Nyla Posted May 13, 2013 Share Posted May 13, 2013 ...the sixth anniversary of the night I met my husband. It was the week that I turned 25. My husband and I met on a blind date and neither of us had high expectations. I wasn't even going to go but my intuition told me to go on the date anyway. We were both pleasantly surprised and when I turned 25 a few days later, my husband called me from work to wish me a happy birthday. He took me out for a night on the town for my birthday; we went out for dinner, had drinks and visited a national landmark with a great view. My husband would not let me pay for anything and when I worked in the evenings that magical spring, he would pick me up so that I wouldn't have to take transit at night. I was smitten with this quiet sweetheart who treated me with so much respect; he was the perfect gentleman unlike so many other pigs I met who talked about taking me to bed immediately. When we made love after deciding to be exclusive, I was in awe of how much passion and sensuality this introverted math whiz had inside of him. We commemorate our meeting and celebrate my birthday at the same time, since they are so close. I hope that we can share many more years, growing and changing with each other as time goes by. 15 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nyla Posted May 14, 2013 Author Share Posted May 14, 2013 I realize that since this is a happy thread, members will be less inclined to respond. This is a forum where people come with their problems and not their joys. I guess I wanted to put a little positivity on LS. *shrug* Sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted May 14, 2013 Share Posted May 14, 2013 I realize that since this is a happy thread, members will be less inclined to respond. This is a forum where people come with their problems and not their joys. I guess I wanted to put a little positivity on LS. *shrug* Sorry. Don't apologise! Positivity is good Great post 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TigerCub Posted May 14, 2013 Share Posted May 14, 2013 Nyla I think your post is sweet I'm glad you found a nice man to share your life with 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted May 14, 2013 Share Posted May 14, 2013 I get excited by anniversaries too. We are at nearly 15 years together, 14 married. Funny to be coming out of another 7 year cycle. Glad you are still both in love and bearing up through the struggles. The early days are always good to reflect on.. Take care, Eve x 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BetheButterfly Posted May 14, 2013 Share Posted May 14, 2013 ...the sixth anniversary of the night I met my husband. It was the week that I turned 25. My husband and I met on a blind date and neither of us had high expectations. I wasn't even going to go but my intuition told me to go on the date anyway. We were both pleasantly surprised and when I turned 25 a few days later, my husband called me from work to wish me a happy birthday. He took me out for a night on the town for my birthday; we went out for dinner, had drinks and visited a national landmark with a great view. My husband would not let me pay for anything and when I worked in the evenings that magical spring, he would pick me up so that I wouldn't have to take transit at night. I was smitten with this quiet sweetheart who treated me with so much respect; he was the perfect gentleman unlike so many other pigs I met who talked about taking me to bed immediately. When we made love after deciding to be exclusive, I was in awe of how much passion and sensuality this introverted math whiz had inside of him. We commemorate our meeting and celebrate my birthday at the same time, since they are so close. I hope that we can share many more years, growing and changing with each other as time goes by. Beautiful!!! HAPPY 6th YEAR MEETING ANNIVERSARY NYLA!!!! :bunny: Blessings!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BetheButterfly Posted May 14, 2013 Share Posted May 14, 2013 I realize that since this is a happy thread, members will be less inclined to respond. This is a forum where people come with their problems and not their joys. I guess I wanted to put a little positivity on LS. *shrug* Sorry. I didn't notice this thread yesterday when I got on Loveshack. Sometimes I tend to avoid the marriage section cause yeah you're right; it seems most people who post in this section have problems. I guess I understand that though. When I first came to Loveshack, I was sad because the man I wanted to have a loving and committed relationship with just wanted sex with me. This was before I met my husband. Anyways, I am so glad you posted this thread and CONGRATULATIONS!!! I think if more people with marriage problems asked advice from people who are very happily married, that would help them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted May 14, 2013 Share Posted May 14, 2013 I didn't notice this thread yesterday when I got on Loveshack. Sometimes I tend to avoid the marriage section cause yeah you're right; it seems most people who post in this section have problems. I guess I understand that though. When I first came to Loveshack, I was sad because the man I wanted to have a loving and committed relationship with just wanted sex with me. This was before I met my husband. Anyways, I am so glad you posted this thread and CONGRATULATIONS!!! I think if more people with marriage problems asked advice from people who are very happily married, that would help them. You always make me smile. Such good, honest energy. God Bless you girl! Take care, Eve x 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RiverRunning Posted May 16, 2013 Share Posted May 16, 2013 Nyla - happy birthday, and happy anniversary. Very happy for you. It's always nice to get reminders out here - for those of us married, happily or not - that there are bright days too. And it is possible to have a happy relationship - I think with so much negativity here, it gets easy to forget that. People get tunnel vision and assume everyone's unhappy in marriage or that marriage is a waste of time. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted May 16, 2013 Share Posted May 16, 2013 So happy for you, Nyla! The quiet ones can really be pretty darn amazing, huh? Been my experience, as well. :love: Link to post Share on other sites
