Danse Avec Moi Posted May 17, 2013 Share Posted May 17, 2013 I'm a recently divorced 37yr. old female and went out for a night of dancing. My life is very stressful and I enjoy dancing, socializing, flirting and the occasional make out with a random person to relieve stress and just enjoy life. I ended up just friendly chatting with a younger male (23) that I had no immediate sexual interest in. I typically immediately give the "no way it's gonna happen" vibe with anyone younger than me. I've always been attracted to "older men". We hung out all evening, he was sweet, attentive and possibly pursuing me. Yah, he was. When the bar closed we didn't want our night to end. A group of us decided to go to a friends boat and have some cocktails. My immediate response was "let's have fun and go skinny dipping"! The 23yr old was the only other one that was impulsive and eager to just have fun! At this point there had been no kissing. We swam, kissed in the water, layed on the dock naked- talking, kissing, just enjoying each other. We were out untill 5am. When we all decided to go our seperate ways I decided to take him home with me. I only made this decision after the successful chemistry kissing and the happiness with his size adequacy. I know good sex. I have had amazing sex with my ex and other lovers. I'm not naive or inhibited in the bedroom. I'm you ally confident in my sexuality. This young man rocked my world! We made love 3 times in 4 hours and I was brought to climax every time! We went our separate ways that afternoon and he asked me for my number. We hooked up again and it was equally as pleasurable. My problem is, I want him all the time. This whole experience has surprised me. I wasn't looking for a distraction or intimacy. I've been married and have not dated for 14 years. I have no idea how to navigate through this. Play hard to get? Wait for him to call me for hook ups? If I call him does it look desperate or needy? Or am I taking control of my sexuality and desires? How much is too much, where's the balance? Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted May 17, 2013 Share Posted May 17, 2013 Buy him a present and next time you see him for sex give it to him. Then he'll brag to all his friends about you being a cougar AND a sugar mama. Just enjoy!! Link to post Share on other sites
Standard-Fare Posted May 17, 2013 Share Posted May 17, 2013 Sounds fun but also something you need to be careful with so neither of you get too emotionally attached. Not that there's anything inherently wrong about a 37-year-old woman with a 23-year-old man, it just doesn't sound like the setup for a real "relationship." Yet sex, even when you intend it to be no strings attached, can make things so complicated. If I were you I'd treat it as an occasional booty call thing and make it totally clear to him that's all it's going to be. And you should try to be dating other people, etc., so this thing doesn't become the center of your life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted May 17, 2013 Share Posted May 17, 2013 You're surprised that the 23 year old was good in bed? Girl, he's at the top of his game. Why do you think so many men date younger men? Be careful that you don't get your heart broken. Link to post Share on other sites
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