please help me now.....cheating?? condom!!

[hugznkisses21]

Ok so heres the scoop....little insecure me is getting all worked up again.

 

My bf and I dont see eachother much but and when we do we dont have seex too often casue

A. we live at home

B. The car isnt always cool

C. he doesnt want to do it and run kinda deal cause on of us has to take the long drive home during a week night

D. He tend to be late for work if we do it on a week night cause he sleeps in

 

NOw I saw him on friday night....i didnt stay long after dinner...we went out shopping after and at about 10 I went home cause he had to work Sat morning....NOw on sat he picked me up around 1pm...after work (he happened to work at a job site in my home town) anyways he proceeded to take a condom out of his pant pocket and put in in his car console where he keeps them. He kinda put it in and I was like what was that and hes like nothing kinda giggling with a smile.

 

Anyways he told me what it was and now Im like ok....

 

We dont have sex that often...he had to work the next day...he was kinda secretive about having it....

 

Ok now should I be worried....cause im freaking out inside....

 

I did talk to him and he was like why does that always come as the first thing in my head...and he did feel betrayed that after 1.5 yrs he said u dont trust me (which we talked about again and I told him how hurt I was in a past relationship) and did get a bit upset...i feel bad I upset him but I dont want to be played for a fool.

 

WHat are ur takes...he says he kept it in his pocket cause we went out in the work truck not his truck so he took one just in case we did.....

 

 

all i can say is help

[hugznkisses21]

ANYONE!!!!

[Pookette]

Has he ever given you any clues that he might be cheating? If not, then you have nothing to worry about. He was kinda giggling with a smile. and I think that means he was a little embarrassed about seeming overly eager about jumping your bones.

[hugznkisses21]

no no clues i guess...im sure in i think really hard and over analyze everything i can probably convince ,yself of some clues...ya maybe u are right...still worried

[Pookette]

If he lives at home, I'm sure the last thing he needs is his mom or whatever finding a condom in the pocket of his pants. Maybe he was thinking that too. I don't think you have anything to worry about, but as I don't know you or him, you'll have to trust your own judgement. If you're worried still, have another conversation with him, but don't blame him if he starts to get really pissed...He's already reassured you once on this, so maybe trust him a little? I know it's hard to trust again after being cheated on, but not all guys are like that. Above all, try to relax! You'll give yourself an ulcer.

[hugznkisses21]

good ingsight.

 

Thanks

I am trying hard to and I dont want to offend him by seeming like I dont trust "HIM" when it is for the most part a thing with me trusting in general. He does live at home so this is a factor I guess. I worry alot I know.

 

He doesnt show signs of cheating he says sweet things all the time tells me he loves me all the time...tells me details about his day....

 

Ofcourse my mind wandering thinking maybe he is a good lyer....my ex was....and i know it isnt fair to him to compare but Im a way I and feeling the after effects of the hurt i went through. I dont want to bring it up again cause he was hurt cause it isnt the first time I have been looking to him to reassure me im his only one. And he tells me I am all the time and did say if he was going to go to another girl he would tell me (as in he wont cheat if he felt we were going down hill he would break things off before huritn me) He tells me he wont hurt me so im a trying real hard to forget my hurt and trust in his word....its hard cause i have heard them before u know?