nicki Posted September 28, 2004 Share Posted September 28, 2004 I'm at my wits end and about ready to break up with my long distance boyfriend. We've been together 9 mos, the last 4 being long distance. There has been some emotional distance on his part. Whenever I call him on it, he says that he is just busy with work, etc...that it has nothing to do with me...but there have been other signs that i am not a priority...he has also never mentions the future anymore...and he NEVER seems insecure or worried at all about me going out (glad he trusts me, but no insecurities at all?) In fact, when i mentioned how hard LTRs can be, he said he really hadn't had time to "ponder it.".... Well, last weekend, he went out for a few drinks with a male work buddy. I also went out with some friends. Later on he called to say good night like he usually does. In his message, he said "We went to a movie" (or maybe "we just got back from a movie ..." ) I called him back and in conversation, I asked him how his friend liked the movie. He told me that his friend didn't go, that he went alone...I was confused and mentioned that he had said in his message "WE went to the movies."...he just said "Nope. I went alone. Okay, we hung up, and i just went on with my night...but then i got to thinking (ah, the evil things our minds do!) AND i thought, WAIT A MINUTE...maybe what we have here is a Freudian slip....I left a message for him, saying that I knew he said "WE" and that if something happened, i wanted to know about it...and if nothing happened that we needed to talk about why i didn't trust him... So, he left me a message saying that he loves me very much, doesn't have a reason to start something up with someone else, and that he must have been tired when he said that since it was after midnight when he got it... I just want to have complete info so I don't waste my time with someone who doesn't want to be with me...my gut is having a hard time telling me it's reaction due to the distance... Thoughts? Could it have been an innocent slip? and would he REALLY tell me if he is cheating? Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted September 28, 2004 Share Posted September 28, 2004 I have an LDR right now too but it has only been an LDR for 1 almost 2 months now and we have been together 7 months and its haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaard.. I don't have advice for you because I think the samethings and wory about the same thing you can read my posts...But if you ever need to chat you can PM me anytime... I get feelings about my bf too but then i ask him about it because we talk about everything but he says he loves me and wants to make it work soulmates blah blah blah so I really don't know what to tell you but to trust him.... If you love him trust him and talk to him....let me know what happens? Link to post Share on other sites
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