WanderedOff Posted May 18, 2013 Share Posted May 18, 2013 (edited) Okay...so I'm new here and need some help. I've been reading many threads and although I'm sure many people say "my story is different"...I REALLY think mine is. Anyhow here it is... I met my MM twelve years ago at work. I'm in this forum, so we all know this led to that and here I am...In these twelve years I can say that we've had sex no more times than I can count on my two hands. We've done "everything, but that" plenty more times. MM has officially tried NC once, which last about 8 months. I say officially because for some reason last year he dropped off the face of the earth and I didn't hear from him. Sorry if I'm jumping back and forth here. I'm not M, however I have lived with my SO for 17 years. MM has been M for 17 years as well. I have one child, he has four. This is why I think my story is different. In these past twelve years (aside from the time we worked with eachother because we would talk for hours upon hours at work and after work for about a year) our phone calls are VERY sporadic...that is, until recently. So this year, at the end of January, Martin Luther King, Jr. Day Holiday to be exact, he called out of the blue. We've met up twice since January. The difference this time around is that he's been calling me every week which is rare for him. That is where I'm confused cause like I said, in the past, we've never talked every single week, except for when we worked together. Also, everything just feels different, like we're closer now than we have been in the past...I read posts from others and I would think that they are having an A...this thing we have...I'm confused...After twelve years...what is this? Are we FWB...just "booty calls"...EA? More??? Feel free to ask questions, because as I said, I'm new here and I'm not really sure what to post. Anyone else in this type of situation? Edited May 18, 2013 by WanderedOff Link to post Share on other sites
Author WanderedOff Posted May 18, 2013 Author Share Posted May 18, 2013 Hi Alexandria35. Thanks for the reply. Sorry for the possible misuse of the word "different". What I meant by being different is that I haven't read many situations like the one that I have. That's why I'm confused as to what "this" is. We don't ever use ILYs, talk/text/email everyday, never talk that homelife is horrible, never talk about leaving, don't talk about the "what ifs", etc. I think I'm confused now because now we talk more often and we've seen eachother twice. In the past we've agreed that "once a year" is okay, but it's like we want to see eachother more often now. Maybe I'm making something out of nothing... Link to post Share on other sites
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