lilablue Posted September 27, 2004 Share Posted September 27, 2004 I broke up with this guy and lately, I having been contacting him. He appears interested. I told him that I wanted to see him in Florida where he goes to law school. He has been discussing sex in our emails. For example he sent me this email: Yeah, we're kinda getting used to all these storms and hurricanes. That's nature. You may be able to see me. Who knows what may happen. Maybe you'd like me to be your daddy and give you a big, hard, juicy Christmas gift. We'll see if you've been naughty or nice. You might deserve a spanking. It's OK to touch yourself and jones for my satisfaction. Just loosen up a bit and pretend that I'm there to fill you up. I responded: Is that what you do? Dont be shy. He responded back: I can wait to do it in person. Is he looking for a good time??? or is he interested in reconnecting? Link to post Share on other sites
batitm Posted September 27, 2004 Share Posted September 27, 2004 I'd say its impossible to tell but you know him so maybe you can make an educated guess. Link to post Share on other sites
Sundaymorning Posted September 27, 2004 Share Posted September 27, 2004 Um, yeah, he wants to reconnect to your private parts, and that is it. Nothing more. Guys dont have secret agendas. He is not hiding anything- but he wants to hide his sausage in you. You going to let him? It is up to you. Make your choice but dont get upset if he doesnt want anything more after the xmas present. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 28, 2004 Author Share Posted September 28, 2004 I think you might be right. I will test him by not sending him anymore emails and see if he initiates anymore contact or waits close to Christmas to find out if I am still going to Florida. I think it was quite cocky of him to tell me to masturbate but that he could wait to "do it in person" what a ****ing turn-off. I have not replied to that last email of his about "waiting to do it in person." his ass might be waiting until kingdom comes. He might feel the affects of being rejected TWICE if he does not come CORRECT. Should I let him know how I feel or WAIT??????????? Link to post Share on other sites
Sundaymorning Posted September 28, 2004 Share Posted September 28, 2004 I do not think he will care either way. Tail comes and goes....... Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 28, 2004 Author Share Posted September 28, 2004 So, you are telling me to not send anymore emails and wait???? Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 28, 2004 Author Share Posted September 28, 2004 I just sent him this email to let him know that the jig is up: "Oh, so I was wrong, you dont fantasize about me at all. I was beginning think you only wanted to see me again to have sex ." Lets see what he says............... Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted September 28, 2004 Share Posted September 28, 2004 Find a better quality guy who can send more tasteful emails. This guy sounds like a crude bore. Hope I'm not being too harsh in case he really is a sensitive Prince Charming. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 28, 2004 Author Share Posted September 28, 2004 I think you are right. He has not responded to my last email about him only wanting to see me for sex. I think he is embarressed. Link to post Share on other sites
sinner Posted September 28, 2004 Share Posted September 28, 2004 Is he looking for a good time??? or is he interested in reconnecting? Probably both. He's an ex-bf with whom you've maintained a connection. That he feels comfortable enough to talk dirty is no big deal. And remember, you dumped him, then established a reconnection and have told him that you will be visiting him at law school. What the f#ck is he supposed to think? Heck, he's showing both X-rated gumption and imagination, which is pretty good for a guy who has been semi-dumped. Do you think he might be getting mixed signals from you? A tease here or there? At now you blast him for only wanting sex! Give the guy a break. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted September 28, 2004 Share Posted September 28, 2004 As sinnner pointed out,it is impossible to know what he wants... especially since he might be opened to possibilities. I say emails are a sure way to send mixed signals. Even if he did want something more, he is a guy. What is he to do, confess? So yeah,in my opinion he went over the line with the sex email. Maybe it's his way of putting you in an embarassing situation for having left him? Cool off and see how it goes when you meet face to face. Good luck Curly Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 28, 2004 Author Share Posted September 28, 2004 Well, he just replied to my last email about him wanting to see me only for sex with the following email: "No, we can talk a bit." Link to post Share on other sites
Sundaymorning Posted September 28, 2004 Share Posted September 28, 2004 why do you want us to keep analyzing this dude? Only you can do that, and its time you do just that. no more! Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted September 28, 2004 Share Posted September 28, 2004 It's easy lol You meet up, if you've been naughty you get your spanking..enjoy your gift and then see what happens...? Do you want more with this guy than sex? Do you want him as a bf again? Sounds to me like he's only after one thing but if you are too then I don't see a problem if not then you decide whether to go down there or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 28, 2004 Author Share Posted September 28, 2004 He just sent me this email: "Three things are insatiable: the desert, the grave and a woman's vulva." - Old Arab Proverb I wrote back: "A woman is like a blanket: If you cover yourself with it, it bothers you; if you throw it aside you will feel the cold. " Do you think he will take me seriously? I want to book a vacation package for Miami at the Hotel Chelsea for three days and then fly to Orlando to visit my best friend and her husband. I told him that I would be in Miami visiting relatives and that he coulde see me. Do I seem desprate. Should I give up the fantasy? I want this man to take me seriously. I think he is feeling down because he just a broke law student living with at home. I am afraid that once he finishes that I will be old news or worst he will never contact me after we see each other in December. I thought his email was so crude and vulgar to have my precious pussy compared to a grave and a desert. I am having second thoughts about him again. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted September 29, 2004 Share Posted September 29, 2004 I think he takes YOU about as seriously as you take ME (i.e. not at all). Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 29, 2004 Author Share Posted September 29, 2004 Well, guess what the ball is in his corner now. I am waiting for him to pursue me. What guy is going to spill his emotions to some girl that broke up with him. I think he is being guarded by saying that we can talk a bit too. I have to be careful not to seem controlling. I dont think you understand me. YOu have to treat them like puppies and pet them and give them their space. Now it is up to him to chase me like a puppy. I finally understand men now. I will back off and let him miss me and not my wet ####. Link to post Share on other sites
meanon Posted September 29, 2004 Share Posted September 29, 2004 Both are you. It's not like he's a stranger who doesn't know you. I don't think you do understand men. You know this one though, so trust your instincts. The thrill of the chase is fine but, as you say, you need to be careful not to seem controlling. Better still, don't be controlling. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 30, 2004 Author Share Posted September 30, 2004 I dont understand men. I think I am doing the right thing by letting him now contact him. I have shown him enough attention. What do you mean by "boTH OF yoU.???? aLSO what am I doing wrong??? Link to post Share on other sites
meanon Posted September 30, 2004 Share Posted September 30, 2004 Both are you. I meant that he may love all of you: your personality and your body. You clearly like this guy and are turned on by his talk. That doesn't mean you don't like his personality does it? What seems to bother you is that he is either disrespecting you by talking dirty or it means his interest is only sexual. I'm not saying you should ignore these doubts, you know him. When we love someone it's the whole package we go for. For many men (and quite a lot of women) the expression of that love will be primarily sexual. If he can't express the emotional too or it's absent then you are clearly not suited. I was just questioning your assumption that it wasn't there. I don't think you'll get any further by expecting him to chase you, enjoyable though that may be! He said you could talk - take him at his word. Start talking about feelings. Don't give it him on a plate but start to tell him how you feel (maybe about seeing him again) and see how he responds. It seems a little odd that you are having such difficulty reading him when you've been out with him before. Is it just the limitations of text or did you not share a good emotional connection? If you never have felt a close emotional connection with him then you're unlikely to develop one now. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 30, 2004 Author Share Posted September 30, 2004 I have not heard from him since he wrote: No, we can talk a little bit too. after I sent him an email stating that I was beginning to think he only wanted to see me for sex. Link to post Share on other sites
meanon Posted September 30, 2004 Share Posted September 30, 2004 That's not a good sign. You're doing the right thing by backing off and letting him contact you. He will, if you are important enough to him. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 30, 2004 Share Posted September 30, 2004 Thrill of the chase. Back off, NO CONTACT. When he realizes he hasn't heard from you...He'll contact you. I know it might be hard, so just keep busy. Remember...Thrill of the chase...These guys out there need to be the one doing the chasing..Once they think they got ya pegged, the run back into the woods!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 30, 2004 Author Share Posted September 30, 2004 Thanks ladies for the advice. I think I have right where I want him. But again it has only been TWo days since he sent me his last email on 9/28 regarding that " we could talk a little bit too." I was one to break it off with him so I had to show initial interest. I think he might float me an email by tomorrow to check to see if I am still in the picture. I usually respond to his email with short comments like thank you or stay sweet. But, I am sure he is wondering if he soothe my concerns about him only wanting to see me to have sex by sending me his last email about, No, we can talk a little bit too. I did not respond to it to let him wonder if I think his response was sufficient to convince that a visit to Florida was worth it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilablue Posted September 30, 2004 Author Share Posted September 30, 2004 It is day three and I know he is probably wondering why I have not sent him an email acknowleding his last email. Oh this is so sweet, this NO CONTACT thing. Link to post Share on other sites
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