Ursa Posted May 16, 2013 Share Posted May 16, 2013 I always enjoy reading the odd happy story over here. They used to be a little more common, but many of those posters seem to have drifted away. Your story strikes a chord with me. My husband also opened my eyes to how wonderful emotionally mature relationships with a good man could be. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nyla Posted May 16, 2013 Author Share Posted May 16, 2013 I always enjoy reading the odd happy story over here. They used to be a little more common, but many of those posters seem to have drifted away. Your story strikes a chord with me. My husband also opened my eyes to how wonderful emotionally mature relationships with a good man could be. We need more happy stories and threads on this forum. My husband had some commitment issues when we were dating. We worked through them and here we are. His love has enriched my life in ways that I can't even describe. He is a reward for all that I have suffered in my life. Link to post Share on other sites
daletom Posted May 16, 2013 Share Posted May 16, 2013 ...the sixth anniversary of the night I met my husband. I don't think many people can cite the date they met their S.O., and it's a cultural stereotype that guys don't remember birthdays or anniversaries. I can pin down the date and time within an hour when my wife and I first saw each other. Over the years I have used this knowledge from time to time to tease and annoy her. Like the time we were on our way out to someplace. While stopped for a traffic light I grabbed and passionately kissed her, and as the light changed said "Happy Anniversary". For the next 5 minutes she prattled on about how it wasn't our anniversary; what anniversary was I thinking of; etc. (Of course, I was too busy driving to say much.) As she was about to become really aggravated I explained things to her, and she felt embarrassed that she hadn't thought of the day we met. Similar to the proximity of your meeting to your birthday, my wife and I married one year plus two weeks after we first met so our wedding anniversary is conveniently close to our meeting anniversary and usefully distracting to her. One year we were attending a social event on the meeting anniversary and I surprised her with a simple corsage. It included a ribbon bearing only a number - "33", as I recall. She told several people how considerate I was for getting the flower, but we were approaching only our 32nd wedding anniversary, NOT the 33rd . I had to remind her that it was, indeed, 33 years since I first met her. But now we are coming up on 40 years (39 years married) and she's catching on to the ways I like to embarrass her so I don't know how many more times I'll get to use that joke. . . . met on a blind date and neither of us had high expectations . . . For us, it didn't start as a blind date per se but we WERE introduced by a much older mutual acquaintance. It actually started with over three months of letter writing before we met in person. Perhaps a very good way for two quiet-and-shy people to get acquainted on a personal level BEFORE that magical first meeting. . . . I was in awe of how much passion and sensuality this introverted math whiz had inside of him . . . It has been said "Engineers make great husbands, even though no girl would be caught dead with one at a party.". There is even some scientific research indicating that engineers and scientists have longer, more stable relationships than the general population. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nyla Posted May 20, 2013 Author Share Posted May 20, 2013 Top Story: Why Engineers Make The Best Boyfriends/Husbands | The Dangerous Lee News & Entertainment Network My husband is an engineer. Everything on that list is true except being handy; my husband is not handy at all. Also, he is a forestry engineer which is a very niche market. When the recession hit in 2008, my husband lost his job and could not find another one for a whole year. We are in a lot of debt, so we don't live like people who make my husband's salary. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
daletom Posted May 21, 2013 Share Posted May 21, 2013 My husband is an engineer . . . Well, based on your initial post he certainly swept you off your feet so I guess that engineers (at least some of them) really DO make pretty good husbands. In other circumstances we haven't determined whether engineers are generally attractive to the opposite sex. For starters, consider the article "Engineers as babe magnets" at http://www.embedded.com/electronics-blogs/break-points/4211828/Engineers-as-babe-magnets And the study relating vocation to relationship success was described at "Study breaks down divorce rates by occupation" http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/09/16/AR2010091607509.html I can't find a version of the original paper online. Link to post Share on other sites
PoppyW Posted May 26, 2013 Share Posted May 26, 2013 Congratulations Nyla on the Anniversary. Stories like yours give people hope Link to post Share on other sites
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