WhiskeyJack Posted May 18, 2013 Share Posted May 18, 2013 I've always been told/read to trust your gut feelings but is it possible to have a gut feeling based off fear and past relationships? Not sure if that's clear but basically of the past 2 serious relationships I've had I've been cheat on numerous times by both guys. One I had no idea about any of it until someone else told me and he then admitted it. I left him immediately. The more recent one is a little out of the blue as well but I stayed and he did it several times after and I only ever caught on because of other people. I was very trusting I guess. But now it's like my mind is in over drive and looking for every possible clue that my boyfriend of 4.5 years is cheating on me. I constantly have a gut feeling he is. He has done nothing at all to suggest this and is completely wonderful to me. But sadly I can be overly jealous, not to the point it's harming our relationship but is annoying even to me. So is it possible to be so worried about it that I'm constantly getting this gut feeling for no reason except my insecurity? Link to post Share on other sites
Tinie Posted May 18, 2013 Share Posted May 18, 2013 Well, what has he done that would make you suspicious? Link to post Share on other sites
Author WhiskeyJack Posted May 18, 2013 Author Share Posted May 18, 2013 Well, what has he done that would make you suspicious? Really nothing that can't be explained. He works long hours as he own his own business so I'm alone a lot, but I knew that getting into this. And he has a lower sex drive than I do, but really that's not that big of a deal. I think just because I put so much trust in the other boys to have then betray me I don't want it to happen again. So I feel like if he was cheating I d need to know right away. I just want to stop feeling like this. Link to post Share on other sites
JBlackstone Posted May 19, 2013 Share Posted May 19, 2013 I know how you feel. My best advice to you and to myself is to trust until you have a reason not to. You cannot make your current boyfriend pay for mistakes others have made. Another thing that I find helpful is to remind yourself that you cannot control others and their actions. If he cheats, it is not a reflection on you, it is on his character and conscience, not yours. If you don't put a stop to the jealousy now, it will grow and it will cause problems. It always does. i know this from experience. I know this is easier said than done but try. Let the past go and focus on now. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
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