newguy23 Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 (edited) hey, i made a prev. post a while ago about a girl ive known a while in college that i kissed on the cheek last yr... i still think it just caught her by surprise, but she said she wanted to just be cool lately i've been helping her out a little bit to run errands, but not on some, im available whenever you need me type of thing lol... but now im realizing shes gonna be leaving for home in a few weeks and i wont ever see her again, and i really was thinking of asking if she could take my virginity... but it seems there is no way to ask that without being awkward ya know now it would be weird b/c shed think id be asking her for that in exchange for helping her out which is definitely not why... i always could trust her and shes pretty special to me and that's why i wanted to ask her... definitely wouldnt want to lose it to a random... im just here (for only the 2nd time) asking is there anyway to ask it in a non awkward way? if instead i just asked for a kiss before she left, would that be risky too? but i mean if i could only kiss her on the cheek, idk how much luck id have with this.... right now it seems like shed probably think itd ruin our friendship, but i mean obviously i dont wanna ruin it, but i do like her damn its always kinda weird coming back here lol, but any feedback would be great! Edited May 17, 2013 by newguy23
normal person Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 (edited) and i really was thinking of asking if she could take my virginity... but it seems there is no way to ask that without being awkward ya know now it would be weird b/c shed think id be asking her for that in exchange for helping her out which is definitely not why... i always could trust her and shes pretty special to me and that's why i wanted to ask her... definitely wouldnt want to lose it to a random... im just here (for only the 2nd time) asking is there anyway to ask it in a non awkward way? if instead i just asked for a kiss before she left, would that be risky too? but i mean if i could only kiss her on the cheek, idk how much luck id have with this.... right now it seems like shed probably think itd ruin our friendship, but i mean obviously i dont wanna ruin it, but i do like her damn its always kinda weird coming back here lol, but any feedback would be great! Sorry, I'm not trying to be a jerk, but she made it clear that she doesn't like you in that way so: 1). Why do you think it'd be any different now? 2). What would be so attractive about a guy who literally has to ask someone to take their virginity or even kiss them? By doing so, you're pretty much admitting that no one else finds you desirable and that you lack the necessary skills to get it done the conventional way. Not at all a good look. 3). What exactly do you think she has to gain by doing this other than looking/feeling like a slut? Why on Earth would she do it? It doesn't sound like you've thought about this at all from her perspective. go to your local Redneck bar, chat up a cutie you like, buy her drinks till she is floating and drive her home, you sober(for more than one reason) and then hit it like there's no tomorrow. If you do a good enough job, then you will have a girl calling you. This sounds a little too date-rapey for my tastes, but to each their own. Edited May 17, 2013 by normal person 1
Author newguy23 Posted May 17, 2013 Author Posted May 17, 2013 Sorry, I'm not trying to be a jerk, but she made it clear that she doesn't like you in that way so: 1). Why do you think it'd be any different now? 2). What would be so attractive about a guy who literally has to ask someone to take their virginity or even kiss them? By doing so, you're pretty much admitting that no one else finds you desirable and that you lack the necessary skills to get it done the conventional way. Not at all a good look. 3). What exactly do you think she has to gain by doing this other than looking/feeling like a slut? Why on Earth would she do it? It doesn't sound like you've thought about this at all from her perspective. This sounds a little too date-rapey for my tastes, but to each their own. nah i actually know what you mean... i mean ive been given the chance to lose it a few times, but it wasnt what i was about really, so its not like i lack the skills or anything.. im not trying to make her feel like shes obligated to at all, im not doing this b/c i think i deserve it or anything, i was only thinking of asking it b/c she actually means something to me
normal person Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 nah i actually know what you mean... i mean ive been given the chance to lose it a few times, but it wasnt what i was about really, so its not like i lack the skills or anything.. im not trying to make her feel like shes obligated to at all, im not doing this b/c i think i deserve it or anything, i was only thinking of asking it b/c she actually means something to me I understand, but if you (and I'm trying to put this in a nice way) don't mean something to her in that way, why would she do it? What would she have to gain other than feeling like a sex object to a guy she's not attracted to? I have friends who are girls who mean something to me and vice versa, but we aren't having sex. That's not really something you typically do with someone who's just a friend... especially one who seemed reluctant after you tried to kiss her. Believe me, this is a bad idea. 1
ooglesnboogles Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 I don't have any of the backstory here, but I think normal_person's advice is pretty good. If she's not feeling it that way, such gestures probably won't get you much success. Maybe if you were a star character in a sitcom... but I don't think it goes that way in real life (but what do I know?). Sorry to say it, but that's how I'd see it if I were in your shoes. If she's not into you, putting yourself out there will only end in disappointment and her feeling like she can't talk to you anymore.
will1988 Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 dafuq did I just read? Asking a girl to take your virginity, especially a female friend, is one of the most ill thought out schemes i've ever heard of! If this girl is a total loosey-goosey then by all means go for it and ask her, she may say yes. However, more than likely she is not virgin whisperer and will most likely not only shoot your proposal down but will probably give you a nice swat on the face and then run for the hills! It sucks you have a crush on a girl and she doesn't want to date you, let alone sleep with you, but we've all been there. If all you had to do was ask a girl for sex, and she would give you sex, then this world would be a much different place. If you want to lose your virginity so bad, go to your local bar, get plastered, hit on a girl... any girl really, and hope they take you home. Or you could ask this girl if she wants to go out or something. however, she has made it clear that that is not the case.
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