will take to get over him I guess I will never get a strait explination You have to stay away. Remember all the 'no contact' threads? Love is a sort of addiction. The only way to get over it is to go into total abstinence. .... But all of his stuff is still in my house... What the heck should I do with it? PLUS he owe's me $4,000. and now I really need it being single and all should I wait a month and SUE HIM? Ask his parents. Maybe they'll offer to pick the stuff up. Or maybe you can get it put into a locker and they'll pay for it for him. Ask them about the money, too. But don't be awful about it and don't threaten to sue. He's sick and a mess right now so your coming down on him like a ton of bricks isn't going to help. I'm sure they'll help you work something out. And to Curly: To me real change is possible only if it comes within yourself and only if you really really work on it a lot. Just like hapiness: it should come from within you, not from 150 bucks spent on a one-time therapy session. I feel so frustrated, I so wish we had the same ability as that silly doctor to tell you the right things, and you to understand it... The reason the doctor earns the money is that she does have the ability to tell someone the right things so that that person will understand it. She has taken years of expensive schooling and been trained to do exactly that. Doctors like that help people get themselves on the road to change because no human has all the knowledge in the world and therefore not all humans are able to just help themselves when trouble arises. That's why psychology came to be. It's as silly as saying 'you should be able to fix everything in your house' or 'you should be able to fix your car by yourself'. Sometimes you need expert help. Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted October 4, 2004 Share Posted October 4, 2004 Sometimes you need expert help Aaaaw, why? Aint we shackers good enough? j/k Link to post Share on other sites
Author Stone Posted October 4, 2004 Author Share Posted October 4, 2004 I just sent his sister an email ( the one who challenges me on our relationship issues) and told her not to contact me anymore, that this is truly pathetic and I don't want to hear from her or him ever again.. Probably not the right thing to do but hey now I have closure. As far as the money he signed a statement saying he would pay me back in a couple week's I'll mail it to him/ his faimly and if I get no response I'll take legal action. Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted October 5, 2004 Share Posted October 5, 2004 Good stuff, Heather! Now, if he ever tries to crawl back or you have second thoughts or doubts or consider taking him back, just come tell us, and we'll sort you out good. Link to post Share on other sites
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