pureinheart Posted May 14, 2013 Share Posted May 14, 2013 I'm far happier/content than if I had made a mistake .. and just for the sake of being 'married'. Lonliest time of my life: When my better half/best friend of 23 years acted extremely isolated/indifferent and told me he didn't want to be married anymore. SPEAK IT UF!!!!!!! I couldn't figure out what to "bold" lol. The "lonliest" times for me was being in wrong relationships (of which I used to be very good at:eek:)...heartbroken and unable to connect with others because of depression due to some crackhead not being able to make up his mind or act right- WHATEVER! Link to post Share on other sites
prettycutesoul Posted May 14, 2013 Share Posted May 14, 2013 oh my gosh!!! I've been reading the posts here, and it's true! The loneliest times of my life was being with my ex for 8 years!!! It's crazy I didn't realize it but thinking back I was lonely 90% of the time! I was sad half of the time too. But most of the times when I am happy or when I'm ok is the times when I think of leaving him, or thinking of life after him. I don't yet if I can be truly happy alone - many have found that they can - and I kinda want to reach that position where I can feel ok being alone, I can be happy being alone. I respect those who can. but I am sure it is doable. Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted May 15, 2013 Share Posted May 15, 2013 I think the majority of people find it hard being alone, it annoys when I read stuff about how we have to make sure we're totally happy alone and have no need for a partner, it makes me feel needy for not being happy on my own, I'm busy and have other stuff going on in my life, but I'm still lonely. I mean sure it's never a good idea to make a partner the centre of your world, but even so for many people they are, that's just the way it is. Many animal and bird species are social and need each other and are depressed if they are alone, which is why I get annoyed when people have single pet birds, or leave their dog at home all day while they're at work. I crave company (not just any company, I mean people I am close to) since my 18 year r/ship broke up 4 years ago, hate being on my own but pretend I am ok with it so as not to seem 'needy', but if we accept dogs need company then why the hell shouldn't we be able to admit we get lonely and need a r/ship?! When I've been at my loneliest I've thought most people wouldn't let a dog suffer in this way, the compassionate ones would make sure dogs aren't alone too much, but humans can be very cut off from each other and yes none of us like to admit we get lonely or crave company. I rarely admit to anyone I'm lonely as I worry they'd think I was only seeing them because I'm lonely/desperate, but that's not the case, I'm actually really fussy about who I'm friends with, I've let several friendships go as I just wasn't feeling it, so I'd rather be alone than with the wrong people. I've tried hard to pretend to myself I'm ok being alone, but I'm not, I can't get away from the fact I'm happiest when in a loving r/ship. Hi all, I've come across a few inspirational posts about finding happiness even when you are alone. I think some people are able to do so. But I don't think some people could ever tuly be happy alone. Sure, they go through temporary moments of singleood but the hope of eventually finding a long- lasting fulfilling relationship, keeps them going. Consequently, they muster up all the courage and strength to stay happy pending this relationship. They push themselves to exercise patience. So it really confuses me when some people talk about being happy alone. Do the mean they are happy being alone temporaily or forever? Can you really be happy with the prospect of never finding someone? Isn't the essence of life to forge relationships?( I.e friendships, romantic relationshps and familial relationships?) Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted May 15, 2013 Share Posted May 15, 2013 Would you be happy if you were alone a lot of the time though, if you didn't have all those people in your life? I've had a few fairly long relationships....that didn't make me happy. I have more loving people in my life now than ever. I am voluntarily single, but almost never alone. Link to post Share on other sites
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